....remains a biological imperative as long as their testosterone flows and their equipment works. But it seems that for women, once they've had children, their drive for sex wanes and it becomes more a question of seeking intimacy and an emotional connection. What do you all think?
2006-10-11 06:14:04 · 17 answers · asked by alison k 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I agree, but only to a certain point. Most of the women I have known, even the really sexually promiscuous ones, always seek emotional intimacy or at least some minimal connection even in their promiscuity. For them, guys are always measured in terms of their suitability as partners, even if the sexual encounter is going to be purely physical and short in duration.
Men also seek intimacy and emotional connection, we just don't necessarily equate intimacy and emotional connection with sex. We seem to look for our intimacy and emotional connection in other areas than sex. We are also socialized to repress our desire for intimacy and emotional connection for fear of getting mocked and shunned by our peers.
2006-10-11 06:20:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the female sex drive is much more linked to their cycles, and they are horny less often because they can only conceive a few days out of every month. This is also why they want more intimate relationships, because a guy has to stick around for several months to conceive a child. Also they instinctively feel the need for protection when a child is on the way, so they want a strong man around. Women's behavior all revolves around children, and men are all trying to be the alpha male, because the women are all looking for the alpha male. That's why men feel like they should be able to nail everything that walks, because the alpha male is a stud that gets all the chicks. It's not a perfect system, because it creates a conflict of interest between the male and female.
2006-10-11 06:21:16 · answer #2 · answered by martin h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the exact opposite is often true. Women often experience a mid-life crisis just like men do. These crisises often manifest themselves in attraction to younger guys (toy boy), a hankering for sporty cars and a pension for wild behavior because they know their golden years are not far off. They want to milk whatever they can out of their waning adult years before they get grey and saggy.
2006-10-11 06:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as long as you keep thinking that's a theory.. Women do tend to loose some drive, but that's because they're tired.. Once they get into a good regiment with the kids the nigh time intimacy usually picks back up unless they had some kind of horrible delivery experience...My sex drive is fine as well as several of my friends so stick with the theory...
2006-10-11 06:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by chubbie dumplins 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's true to life for me! Sex was hot as hell before we had kids now it doesn't exist. If it wasn't for the kids I would have left her years ago. We talked about this before we were married and I told her the old tale about once you're married with kids your wife cuts you off horrified me and if that happened I'd leave....well the kids are more important than that to me so I'm sticking it out until they're old enough to handle a divorce. I figure that'll be once they're in univresity...long way to go. If I knew then what I knew now....I NEVER would have married!
2006-10-11 06:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by m_skiier 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disagree !!! My 44 yr old gf wants sex everyday and she had a son 25 yrs ago so that theory of yours might apply to yourself, but not her or many other women. It just totally depends on the woman.
2006-10-11 06:23:36 · answer #6 · answered by gozedown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would disagree stronly - i have had 2 children and my sex drive has never been stronger than right now - mind you when my kids where younger and relied on my for what seemed like everything it did seem like another chore, now that my kids are more independant and i have hit the "middle age" point of my life - sex is absolutely wonderful.
2006-10-11 06:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by redneckgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think women need the emotional conection from the first time... and the men as well, but we are animlas before anything when sex comes around...
2006-10-11 06:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by El Recio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My theory is that my hot 48 year old wife with 3 kids 12, 16, 20, is jumping me stupid. Some days it hurts to walk.... I love it.
2006-10-11 06:40:41 · answer #9 · answered by Use another Nickname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree...I have a child and my sex drive is going strong. don't get me wrong intimacy and emotional connection are good but sometimes you just want sex! and you want it now!
2006-10-11 06:16:26 · answer #10 · answered by shae 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋