Your man is the one in a committed relationship with you not her so why is it that women get mad at the other woman and forgive the man?
2006-10-11 07:03:36 · 20 answers · asked by mentalchallenge 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
They're stupid ... I've never understood that one ... it's their man cheating ... not the woman ... I've been with a guy before and didn't even know he was married ... had a crazy b*tch at my house yelling and screaming ... I had no idea who she was or why she was there ... so I have been that "other" woman and didn't even know it ... !
2006-10-11 07:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it's easier to blame the woman for tempting the man rather than dealing with the fact that the man made a choice to do what he did. Women feel that somehow it may have been their fault that their man cheated in the first place. Not always the case though.
2006-10-11 07:07:01 · answer #2 · answered by mizkecia1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know that a guy is married and you agree to be a part of "dating" that man in a situation where he would NOT tell his wife, then you are complying with adultery. You have the strength to say NO and if I were the wife I would be angry too. She sees you as a threat to her home, her family, and even her economic well being. She does not know whether you are special in some way, or whether her husband/boyfriend would have wandered regardless. She sees you as a temptress, and a threat. Plus you are the first one she contacted to confirm the situation. How do you know that the wife isn't just as angry with her spouse? The ONLY time a woman should be out with a man who is married or committed is when both of them can report the event to the spouse. A work situation, charity, old school chums all fall into this category but only if he (or she) can say "I had lunch with XXX today."
2016-03-28 05:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easier to blame someone you don't know rather than someone you have a relationship with. Then you have to question what you did/didn't do to drive him into the arms of someone else. Easier to place blame on the unknown for enticing away your mate than to take possible responsibility for sending him there in the first place. Easier to forgive the man because there's history there, as well as some kind of comfort/stability/security that would be threatened if his actions were not forgiven.
Counselling can help get you through this if you want it bad enough.
2006-10-11 07:31:04 · answer #4 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its something I dont understand, maybe many years ago when it was rare for a woman to work outside of the home, and the man was to sole provider, nothing was said to lose the marriage, because he was the meal ticket,
And there's the double standard
I think that attitude has enabled the cheaters, he's a stud, but she's a slut..
many times the other women has no clue she is the "other women"
and it maybe easier to blame someone you do not have to deal with, (denial)
2006-10-11 07:15:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for some reason some women think the other woman is the problem and if she goes away everything will be fine,or they think that their man likes this other woman better and maybe he thinks she's better than you.the actual reason a man cheats on a good woman is he is of low morals and has no character.A strong man who loves and respects his woman can turn down any offer of sexual contact with some one other than their own partner.women do it everyday,i know i do, men are always trying to pick me up and offer me dates and i have a man and turn them down.anyone who respects their self and their relationship can be faithful.there is no such thing as a man has to have it with anybody that offers whether his girl is in town or not, CHARACTER that's what counts.
2006-10-11 07:13:14 · answer #6 · answered by punkin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you that it is ridiculous that women blame the wrong party.
Maybe we do that because blaming it on the man is like admitting that we are the ones that made the bad choice in the relationship.
Or maybe it's because we as women have higher standards for other women, or we know what women will do to get the men that they want.
2006-10-11 07:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with this theory... when a man cheats the first thing women look for is the other woman to blame.. when that happend to me what I did was tell the other woman ohhhh you can have his ***.. now you be the wife and *****, I'll be the lover and that is how we end up and then she was pisted at me for screwing her man... and yes this was fun for me. and today I have my husband back and the daughter they had together.. cause she turned out to be a real dead beat mom..she is now married to another man and the baby he had with a friend of mines is now my goddaughter.so I think I speak for all the wives in the world when I say HA HA HA HA HA..... and now my husband changed he loves me and appreciated me more than ever I had left to another state and he went looking for me we now are a happy couple we comunicate, we spent all of our time together and we're raising a beutiful family we have three kids together.This is a true happy ever ending story.
2006-10-11 07:20:33 · answer #8 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is truly blind. Instead of a woman looking at her man and saying, "how could you do this to me?, she would much rather blame the other woman because this woman invaded their relationship. So many times the people we love can do no wrong in our eyes.
2006-10-11 07:15:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beats the sh*t out of me. If I had to take a guess I would say that is how they reason in their head to stay with the guy. I dont understand why they think other women need to police their men. Even if the girl knows about you its still the guy that is at fault in my opinion.
2006-10-11 07:07:58 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋