We used to go out about 5 years ago and i wasnt very responsible. I was 18 and i was experimenting with drugs and his parents hated me for that. We have been back together for a year now...and we are trying to get pregnant...i want him to tell his Mother that we are back together...
Am i wrong?
Should he tell his Mother?
Im a completely differant person than i was 5 years ago and i love him very much.
2006-10-11 06:57:37 · 35 answers · asked by Sum12Love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We got married already 5 years ago...we are still legally married.
2006-10-11 07:02:45 · update #1
I think if he wants to be with you that he SHOULD tell his mother. who cares what u did in the past if he is okay with it that should be good enough for them. If u are trying to have children together you and his family should at lease be cordial to each other. because once u have that child you guys will be bonded for life. Tell him before u guys start having kids he needs to man up and tell his mom. and that no matter what she says you two are together and that is that.
2006-10-11 07:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by mekhia81 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Umm well for starters what made you guys separate in the first place? Most people are never able to completely ignore the problems in the past and end up feeling angry at the other person all over again. You should probably hold off on having a kid for a few more years to make sure every thing is really good to go. I had a friend who got cleaned up had a kid got all stressed out after a year and went right back to the drugs. Parents see a troubled past and a kid coming into the mix makes them think great now when they break up again we will have to take care of a kid. Make sure that you two are standing on firm ground that can support the child not only including money but a happy drug free couple. Nothing is worse for a kid then being in an unhappy household. If you guys are both hard working and show the parents threw time that you guys have your acts together they will turn around and start to like you a lot more it just takes time more then a year after a break up. Good Luck
2006-10-11 07:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by Chivalry77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww well 1st of all I'm glad to know that your better... But hmm why don't you BOTH set up a day and time when you know his mom is going to be at home and alone and just drop by without her knowing and tell her together that way it wont be hard for him to tell her by himself and you can explain to her how you've changed and that was the past and she don't need to forget about it but at least forgive you!.. And then say that your sorry you even put yourself into that situation and that now your ready to be with her son and ready to start a family.. be real and let her know that your being honest and that you are more mature and ready... talk to her as your talking to your mom/sister/friend ...you know don't be nervous but she try to be close with her because a mother n law loves her son and sometimes its hard to give your child to someone you think is not good ...but let her know that you are good even in health wise.... hope you understand and you know now what to do...But i hope your gonna ger married b4 bring that baby into this earth bc thats the only way hes mom will know that you are truly ready bc if u dont shes gonna think "ohh she wants a baby now so thats gonna make me think shes changed" get married 1st....Do it thru court if u dont want a big thing
Good LuCk Girl! :)
2006-10-11 07:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I feel that if the two of you are in a serious and committed relationship then by all means he should tell his mother about his decision. Then if the two of you are trying to start a family together, why not get married first. You did say that you have changed so show him as well as his mother that you are a changed woman. We all have things in our past as well as our present that we are not pleased with, God is the only one that we should worry about pleasing. So do yourself a favor, tell your man it's time he step up and acknowledge you and then do right by you by marrying you.
2006-10-11 07:05:28 · answer #4 · answered by blackbutterfly413 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the reason, when you was with him you was experimenting with drugs and they don't want no drug addict for his wife. Think about it, you wouldn't want some that is experimenting with drugs with your son. If you are a complete different person then you both need to confront them at the same time, sit them down and explain to them your situations now. They just don't want their son experimenting with drugs. That is how parents are, they love their child and I know yours do to. Let his parents know that you are a change person and you want to be with their son and you love him very much and there is nothing they should worry about. I will tell you it will take sometime for them to accept the fact when it comes to someone that has being doing drugs.
2006-10-11 07:04:17 · answer #5 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 21:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Especially if you two are going to share a child together you might want to prepare her ahead of time that your together. If you guys love each other then it shouldn't really matter even what his mom thinks. You should just tell her and be honest w/ her cause she will appreciate the honesty instead of finding out later.
2006-10-11 07:00:55 · answer #7 · answered by elbellasera 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he should tell his mom cuz you guys sound serious about your relationship. He could tell her how much you've changed and how much he luvs you. But trying to conceive without getting married first? This is a child you're talking about. He/she deserves a mother and father that are committed to each other.
2006-10-11 07:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not responsible enough to share your relationshipwith his own parents; what's to say he won't be responsible for the child.
It sounds like he hasn't even grown up mentally/emotionally enough yet to take responsibility for a baby. He can't even face his own parents yet and is "hiding behind their backs" like a sneaky child on your relationship with him.
Sounds like you yourself needs a little growing up to do yourself. Please, don't bring a child in to this world until you've stabilized your own life more than it is now. Go get a better education, work, stabilize your income, and get a better man for yourself.
2006-10-11 07:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First get married before you go and pop out a baby that your man wont even tell his mom who he is dating.
Ok so you say you are married...well I wouldnt even think about having a kid till his parents know you are together again. Do you think his mom would be comfortable having a grandchild and not know who the mother is?
2006-10-11 06:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by NOIZE 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋