Men only Please: Can you really have opposite sex friends while you are married and not think that you may hav

Question

have a chance in bed with them? My husband says that it is impossible...other opinion please.

Answer 1

I have a few female friends that i go for lunch with and hang out with. Some are very attractive women. Of course I am attracted to them and if I were single I'd be more than willing to get to know them in the carnal sense, but I'm a man, I mean a real man, in that i would never be so cowardly as to cheat on my wife.

My wife knows that I get more out of a conversation with weman than I do for a conversation with men. Let's face it. most guys are so afraid of talking about how they feel that they'll talk about sports, cars, past and present female conquests. Well I hate sports, don't care much for cars and what I do or did with a woman is my business. I like to talk about how I feel because our feelings are about the only thing we have control over. In order to gain control over them we need to talk about them.

I could go on and on. Ultimately yes a man can have female friends. Yes there's always a sexual attraction there ut if the guy is a man he can get past that and appreciate spending time with someone that is in touch with her feelings.

Answer 2

Sorry, I'm not a man, but still want to chime in, for what it's worth... I think, for the most part it is impossible, unless they're friends of both the husband and the wife, or just acquaintances. I have to say, since I got married, even my same-sex friends have kinda taken the "back seat"; time gets meted out very differently when you're with someone than when you're single. We now socialize mostly as a couple, so there's less of the "your friends" vs "my friends" stuff. Most male "friends" I've had in the past were either someone I had slept with and ended up staying in touch afterwards, or someone who was potentially interested in sleeping with me. Obviously, I don't see these "friends" much anymore. I have a few male acquaintances, but they're not "friends". Not to say that it can't happen, it just would (rightly) raise questions.

Answer 3

It's about respect and morals. I'm sorry but it's my opinion that 9 times out of 10 if a man and woman are REAL close friends, the feelings will change and lust and/or love will be involved. THAT can be kept under control, but what happens when conditions are perfect and temptations come into play? ALOT (but not ALL) would find that hard to pass up. OR what if one of the 'friends' says "Hmm, if I'm this good of friends with them, what if I just try this, see where it goes?" without even feeling lust or love, but just to see if there's more to it. You're so much better off not even messing with that situation. Have aquaintances with the opposite sex, yes, but know your boundaries and don't cross them if you truly love and respect your significant other.

Answer 4

Yes, but a man has to know the difference and keep these hinged relationships in perspective. It is not wise to risk a marriage to prove a point. We are all human but only an adolescent mind acts on impulses. A man should always respect his wife, if she disapproves he should strongly consider what is at steak for this friendship he wants to maintain. A women should try not to use her trump card too much on such issues it shows insecurity. Trust is a corner stone in which any relationship can flourish.

Answer 5

Men are just as human as you are...and don't try saying you NEVER wondered what a co-worker or friend would be like...as long as they don't act on it there is no problem....You would think that once they pass the age of 25, any adult should be able to have a friendship without screwing eachother's brains out. Sorry, I'm not a guy, thats just my opinion.

Answer 6

I have female friends.

But I have the respect for them as well. If you think about them with respect, you can avoid thinking about sex with them. Because, its start in your brain first.

Don't you think, all the man you know, you dont think for going to bed with them? Why? Anyone stops you? No. But, you just consider that all are not for everything.

So, to me, married man can have female friends. And how far they will go its upto them. It can be very clean friendship or may be something different.

Answer 7

This is partly a matter of semantics. I have several female friends, and I know I'm not going to have sex with any of them, because I am in control of my sexual choices. However, what your husband may be referring to is the tendency for sexual micro-fantasies to whip through our brains sometimes when we see our attractive friends. I don't think even he believes that he would necessarily act on these sexual thoughts, even if given the opportunity in reality. At least I assume that's what he meant.

Answer 8

My ex wife was just good friends with her boss and I did not like the situation because of his character. She filed for divorce and less than a year later they were married. I would say that at the least it is not normal for a man to seek a friendship with a woman. If your husband does not approve then why would you do it?

Answer 9

Men think they can have most women. Having a close friend is even more so. Honor and ethics keep married men from doing that.

Answer 10

Ok so it is not impossible to have those kind of thoughts, however just because the thoughts are there does not mean a guy will act upon them. Women will also sometimes cheat with their male friends but that does not mean every woman with a male friend is hitting the sheets with him.( even if she could)