HELP! i'm moving away in4wks to another city, evry1 no's apart frm my closest friend. my best friend. i don't no how 2 tell er. i dont wanna hurt her or lose contact with er. somebody please help. HOW DO I TELL HER?? XX
2006-10-11 04:43:40 · 7 answers · asked by starbrite 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
when i have discussed this issue with her and told her i was THINKING of moving she became kinda angry and told me she'd never visit.......
2006-10-11 04:52:36 · update #1
The sooner you tell her, the more likely you will be able to remain friends. If you tell her now, and she reacts badly, you will have 4 weeks to try to put things right between you.
I have friends who live all over the world now, and that bond, once there is rarely broken. I recently moved to Switzerland, where coincidentally one of my old friends of 20 years lives. We hadn't seen each other for 3 years, but as soon as we met up it was as if we'd never been apart.
If you have a strong friendship, this move will not break it.
Don't worry, and go round to see her now.
.....and remember...with a friend you should be able to say what you think, and not have to think about what you should say
2006-10-11 06:18:20 · answer #1 · answered by Copper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o m g i am about to cry i know exactly how you feel i moved a year ago from the place i grew up and the school that i have been going to all my life i just straight out told her and the rest of my friends it was soo hard i thought i had a best friend when i was moving but as it turns out she basically quit writing me and calling her excuse stays the same ... shes been busy i hope you have better luck with your friend and i wish you luck at your new home it will be ok always call each other and visit each other on all of your vacations or breaks
good luck
2006-10-11 11:51:28 · answer #2 · answered by formerffagirl05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you scared of? If she's your friend, she'll be sad you are leaving but will understand you have to do what's right for you. If she gets mad at you for leaving then she's not really being a true friend, now is she? You can't control others' reactions, all you can do is be honest... which you should be. Just tell her you're moving and you want to stay in close touch. Promise you'll visit her, then make sure you do!
2006-10-11 11:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by JP 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
explain that you are moving away to better your self if she holds a grudge over that then she is not a true friend. tell her you will keep in contact by whatever means necessarily and you will go and visit her and that your door is always open to her if she wants to come and stay for a while. she properly just said that in anger but it is kinda selfish!!!! good luck with your move and I'm sure you will make new friends if she chooses not to stay in contact then it`s her loss.
2006-10-11 12:44:43 · answer #4 · answered by shayney boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write it down and send her a very nice card. Express your deep feelings and appreciation for her friendship. Let her know she is welcome to visit you. Maybe she won't be happy now, but after you leave, she will at least have this nice card and some time in the future she may come around. If you don't tell her, she'll resent you for just leaving.
2006-10-11 12:29:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have four weeks to figure it out. The longer you take, the harder it will be for the both of us.
My ex moved to another country, i knew that he was leaving and when he actually left i was clueless. He called a week after and told me that he was there.
2006-10-11 11:47:53 · answer #6 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that's it! Then make sure you keep intouch
2006-10-11 11:46:58 · answer #7 · answered by traci s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋