My daughter is 2 and i do everything under the sun without abuse mind you to get her to listen to me and knock it off with the constant tantrums....what would you do? Im at my wits end.
2006-10-11 04:41:16 · 6 answers · asked by mcshankel04 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its the terrible twos. They don't call it that for nothing, and I know how horrible it is. She is trying to test her limits with you and also she is trying to get your attention as well.
As far as limits, make sure you set them and then reinforce them all the time. And when she has a tantrum, ignore her. As long as she isn't hurting herself or anyone else, just let her throw her fit. She will finally realize that she won't get her way by throwing a fit. Also, remember to reinforce her positive behavor. When she helps you with something, or what ever she does thats good, let her know. Keep doing this and she will eventually catch on. And remember, there is nothing wrong with a tap on her hand to let her know you are serious.
2006-10-11 04:59:59 · answer #1 · answered by tiggerluv252000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the hardest stages. When she is in a calm state, start talking to her about being a big girl and how important it is to be a good girl. Also start giving her responsibilities. This will keep her little mind busy. Start off with dusting an end table, feeding the dog, or sweeping the bathroom. When she is helping you, praise her and let her know what a good job she is doing and what a big helper she is. Then have her color you a picture or something. The main thing is to keep her busy. Tantrums are usually a sign of frustration, tiredness, and boredom. Does she like dolls? Teach her how to care for her doll. Always have her look you in the eye when talking to her. It helps her learn to focus. Make her acknowledge you when you are talking to her. Start with saying "Do you understand?" and have her repeat to you "Yes Mommy". What ever you decide, stick with it. Consistency is the key with any form of discipline. Remember, you are the mom and children do not come with instructions and they are all different. Find what works for you and her and know you are not the only one who has went through the "terrible two's".
2006-10-11 12:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by kymmy_kins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's two, the tantrums are normal. It's their way of defining their boundaries.
Stay consistent, have patience...if the tantrums are too disruptive, give her a time out.
Consistency is the key. If she knows that you NEVER allow a certain thing she will quit having a tantrum about it. She's testing you, trying to see if she has a fit about it will you eventually give in?
2006-10-11 11:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by Chatty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, stop with the negayive reinforcement -- start COMPLETELY ignoring her when she throws a tantrum...i mean COMPLETELY!!! just walk out of the roon and don't say or do anything. second, start with positive reinforcement....which means ANYTIME she's being quiet or playing or even eating without a problem -- tell her how great she is. do this for one week and i PROMISE you'll have a different kid -- the whole key is to ignore the tantrums (making sure of course she's not in any danger)... Good Luck to you!
2006-10-11 11:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by Ducky S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore the tantrums. She wants attention and she's getting it. You're the boss. Remember that. You're the adult. Remember that.
Say NO...and mean it.
2006-10-11 11:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by daisylane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The is a little "Chuckie" in all two year olds. Grit your teeth and have patience. It gets better, until they are teenagers, then it gets worse again. Parenthood is not for sissies.
2006-10-11 11:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by October 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋