me and my boyfriend broke up about 4 days ago and we still talk on the phone like friends. he said that he doesnt want a girlfriend but he still loves me!!! so what things can i do or say to get him to come back to me??? we might go to the movies this weekend if he doesnt have to work!!! i only want honest answers please!!!
2006-10-11 06:53:03 · 12 answers · asked by mustangsweetthing 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OK, I've been THERE before, and honestly, the absolute worst thing you can do in this situation with him is to continue seeing him as "just friends." First of all, this cements the idea in his head that you are cool with just being his friend, and he can have his cake and eat it too. Secondly, if you want him back (as you obviously do), you're basically twisting the dagger in your heart every time you see him and he acts like he doesn't want to be your boyfriend anymore. It's easy to think that seeing him all the time in date-like scenarios will cause him to remember exactly why you are such a great girlfriend, but it really has the opposite effect on him. He's like, "Oh, awesome! I get to hang out with THIS great girl, AND I get to see other people too!!!" Trust me, this is going to hurt you. A lot. My advice: make a clean break, tell him you just can't be around him right now, and wait for him to call YOU and beg your forgiveness.
2006-10-11 07:01:57 · answer #1 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as said you cant make him do anything but if he is still taking the time to talk and hang out with you it could be possible that he still has feelings for you the friends things after being in a relationship never works. Be upfront and ask him see what he says this way you can either move on together....or on your own
2006-10-11 13:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by tumama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop what you're doing right now. He broke up with you, so why even bother on someone who obviously feels that you aren't worth his time? I mean I don't know his reasoning behind the break up but if it was meant to be it will happen on its own. Why would you want a relationship that is based on manipulative tactics to get him back rather then letting him realize what he had and allowing for things to happen naturally? I mean he had to have some sort of reasoning behind it and I think you need to give it some time rather then being so impulsive trying to get your own needs met.
2006-10-11 13:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he does still love you, but as a friend, not a girlfriend. You are probably still in love with him so you need too break off from this relationship with him. He may be telling you that he doesn't want a girlfriend but in reality he is probably either seeing someone new or has his eye on one. He is probably just trying too spare your feelings.Alos, he may want too keep you "in love" with him so that you won't run out and find someone new just in case his next relationship isn't what he expected. Believe me..end this...NOW.
2006-10-11 13:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want your man back?? then this is what you do.. I have to tell you you have to take this risk, the way you do it is dont act desperate,if he is not rushing back to the relationship simply go on with your life.If he ask you out you go out with him but remember until he doesnt ask you back noooooo sexxxxxxxxx cause you are just friends,Im asuming you guys have had sex.. anyways the best way is to let him see you are not love dependant you can depend on your self and if he can see that your the girl for him then you really dont need him,if he tells you he is going to call and he doesnt well you dont call him,go for walks breathe go do things that are good for you.. maybe at the end he is going to be begging for you while you find your self thinking is this is what I need for me?? believe me when you see your self in this type of things the best thing for you is to think about your own sanaty and dignity those are things you have to fetch for your self no ones is going to give you that and dignity and sanaty are qualities found only in good strong down to earth women. Be one of us. dont be weak you can leave with out a man,let him come to you,believe me it works. good luck.
2006-10-11 14:36:05 · answer #5 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is only about friendship right now that is just how things go sometimes. If you want to stay just friends do so but don't push to get him back or you will push him all the way away.
2006-10-11 13:56:20 · answer #6 · answered by jusme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you break up in the first place? You might want to play it cool for a little bit if he is the one who broke things off, you don't want to seem desperate.
2006-10-11 13:56:23 · answer #7 · answered by webster1305 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly.....Move on. It's going to hurt but you will eventually get over it. Trust me. I had to make some of the same decisions when i was younger. All of them are gone. You want an honest answer...MOVE ON>
2006-10-11 13:55:36 · answer #8 · answered by i have a taste for waffles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex told me same thing - 6 months on we are still 'just friends'. Oh, his new girlfriend is 3 mths pregnant now!!!!!
2006-10-11 13:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL, IF HE ONLY WANTS TO BE FRIENDS RIGHT NOW YOU NEED TO RESPECT THAT AND JUST BE FRIENDS RIGHT NOW..WHO KNOWS GIVE IT SOME TIME AND IT MAY ALL GO BACK TO THE WAY IT WAS! GOOD LUCK !!!!!
2006-10-11 13:56:41 · answer #10 · answered by JACKIE M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋