I am married and have a kid and feeling that i am falling in love with another guy, he is 15years elder to me married and have kids also. I love my husband and my kid a lot, but some how i enjoy talking with him, its like i am myself when i am with him, its not a sexual inclination but i love to be around him. I know my limitations and responsibilty. we dont meet very regularly, but i cherish every moment I spend with him. I can share all my problems and fears and happiness with him. As of now I am happy with this friendship (a lot more than just friendship) Is there something to feel guilty about?
2006-10-11 06:41:25 · 12 answers · asked by twinkle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
naturally guilt will set in a little bit, but like you said, you know your limitations and hopefully will not take it further. also, you may think you love this man because he is giving you something in your life that your husband is not supplying for you. instead of perhaps ruining your relationship if things to progress with the new guy you should think about discussing what you need and lack with your husband. i do not think it is possible to really be in love with two people at a time. sometimes deep connecting friendship can be miscontrued as love. you are not lusting after to him so it isn't just sexual. i think you are just finding something new and exciting that takes you away from your daily responsibilities and that is nice. you already seem to feel guilty though. maybe you should tell your husband about this friendship? all i can say, is think about what you really want who may be hurt by your actions.
2006-10-11 06:46:06 · answer #1 · answered by cheekybrit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are missing this thing with your husband. I think that the new guy is just new and makes you feel alive again(which your husband isn't doing). If the new guy and you have fooled around already then maybe your just looking for a way out. The new guy might not have the same feelings you have either. He probably says he does just to keep the situation under wraps. Be care full in what ever you decide
2006-10-11 06:50:11 · answer #2 · answered by de4life34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel, and i must tell you to not focus on how great this one guy is. i'm sure he is great, but the more you think about him or how great he is or how much you kinda like him, the more intense and harder it's gonna get, and the more you think about someone in that type of way, soon may deveolpe into a love... try taking up a new exciting hobby and then do some new things with your husband. spend a while just thinking about your husband and how great he has been to you. when he's at work or something, curl up to your pillow and imagine it's him. and key, do NOT think about the other guy when you do this. even if you feel like you'd rather hold this one guy... force yourself and your thoughts onto your husband alone.
thats all i know what to do, hope it helps
2006-10-11 06:46:33 · answer #3 · answered by guitarbuttmunch88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you need to figure out why you cannot goto your husband with these things. Then ask yourself how you would feel if your husband was confiding in another woman about his feelings and things.
This man may be filling a void that your husband is not meeting, but you owe it to your husband to fix things with him. No matter how you look at it, it is adultery. It does not have to be sex involved. You are pining for another man in your heart. Sin is sin.
I am married so I am valid in giving this advice and I will pray for you.
2006-10-11 06:48:08 · answer #4 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the guilt comes from the Vows you took. It is possible to Love more than one person at the same time despite what the specialist state.. However in your case it's not healthy , you are married and I would hate for you to get caught and ruin the trust between you and your husband ... I would start weening myself off of him despite how he makes you feel, it sounds like trouble !!!
2006-10-11 06:47:00 · answer #5 · answered by chubbie dumplins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is cause you wouldn't want a secret woman in your husband's life. I think you are lonely & looking for a man that will feel that spot that your hubby isn't.
2006-10-11 06:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no . its perfectly normal to want more relationships , after a while one gets bored of the same thing every day, change its good and exciting( thats what my wife told me)
2006-10-11 06:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, By the way, that is cheating for feeling for another man.
2006-10-11 06:43:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really wouldnt call it normal, but yes it can happen, its up to you how you handle it!
2006-10-11 08:13:12 · answer #9 · answered by lovemyturk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** if i was your husband i would be piss if i found out youl love anothere man
2006-10-11 06:45:23 · answer #10 · answered by badboybruce1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋