She has always been flirty, even with me. and I have heard rumors about her in the past that she sleeps around. But I disregarded them as just rumors. But last night I went over to their house and walked in on her and one of her Co-Workers in the act of Sex. the only thing she said to me was if I wanted some to join in. My problem is Should I tell my friend about his wife? and if so, how do I tell him?
2006-10-11 06:34:42 · 16 answers · asked by mr_nice_guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is a tricky situation. If your friend loves his wife, it will be very hard for him to hear that she is being unfaithful....on the other hand if he loves his wife it would be morally wrong for a freind to know about her infedelity and not tell him.
SO...........Unfortunately I'll have to say that you should tell him.
BUT, be careful and very sensitive about how you go about it. Ask him if he's ever thought about the possibility of her cheating. Ask him how he feels about cheating in general. There is also the idea of going to the wife and telling ther that you cannot look away while she makes a fool of your friend and that you are going to give her 2 days to tell him herself, and if she doesn't tell him...you will. It would be better for him to hear it from her, than be blindsided by hearing it from you. That avenue would show respect for the marriage and not set you up to look like a gossiping homewrecker (not that i even remotely think that's the case, but when emotions run high....it can happen)
Good Luck no matter what you do!
2006-10-11 06:43:34 · answer #1 · answered by brookebjpl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How were you able to just ''walk in on them''? What......do you have keys to the house or something, and why? This sounds fishy to me. You sound like you want a piece of her and she probably doesn't want to brake you off, so you wanna destroy the marriage!!
I need to know how in the hell you got in the house, without her knowing. Any woman with the balls to sleep with another man in her house would surely take the precautions to lock all doors, etc. So how did you walk '' in on her and one of her Co-Workers in the act of Sex''?!!
2006-10-11 06:40:38 · answer #2 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I guess it he is your best friend that you would know wether or not he thinks his wife has been cheating. Knowledge is power. What if she is having unprotected sex and he could get sick or she ends up getting pregnent? This definitely could hurt your friend more than just emotionally. I"d tell him.
2006-10-11 06:49:08 · answer #3 · answered by girliewondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is obviously a huge flirt...i am sure on some level that your best friend is aware.
I suggest that you tell your best friend, that there are things that he needs to talk to his wife about...that you don't want to get involved, but that you think its imperative that he find out about...from him wife.
Aside from this heads up, i suggest you don't get further involved...you never know why any of this is happening, it would be wrong to speculate.
2006-10-11 06:40:59 · answer #4 · answered by Patience 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i wouldnt tellhis wife unless the guilt is eating u inside or are u not willing to risk two friendships at oner time its a tough call man becareful and make the right call
2006-10-11 07:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by Scott R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she obviously isnt afraid of you telling him since she invited you to join in, so that is what I would do. I would tell him that I caught her in the act and then let him deal with it as he sees fit.
2006-10-11 06:47:19 · answer #6 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report the abuse(no pun intended) Be careful she will try to lie specially if she invited you, she may turn it around. Say you took her up on it. But let him know.
2006-10-11 07:18:38 · answer #7 · answered by carmella.2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would send him an email. Start the email with, its not your business and you don't want to get involved, however, if you didn't share the information, you would feel worse.
Don't feel bad. Just tell him straightforward and in private... that is why email is best.
2006-10-11 06:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by Use my Yahoo! Avatar 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have her followed get pictures send them to him anonymously DO NOT GET INVOLVED ACT LIKE YOU HAVEN'T A CLUE even if he says something TRUST ME!!!!
2006-10-11 06:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him, and be prepared for her to lie her way out of it,
but at least you have planted the seed and it will be up to him to find out
2006-10-11 06:56:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋