I think my husband is cheating I want to get even.?

Question

He comes home from work and leaves again and on the weekends he is surely not home what should I do? I want revenge this isn't fair.

I tried talking it does not work now it's time for his own medicine

Answer 1

Since you're married, aren't you supposed to handle things maturely? Revenge is immature.

Plus, wouldn't it suck if he really wasn't cheating while you did?

What happened to conversation (talking to him about it)?

Answer 2

If your husband is cheating revenge is not going to sweeten the pot. The best revenge is moving on without him, not grieving the loss of your relationship through betrayal, not giving him the satisfaction of seeing you torn apart due to his betrayal and most importantly having a smooth transition without him into the single life.

Two wrongs don't make a right - not in this lifetime. Suck up the pain and don't be catty. Just come to terms with it, check into an inexpensive detective agency - they are very cheap nowadays and some specialize in extramarital relations. If you can possible act civil, keeping him from getting wind of your own deception, wait until you have ironclad evidence to present at family court and start proceedings against 1) the other woman - for alienation of affection and 2) your husband for infidelity. Rather than play cat and mouse games announce to him that you want a divorce on the grounds of infidelity. Ask him to leave. He'll be so relieved thinking he can now be with his girlfriend in the open, not realizing that she will also be the focal point of your divorce proceedings. With "alienation of affection" cases you are literally suing the other woman for coming between your husband and you. You can seek alimony from your husband if he makes equal or more money than you. To me, that is a perfect revenge, but is also a reasonable recourse under the circumstances.

Answer 3

You aren't SURE he's cheating you only think he is. How about asking him directly I mean that is your spouse right? People are so quick to always assume the worst and revenge is always first to come to mind. Maybe that should be a wake up call that he could be getting tired of his marriage and either way you do have the right to ask those questions. If it can be saved I suggest counseling and if it can't then be prepared to cut the ties. Don't cheat on him because you'd feel foolish if he was not doing what you accuse him of then the trust issue would be reversed and you may loose you marriage all together. Think about it sweetie don't just act on emotional impulses. You could always leave if you feel that strongly that he could be cheating and settle things in court. Just make sure you have proof to back up your claims!

Answer 4

You think he's cheating? If you want him to realize what he has, then it's important to keep that intact. Your integrity is a huge part of who you are, and one of the biggest reasons for him to appreciate you. To stoop to the level of vengeful actions just makes you like everyone else. You aren't separating yourself from the women he's cheating with if you turn around and cheat as well. In some way, you are just condoning their behavior.

Real revenge is long-term, and won't be something you see or feel very fast. But I say, stay true. That way you know you can always know you were the bigger person. Just know that his cheating isn't because you are lacking in anything, but because he is. Hold onto your self-esteem and poise, and find a happy life despite his actions.

Answer 5

don't get revenge, two wrongs don't make it right. Sit down and ask him what is going on, that your tired of being home by yourself. Tell him ii he wants to be with someone else then go ahead, no great loss on your part. One night when he comes home, tell him that you are going out, be dressed and go. You need some time for you, even if It's\t' to go looking in the stores, let him wonder where you are and what you are doing, let him see how it feels and see if he says anything to you when you get home. Meet some friends and take a night out of the week to go places with them, keep your mind occupied. Or ask him how about takling me out one of these nights with you so I can see what is so interesting, tell him that he can have a good time with you too.

Answer 6

I will pray for you to have peace upon your heart. No, it does not feel good when you have invested your time and soul into someone that breaks your heart. But, first do you know he really is cheating? You see, I made a mistake early on in my marriage and assumed my husband was cheating, when he was actually planning a surprise party. If he is cheating, there is nothing wrong with going to counseling and trying to work it out, if that is what you both want. But, if he is cheating and it is not going to work out, don't be angry. In 1st Corinthians in the bible God lets you know when a spouse "unbeliever" leaves, He(God) is calling you to peace, because He(God) knows the hurt you are going through and He(God) is removing that person from your life for you to be happy. God Bless and I will be praying for you.

Answer 7

Getting even is very immature. You said I think my husband is cheating. So, you don't really know for sure what he is doing or where he is. Why don't you two sit down and have a chat I mean communicate.

If you find out he is cheating then he is totally not worth it and maybe you should just walk out of the relationship and find someone who is trusting and loyal to you.

Sorry about you relationship and hope everything goes your way.

Take care and God Bless You

Answer 8

How you feel is natural. If you do something to get even it will only make feel like "now were even". Instead, jsut find out if he is cheating on you. Ask him, follow him, read his email, listen to his voice mail. Nothing is off limits. He is your husband. There is no privacy from you. Is he thought you were cheating wouldn't he look into it? If it turns out he is cheating decide what to do then, but don't just go forward with the marriage with out help. If that is what you do, there should be counciling and accountability for what her has done.

Answer 9

Wow, so many things you could do! But to be a better person and a role-model for your kids, don't cheat. That is very unladylike. Instead talk to your husband, confront him. If admits, tell him to stop or you are gone. You do know that cheating is grounds for a divorce! You could aslo just leave, no questions asked. If he is cheating, and you leave, he'll soon figure out why. But don't cheat, who knows what you could catch, or even worse, what if the person you are cheating with is married w/kids?

Answer 10

Getting revenge isn't the right thing, you need to sit down and talk to him. Remember your vowels? If you do seek revenge, he will then too and the mess will just escalate and you really don't want that. Remember you guys are suppose to be a team not one against another.

Answer 11

Key word Sweetie...... you T-H-I-N-K he's cheating!

You need proof prior to making a complete fool out of yourself. Get physical proof first. And why is getting even an option. How old are you? Let's be grown up about this. Let's say you get the proof that he's cheating. First you need to decide how to approach the matter: confront him vs. just kick his ask out.

Then you have to decide what to do with yourself: Work it out vs, Bounce on his ask. If anything you should be concerned about what is making him act so foolishly. Is it something you can do differently, you have to be prepared to except the roll you played in his stepping out! Oh..what............you thought you hold no blame in his dumb ask behavior.....WRONG. Don't get me wrong, he's an ask if he's cheating, but you played a role in why he felt that cheating was an option.

Know this: Men are BIG ASK BABIES, that require alot of attention. You really gotta be on your J-O-B in the bedroom, and also providing him with emotional support, respect, praise, and admiration.