I don't know what to do, wife doesn't want sex, this woman does, is it ok to cheat this one time?
2006-10-11 07:20:55 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
As additional info my wife has not enjoyed sex since the birth of our son many years ago. We went for counseling and she refused to do the things the doctor told us. Things got better, then worse. I have had to talk my wife into having sex for the last 10 years. She does not want it, is it my fault? I don't know, I have done everything in different positions and oral sex but she still is cold to sex. I do not take my vows lightly but I am at my wits end.
2006-10-11 08:30:22 · update #1
Hit it!
2006-10-11 07:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by carolinatinpan 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
No, that is called adultry. Do not even go there. What kind of woman would hit on a man she KNOWS is married? Not a good one, that is for sure. As to your sex life with your wife, that is what needs to be addressed with your wife TOGETHER. Perhaps some counseling would help the situation. First I would certainly tell your wife that this woman is hitting on you and that you really need to have a nice, calm conversation as to what you both can do to better your sex life WITHIN your marriage!
2006-10-11 07:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by Royallady1947 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never cheat. Would your wife want you to cheat? Just because she is not into sex right now (maybe you should be a gentleman and ask her why), doesn't mean you have to pull down your pants and hand out your genitals to anyone willing to sleep with you.
Why did you even bother getting married? I can't stress enough that marriage is not for everyone.
Maybe your wife is going through a tough time. Has she been to the Gyn to get checked out?
2006-10-11 07:25:30 · answer #3 · answered by Just a Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a lot to consider here...
1. Is your marriage, all the years and experiences you two have shared together, worth throwing away for a sexual experience outside of your marriage if you got caught?
2. Maybe you're not getting any because you're finds you predictable, not romantic enough, or not trying hard enough. If our minds aren't in it, then our bodies aren't in it.
3. If you sleep with your neighbor, you're giving her the green light to bring drama into your life. What if she wants more (other than sex) from you? What if she gets angry with you for some reason and tells your wife about her and you?
What's more worthy of your time...a quick F*@k or working with your wife to patch this dry spell with her?
2006-10-11 07:58:23 · answer #4 · answered by emmie8750 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, if you want to be a total jerk and end your marriage.
Tell your wife how you feel and ask her to go to counseling or to her doctor. Sometimes lack of sex drive can be due to depression or a physical issue, suck as a chemical imbalance.
How bad would you feel if your wife was having some issue like that and you went and cheated.
2006-10-11 07:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by Shaken Not Stirred 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So let me get this straight............You are saying that up until 3 months ago your marriage has been based on sex only? Is that correct? What a shame......Maybe that is what's wrong! There is more to a marriage than sex you know. Oh maybe you don't really know....Sorry for your wife.........You'r an adult...Do what you will...........All those years wasted........NOW that you aadded more details here is the problem ...Your wife can't help it.........It is simply hormonal...The only way to help her is maybe birth control pills..If she is on them now, they may be the wrong kind. Good luck.....Try to stay together and get help b/4 split....
2006-10-11 07:27:03 · answer #6 · answered by mom of a boy and girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what is the highest value in your relationship with your wife ? eg. do you love the fact that she's 'there all the time' henced trust - hers in you and yours in her - and what would happen if you broke that ? would you mind ?
It makes me sick that ANY person who's laying next to / cuddling someone, and saying, while what IS o so close (in our heightened godly nakedness, "I love you, its only you " etc
when the sayer knows its a bare skinned, human-to-human LIE.
I'm not judging your situation - sometimes it IS best to have that outside constraints encounter, if (ideally huh, us crappy humans) could consider exactly WHAT we wan6t (prosi would do?) , or a GOOD CONVO / engineered sex session with your partner ?
Or, do you think that by going with this other person she's going to open up a whole new life for you ??
If it's a self esteem (+sex-grat) that you want , perhaps do two things - join a kind of (non-dating-yet sociable) cluub and add to it completely non-emotional sexual pleasures via the detached professionals ?
2006-10-11 07:35:01 · answer #7 · answered by Lalalahooah D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but I think you should go have some good sex with the neighbor. Just make sure you don't get caught.
We only live once, and those types of opportunities don't occur as often as we'd like them too.
Also, if your wife doesn't want sex, it's possible she's already having an affair herself...
2006-10-11 07:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by Ghostman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely. I think your wife is probably cheating on you. Just make sure your wife doesnt find out. And, suggest that you go somewhere for swinging spouces. Its a place where married people have sex with each other. You can find a place online by typing in a search engine (swinging spouces in (your zip code).
2006-10-11 07:24:50 · answer #9 · answered by knowitall 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you know that cheating is wrong do it if your wife means nothing to you if you don't love her and if your okay with hurting her and ending your way of life as you know it. maybe you need to romance your wife Little more. women are simulated mentally while men are simulated pyhsical. cheat if you want to lose your wife. if you love her find a way of showing it outside the bedroom then you might get more in the bedroom
2006-10-11 07:25:01 · answer #10 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, because you will open one of the biggest can of worms you have ever encountered. My bet is that it will not be limited to "this one time". And you have to live with yourself.
I don't know about your wedding vows, but mine said "For better or worse"...
Talk to your wife, see a good counselor.
2006-10-11 07:24:19 · answer #11 · answered by tantiemeg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋