what do you think about.....?

Question

a girl bugging your hubby for sex so bad he gives in then goes with her because she can have kids and you can't? we were together 7 years

before her we were always together having fun buying a house ,landscaping the yard, taking long vacations,we never argued,it was like a tv couple or something,then he took that job and moved out of the bedroom lasted a week i went off he never saw me that way before i slapped the hell out of him he called the cops i was thrown out of my own house, ALL OF YOU, are right its time i move on thanks for all the answers i will remember them all you guys and girls all are my friends.now i feel like i can move on and not think i need to be waiting on him anymore,thanks all!!! happy days here i come!!

Answer 1

Well you sound better off anyway. If he wanted kids he should have talked to you about it. Because you could have always adopted.

Answer 2

It's never right to leave one's spouse. We give an oath to each other 'till death do us part'. The only reason for a divorce should be adultery, and even then, I believe people can work through it if they try. I bring this up becasue he left you, and you hadn't done anything deserving divorce.

About your husband. Don't let him off the hook so easy. He didn't cheat on you because he was "bugged" into it. He did it because he wanted to. He chose to do this to you. It is not her fault that he left you - that doesn't mean her part was ok either. He betrayed you.

For other people reading this:

I think it's important to realize that all of us are capable of cheating on our spouses, and therefore we need to set boundaries in our marriage. My wife and I have a rule - No friends of the opposite sex or hanging out with people alone of the opposite sex. Especially at work. More affairs start there than any other place. That sounds kind of uptight to some peope, but consider this, most affairs start out as friendships.

Your spouse may not be willing to make this kind of arrangement. If not, you should pay close attention to who they associate with. Say something when you see an inappropriate relatioanship developing. Don't just stand by and sat 'I trust them' and then be surprised when an affair happens. you need to protect your marriage.

Engaged couples would save themselves alot of heart ache if they came to this type of agreement before they were married.

Answer 3

If he wasn't interested in having sex with her, he would not have EVER had sex with her! It wasn't the girl bugging him... He was the one without the balls enough to do the right thing.

I'm sure that every person in a marriage is put in test of being honorable... to cheat or not. There are some that don't put themselves in the position again of being tested... then there are others who do.

Obviously your husband did.

I'm sorry for your loss, dear... no matter what was happening in your relationship, you didn't deserve such treatment.

I think it's a good thing you never had any kids with the man. Thank God you didn't/couldn't! It would have caused more of a mess, cause I doubt you not being able to have kids drove him into the arms of another woman.

He made the choice to hurt you. Now... gather yourself up. Forgive him for treating you so rotten. And move on. Get the divorce and never contact him again. Never even consider getting back with him - you'll be hurt again.

I think that you now have good reason to do something good for yourself.

Answer 4

Listen, It takes two too have an affair, and even though you think your husband had sex with this woman because she was "Bugging" him..That is not the reason! He wanted too have sex with her or he would have told her too BUG OFF ! He didn't love you because you can't have kids, don't even think that way. He just didn't love you, period. No man or woman that is truely in love with each other would have an affair. And even if you can't have kids, there is always adoption so be happy that he left you, you are 100% better off and although It hurts, time does heal and you will find someone worthy of you in time.

Answer 5

You got a lot of 'move on' answers. My comment to you is that if your marriage started with love, there must have been a good foundation there. A marriage is not a guarantee of easy happiness; the couple must work at it. Did you and hubby try?
Is he willing to leave his new gf and try to reclaim what you two had in the beginning? Are you willing to forgive and try to reclaim?

Answer 6

If he really loved you he would not have "given in"... he would have set her staight and told her to bug off.

If he left you because you can't have kids you are better off without him. Yeah it hurts but you deserve someone that loves you for who you are, holds you above all others, and would stand up for you. This person would never allow ANYONE to come between you and he.

Answer 7

Chances are if he cheated on you, he will with her to. So let her have him and she will end up regretting it. Thank goodness you did not make any babies with him. Now they would be left without a Dad at home because he needs to satisfy his ego. Good luck to ya and find somebody that really cares and is true to you. GaryT

Answer 8

I think you're in denial. You've convinced yourself your husband leaft you that quickly just because she "bugged him", instead of looking deeper. If your relationship was good, he wouldn't have wanted to leave. If he was truly committed to you, it wouldn't matter that you're having difficulty having kids - there are always other options like adoption, IVF etc. So just be thankful you got out before you did have kids with him and move on to find someone you are truly compatible with, who will be prepared to have kids with you if that's what you both want.

Answer 9

Woah!!!!! You have no choice but to move on. Wrong relationship wrong man. He was extremely awful and hurtful for what he did but you cannot cling to the past and must realize that there are other men out there for you.

Answer 10

i think of kicking that girl so hard and then my husband for going with her because she can have kids and you cant, 7 months or 7 years, it shouldn't make a difference, he should honour you regardless of the situation. Talking about going to a clinic should be the next option.