Girls I need your help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

I just had a baby 3 months ago and my boyfriend goes to work everyday at 7 o'clock and gets home at 4:30 evert evening, then he take a bath and relaxes for the rest of the day and then he goes to sleep around 8. And then i am up with the baby all night too.
Now, I am going crazy and I don't know what to do, I need some time to myself what should I do!?
Please, help I am going craxy!
Oh, and isn't the man still suppose to help the woman with this kind of stuff even though he goes to work?

Answer 1

make him realise that its his reponsibility also. Another suggestion, keep yr child awake throughout the day, so that he can sleep peacefully at night , and u will also have a goodnight sleep

Answer 2

Boy this is a good question. I had the say stuff happen with me when I had my son, my husband went to work came home ate and went to bed. First try talking to him and tell him that you need a break. Then if that doesn't work then what I suggest you do is when he walks in the door hand him the baby and you walk out. Leave him everything he needs for the baby and a note saying your going shopping or even for a walk and you'll be home at a certain time. Don't feel bad about it because you need a break too. As for when the baby gets up at night, put your feet on his back and push until he either gets up to get the baby or falls on the floor. You both made the baby, so you both have to raise it. Good Luck!! By the way when you push him out of bed the first time he's really pissed but let me tell you it's funnier than hell.

Answer 3

Yes, of course he should be helping you. But guess what. Men tend to follow the path of least resistance when it comes to home life. Helping with a baby is a daunting task and it is not lost on him.

He thinks that because he works all day, and you don't, then you should be willing to do this.

He has no idea what you put up with. None. Trust me, he doesn't.
Your only option is to sit him down and tell him your frustration.
Don't accuse or nag as this will make him turn you off.
Tell him what it's like to always...always have to deal with that child and that even you....supermom....needs a break.

If he will not understand this and continues to take the easy path you may have no choice but tell him you will find a job. When you do the cost of taxes and babysitting may wipe it out but you will get the much needed rest you need.

Your problem is not at all unique. Happens all the time. Don't let your husband off the hook. Make him help...even if for long enough for you to take that long relaxing bath.

Answer 4

I know exactly how you feel. I went through this too. You really need to tell him that you need his help. He may not realize how hard everything is for you. Unfortunately alot of people think that staying at home with a baby is not work and so you should just be able to keep on going with no break. One thing my husband and I made sure to do was have specific times that are totally his time to watch the kids. For ex. when our youngest still woke up at night I watched her Sun- Thurs and he got her on the weekends and now on weekends he gets one day to sleep in and I get the other. It makes things soooo much easier and less stressful for me and for him (b/c he gets snapped at when I'm tired and cranky!) If you can I'd also suggest taking the baby to daycare one day a week. It's not that expensive to do that (b/c you can pay by the day) and it will give you a chance for you to do things you need/want to do.
Good luck and hope you get a break soon! ;-)

Answer 5

You tell your man he didn't have a problem working in the bedroom so why he aint got time now since you done conceive and brought his child into the world. Let him know that the child is both of yours and he needs to work on his fatherhood. Let him know that you need some relaxing time. You done laid up in the hospital and had his child going through contractions and doses of medications, you need some relaxation and time to yourself.
Yes, your man suppose to help you in every way 50-50 is what it is on both sides.

Answer 6

Absolutely !! Have you brought it to his attention that you need some "Me" time. You know most men don't know you have to tell them... Ask him to take care of your baby for an 1-2 hours every other day or give you one of his entire off days twice a month to go to the salon and get yourself a pedicure.. You can't be the best you can be tired and feeling frumpy !!!
ps- Do you have any family members that can give you some relief at all ?

Answer 7

Have you spoken to him? Just try and catch him when you can and talk to him about how much you'd like it if he'd look after the baby for a few hours! He is the father afterall and he should take on some of the responsibilities!

If he truely loves you then he should change he's laziness and be a father and a husband!!!!

Answer 8

Have you tried to talk to him about how you feel? Please don't assume that every man will help help out with other responsibilities. You need to speak with him and let him know that you need time for yourself and maybe you both can come to some type of agreement and schedule. Some men so infact like to come home and unwind before they even speak. I'm not sure how long you've been married or if you've discussed any arrangements with your husband prior to the arrival of your baby. If he is not willing to help, try to get a friend or relative to help you out. I hope it works out for you. Just talk it out.

Answer 9

Yeah, the guy is supposed to help!
if it were me, when he got home, would hand him the baby and go take a bubblebath yourself. Tell him you need AT LEAST two hours of you time a day...and sleeping doesn't count.

Answer 10

You have to communicate your frustrations to him and let him know how you feel. He obviously comes home early enough for you to go shopping or on a walk. So, he should be able to accomodate one hour out of his day. Speak up! He can't read your mind.