I work Fri. Sat. and Sun. nights. I homeschool the whole week and tend to household chores. I ask my husband to alternate nights with me to give the kids a bath and brush there teeth. He works 40 sometimes (but rarely) 45 hrs a week. I was so tired Mon. and Tues. that I didn't cook dinner. I mean I already cook 2 times a day and sometimes I don't feel like cooking a 3rd time. He raises hell and says I'm putting everything off onto him. He doesn't seem to think I do much during the day, however I work my butt off. I love my work, though it's sometimes exhausting. However I don't like my weekend job, actually I loathe it. But hubby sits with the kids (most of the time doing no housework) and I go out and work. He relaxes on his weekends only tending to the kids which isn't much besides feeding and putting them to bed. I however work on the weekends and have no relaxing day. I feel he is being unfair in fussing at me for having to help out every other night in bathing etc. the kids. what?
2006-10-11 05:34:53 · 6 answers · asked by lilmama 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No matter what else we have going on in our lives, our husbands will always think that we are the primary care givers to the kids and they are supplemental support. Is it right? No but the mentality. If you feel he needs to do more, then tell him. Be open and hones about your feelings. Doesnt mean it will work, but at least you got it off of your chest.
2006-10-11 06:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your right, he isn't being fair. Your working just as hard as him plus you have no real days off to relax like he does. If he is so upset about you not having time to fix his meals then he needs to take over some of the household chores and add them to his weekend routine so that you have more time during the week to cook. Or maybe he should just take over cooking all supper time meals. I do most of our supper cooking.
2006-10-11 12:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that u r doin enough. don't worry about what he thinks. u r doin the best u can. he needs 2 understand that. u r not his slave. u have the kids,,jobs, and he expects u 2 cook every other day? u stand up and tell how u feel. that's y they invented tv dinners. there will b dayz u can't cook or don't want 2. b honest. if he doesn't understand take a close look @ your marriage
2006-10-11 12:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in similar situation, I have to work because his job does not bring in enough to support the family.When things got out of control for me I sat him down and said I will gladly handle all the responsibilities of our home and children but I can't do it effectively and as well as you want me to if I keep my job. Faced with the reality of my decision he gladly started helping out.It wasn't an easy transition but when he was made to take on more responsibility he began to appreciate me more.
2006-10-11 12:46:15 · answer #4 · answered by lovinlife_30 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but I think your husband is doing enough.....its a lot of hard work when the kids are small.....you obviously know that by now...been there, done that.....it gets easier when the kids get older and they are taught to help keep the house.....
2006-10-11 12:44:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is not carring his load just talk to him and tell him you need more help and not to talk to you that way...
2006-10-11 12:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋