I am 14 (turning 15 soon) Up until now I have never eally wanted to get married and have kids when I got older. Is it okay for a 14 year old to want to get married and have kids? (not now, but later on, after college). Most of my friends that are girls don't want to have kids when they get older and I only have a few friends that want to have kids and most of them are guys and maybe 1 or 2 are girls.
2006-10-11 07:26:50 · 20 answers · asked by masterurownmind 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There's nothing wrong with thinking that way. Everybody has different opinions, not everyone thinks the same. When your friends get older they'll start to think different.
2006-10-11 07:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by "B" 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get uptight about it. Many of your friends, sooner or later, will realize that they want to have kids, especially if they meet someone who would be willing to make a lifelong commitment to them. In some people, it just takes longer to develop. On the other hand, there isn't anything wrong with those who don't want to have kids either. It is an individual thing and not for everyone. Don't try to grow up too fast. Enjoy being a kid while you can. It is admirable that you would wait until after college to have kids. Many rush into it before they are ready. Hang in there.
2006-10-11 14:35:06 · answer #2 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think something is wrong with your friends, not you. Many girls want families (or at least they used to). Many of your friends will change their minds as they get older, I predict, almost with certainty.
Perhaps, you had better role models as parents in what a good marriage looks like or grandparents etc that have pretty good marriages and they don't...that makes a big difference...
Maybe you have had better experiences with kids in general.
Maybe you are more nurturing or feminine or have a temperament more conducive to wanting this in your life. The temperament we are born with makes a big difference in our traits and how we react and see the world..It influences our good and bad things in every part of life. People are different.
The important thing is you wait until much later to do this and to have sex. Get this book on Amazon you will be glad you did. I only wish I had seen this book when I was a teen..and knew the many, many reasons it was in my best interest to wait till I was older for sex. Please get it..try at the library maybe.
Be aware that if some boys know your desire they may use them to manipulate you into having sex or even go so far as to lie and say they love you. This is how many boys are and boys do talk...so be on the lookout..
2006-10-11 15:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by janie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im 16 and its normal to start thinking that way. Your getting older and starting to think about the future more. You know soon your gonna be out on your own and eventually have kids because altough many teens say they dont want kids they do anyway. Its very normal dont freak out. Just dont have kids now! Dont screw up your life and kids are not a screw up they are a blessing but everything has a time, live your life right now ;)
2006-10-11 14:32:07 · answer #4 · answered by FishyFace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothing wrong with it. Just be sure that you continue with school for as long as it takes to be able to help support a family along with your spouse. You have plenty of time to think about a school and a career, and you must be a mature individual to be thinking ahead and wanting to get married and have kids. First things first. . . get through school, hopefully college, get a good job, and then get married and have a family. Much success to you!
2006-10-11 14:33:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did not want to have kids or get married when I was your age either, but now I am 25 and have a husband and child and could not imagine my life without them. I think I felt that way when I was young because I did not like myself and I did not think anyone else would so I felt I would never get married.
2006-10-11 14:31:47 · answer #6 · answered by rosie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not think of "what will I become when I graduate in HS? Will I go to college? Will I pass my SAT's? Will I just get a job flipping burgers or brewing coffee or cappucino? I suggest you not to think of getting married until you finish college with a professional job where you can provide yourself a place of your own and then build a family. There is nothing wrong of you thinking the way your thinking. You're may be curious, You think Smart! Think of Teenage pregnancies, Teenage mothers, it's not OK.
2006-10-11 14:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by Cindy R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Research has proved that if you wait til after you have a career to have kids you will probably have more money to spend on them and be a more patient mom cause you will already know who you are and what you want to be by then.that being said ONLY you can decide what is right and best for you,nobody is a carbon copy of someone else,and you will and should do what is right for you,not just what your friends think is right for you.
2006-10-11 14:32:56 · answer #8 · answered by jeanette98070 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course it is okay to want to get married and have children in the future.....that is a personal choice...it is not for everyone....a lot will change in your life in the next ten years and will continue to change....but when your older you will be able to make the choice that is right for you and I guarentee that it will not have anything to do with what your friends say or do.
2006-10-11 14:33:16 · answer #9 · answered by klnavillus 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is what you want NOW... things change. You can't predict the future. It is never wrong to have dreams, hopes, goals, etc. Kids your age are exactly that-- KIDS! Most of them aren't thinking about family. If that's what you hope for, then I wish you the best! I don't see anything wrong with that.
2006-10-11 14:41:36 · answer #10 · answered by Nicky G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋