His wife finally knows. He doesn't want it to stop, my friend is undecided. The wife is upset, but this couple seems unlikely to divorce and get along despite the affair. What should this threesome do?
2006-10-11 06:56:36 · 25 answers · asked by tarro 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's sad to read these answers calling the other woman names and saying she has no morals.
I had an affair with my current husband for 4 years.
He wasn't using me, he just didn't know how to get out of a bad marriage.
Well, he did and we have been married for 9 happy years.
Stop judging people.
Now if I were your friend, I would want to do some very deep soul-searching to decide what she wants to do from this point. I know the pain she is going through and it is so very difficult.
2006-10-11 07:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly why would your friend want to continue with a relationship that has no real future? If the married couple has no intention to divorce then what kind of future could your friend possibly have with a married man besides part time? What could that man possibly offer your friend if his ties are elsewhere? That man and wife made vows to be together and beyond moral it gets legal! In some states the adultress could get sued by the spouse who got cheated on. But ultimately why would your friend be with someone who isn't 100% commited to her? She should end the affair b/c it's truly not her place to decide or influence in the affairs of two married people. It's in her best interest anyway! If you care about your friend you should tell her b/c in the long run she's just going to get hurt. Anyone who will cheat on someone with you can very well do it to you! Hope i've helped!
2006-10-11 07:08:42 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God takes marriage very seriously, so serious that adultery is up there for a divorce. This is not your battle, however, you can pray for God to give the wife strength to make a wise decision, pray for the husband to repent to God and ask his wife for forgiveness and pray for your friend to think more of herself as a woman. Some woman choose low men because they don't think much of themselves, like they can't get someone or deserve better than what they have. My prayers are with you all. God Bless
2006-10-11 07:11:06 · answer #3 · answered by Selah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on what your friend is getting out of the relationship. If she's in it for the free, easy, no-strings sex, then, given that the man's wife doesn't care, she might as well keep on doing what she's doing. If she is expecting to have a future with the man, however, she needs to open her eyes to the understanding that it's not going to happen, and move on, this time to a man who is available.
2006-10-11 07:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously they shouldn't have even started this affair! Shame on them! Where are their morals?
However...it's not your place to be getting into the middle of all this. .
Your close friend is making her own decisions and obvously doesn't care about the sanctity of marriage or the lines she's crossed.
It's your choice to continue to "support" her... or you can cut yourself from the craziness and focus on something more uplifting!
2006-10-11 07:06:27 · answer #5 · answered by InnerBeauty28 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your friend not realise that she is being used by this man. He obviously is not going to leave his wife for her. Your friend should butt out and get a life. She must also remember, that you should do unto others as you would have them do to you. the wheel will turn one day.
2006-10-11 07:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by Vonnie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wife is to good for the husband or to much of a fool. The husband does not deserve the wife and if your friend deals with him she will be no good if she finally finds a good man.
Your friend should deal with him only if she wants him to disrespect her as much as he does his wife.
2006-10-11 07:00:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to leave the married man and let him a and his wife work things out. she has no business in their business. she could be in a lot of trouble if she decides to press charges. she can do thst if she gets enough evidence about the affair.
2006-10-11 07:37:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hurtful as it is, good that it is out in the open....especially if there is family involved
for you see, one of the things least remembered when someone becomes involved in an affair is - that you(two) are not the only ones involved or hurt
if this couple is able to work things out - your friend needs to back off ---
for in reality he did not respect her much anyway, for involving her in such as this
truth is truth
2006-10-11 07:00:57 · answer #9 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your friend that one day when all this is over and she's moved on with her life,she'll probably get married and have a family and this affair will come back to haunt her.what goes around comes back around.she is intruding on another woman's marriage, what ever their problem is ,she shouldn't be a part of it,that is wrong.
2006-10-11 07:01:02 · answer #10 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋