why do they seceretly talk to A girl that they know there gf/wife doesnt like and promises they wont talk to them?
why do they have to keep it a seceret instead of saying this is how it is! i want to talk to her and that is that. Instead they say okay i wont talk to this person and then continue seceretly and then talk about you to the seceret girl! that is just crazy!
2006-10-11 06:02:09 · 26 answers · asked by beachgirl90 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
its not insecurity. she has made sexual advances towards him. and she does nothing but bad mouth me to him which changes his behavior towards me.
2006-10-11 06:46:21 · update #1
Because they are looking for other attention and reinforcement from other women other than you because they are insecure.
So find someone that is more confidant in themselves and more confidant in you and you will have a stronger relationship. Also try not to be so jealous cause if you are he may do this just to p*** you off.
2006-10-11 06:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is crazy. Remember, men think differently. Maybe he doesn't feel like he can trust you to not be mean to her or thnks you will get mad at him and knows you wont be happy so he tries by telling you he won't do it. Maybe he doesn't want to hurt you by telling you he still wants to talk to this girl. What does he get from her that he doesn't get from you? Sometimes we can't be everything that our Significant other needs so we have to let them have other friends. If you trust him it should not bother you so much. Tell him you know and would appreciate it and trust him alot more if he was straight with you. Tell him you don't like it but you trust him. Good luck to you.
2006-10-11 06:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by Acid Burn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't believe it's a "guy" thing, it's more like
"cheating" material thing. I figure if "anyone" feels they have to be that way, they aren't worth knowing. There are so called "friends" who are the same way, except they pretend "not" to like a person because they know "you" don't? Then they hang out with them when you're not around. These people can play their games with each other, I don't have time! They wouldn't understand the concept of "truth" if it came up & kicked them in the....
Shhhhh, it's a secret!
2006-10-11 06:19:12 · answer #3 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You r hilarious...! anyways, this happened because He knows that you are obviouslly closed to that second option you have offered the rest of the world today...Remember that the rest of the world is safe from the murderous WRATH you'd be unleashing if He told you things "exactly how they are"...Nevertheless, since NOW you KNOW what the deal is...let him know that you are not mad because he's talking to that other girl but because he lied to you...if you really like him, you'll forgive him, if you can't forgive him, then communicate that you'll be moving on.
No one has broken the law here, lets keep it that way...ok..
GL
2006-10-11 06:11:41 · answer #4 · answered by Jr Thompson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
b/c guys are NEVER happy with what they have. They are always waiting for the next best thing to enter their life...JMHO after 30+ years in the dating game.
Also, guys like to have a part of their life that is secret - they do not like "full disclosure" relationships as much as females do.
I think it is just a difference in how we are socialized...
2006-10-11 06:07:16 · answer #5 · answered by BugGurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because men either are chicken and don't want to argue the point with their partner or they agree so that in turn hopes that their partner founds out they lied. This will hurt their partners feelings and thati s what men ulitmatly want to do. It amkes them feel superior. That what most men want to feel superior.Pigs that they are) lol
2006-10-11 06:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its in their nature, that happens to me actually and i know how terrible and frustrated u must feel. But its not about the us, its just that guys like the not allowed things, they do it to show they dont have to hear u and do what u want... even on ur back!
2006-10-11 06:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by jalina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys secretly talk to other girls because the "other girls" are still giving these guys affection, let the guy grab, hold, make out, or have sex with them.
2006-10-11 06:07:40 · answer #8 · answered by Jerry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that falls under the category of: "Telling you what you need to hear while doing what I want"
2006-10-11 06:04:58 · answer #9 · answered by westgaliberty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they don't want to hurt your feelings. Talking is not doing anything wrong. We live in a free world don't we....
2006-10-11 06:05:26 · answer #10 · answered by interested_party 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋