when i go out i have a time limit and he always asumes i was off cheating and not scrapbooking. but he can go sun up to sun down and not say with who or where.
2006-10-11 05:53:50 · 14 answers · asked by bannanacoop 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are a hunting widow. My brother did the same thing to his wife, now they arent married. She was tired of being home alone while he hunted.
2006-10-11 05:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have read so many questions like this...I don't understand why some men get away with doing what the wives would never be able to do....You have a "time limit"....sounds like an immature, insecure control freak....feel for ya', I really do, cause most likely he isn't gonna change, and years of that to come?....doesn't make Jane a happy girl...I couldn't stand it...Mine would take all 3 to the park just so I could get some time to myself, and tidy up without 3 underfoot...Guess I need to re thank my husband for that, even though it was 18 yrs ago when the kids were little.....
2006-10-11 12:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, if he is accusing you of cheating then he must have a guilty conscious. If he doesn't want toa take part in the family things and give you a break then you should leave him. This is how my life was, he never understood. Said that deer season was only so long, he would quit when deer season ended, well how lucky for him, then there is another season and he just had to hunt for it all, but never or rarely brought anything home! I had to leave because I was raising his two kids and my two kids on my own,but he took all the credit! I am much happier now!!!
2006-10-11 13:10:34 · answer #3 · answered by charmz21lucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he doesnt have time for you but he wants you sitting home. usually when someone accuses you of something its out of guilt for something they're doing and to justify there actions...basically if he's accusing you of cheating, he's cheating and to justify his cheating in his mind, he accuses you of it. if i were you i'd demand to know where he's going hunting, and who with, if he's really just hunting, whats the big deal? then you could always go and check if his vehicle is where it should be. i myself was in this situation, if it wasnt hunting, it was fishing, so i decided if he can go have time doing what he enjoyed, so could i. why sit at home, he's obviosly not there with you. find a sitter and go out, and tell him you'll be home when youre done same as when he goes hunting. also the kids deserve to get to do something if he can all the time, maybe a movie or skating, but if he can afford the hunting all the time, he can afford his kids to get to have a life too and you deserve to get out just as much as he does and do it without him. when i did this to my husband he actually quit going fishing and hunting so much for some reason, i started sending the kids to the movies, etc. and i started going out one day every wknd. and i was happier and didnt care if he went fishing or hunting
2006-10-11 13:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by beckie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with "Blue Eyes" and "Smiles"
here's what I would do in your shoes.
1. find a babysitter, the longer the better, try for an entire weekend, like a relative or something.
2. take that time to go away, do some "me" things for yourself.
3. seriously consider a separation, see if you have the family support and the economic ability to do it. if so, than seriously consider it.
4. consult a marriage counselor or church counselor
5. start running your household like it is yours, on your schedule. arrange babysitters for at least 1 regular night out for yourself. plan your kids' day to suit you and them.
basically, if you can't afford to separate, live as though you are.
but above all, stop letting him do this without doing something about it for yourself.
that is what I would do.
2006-10-11 13:09:34 · answer #5 · answered by smartkid37138 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you accept the time limit, thats up to you ... if he is accusing you of cheating, you should be checking out those hunting trips ... hunting season doesn;t last that long, a couple weeks for each type of game at most ... what or who(?) is he hunting?
usually if they accuse without provacation, its cause they are messing around
2006-10-11 12:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does this cause you have shown him this is exeptable for you.
with time, send a different message letting him know that this is not okay.....that is if it isnt.
if it is just about you having just as much freedom, then get a trusted family member or a trusted neighborhood teen to help babysit for a amount of time and do your thing woman. or you will burn out on life.
2006-10-11 12:58:19 · answer #7 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hummmmmmmm sounds like he is not hunting all the time if he accuses you of cheating.
2006-10-11 12:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by mtd29485 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a husband like that, tho he wasnt a hunter, just controlling .. i kicked him to the curb! you deserve a life and dont let him take that away from you...
2006-10-11 12:58:51 · answer #9 · answered by blue-eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should hunt for a new husband...
2006-10-11 13:37:25 · answer #10 · answered by auzzimama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋