my feelings are hurt should i say something to him? his last b-day i gave him a huge surprise party. lots of planning
2006-10-11 04:39:29 · 15 answers · asked by di05712 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That sucks! Ya I would say something. That's pretty crappy. If you don't say something, you will still be angry about it and you will think about it often enough to make you miserable. You don't have to tell him that he's cheap and uncreative (even though he is) but you can just tell him that it hurt your feelings that he didn't put very much effort into your birthday.
Fo the comment above about not having any money...it's not about how much is spent...it IS the thought that counts...but a card? That's not a thought...it's an afterthought. He could have taken you on a picnic (almost free) or written you a sweet letter (free) or cooked you dinner (almost free) or a number of other things that are WAY better than a card!
2006-10-11 04:43:28 · answer #1 · answered by green is clean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, maybe he's planning something else, and it's taking him more than expected, or he was low on resources...there isn't much you can tell him...you can't just go, hey, where's the rest of my b-day present...my advice is to get over it.don't think about it.i know it's bothersome, I have had a similar experience.you'll get over it in a while.if you don't give it much thought and don't leave it to interfere between the two of you, it's ok.also, it might b safe to keep an eye out.from what i know, when someone cares he goes through an extra effort.go for the innocent until proven guilty approach.but be cautious.good luck :)
2006-10-11 11:47:25 · answer #2 · answered by vehrim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys usually have a harder time with presents than girls do, because flowers and stuff gets old, does the card share his emotions? Maybe their more to it and you just dont know like planning something for a different day so you dont expect it?
Maybe he just doesn't have any money right now.
2006-10-11 11:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by mellow_26241 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should say something to him! If you can't communicate disappointment on this small a scale, you're going to have trouble when really big things crop up in the years to come. Think of this as a good opportunity to practice working on your communication as a couple.
2006-10-11 11:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to express your feelings. Be honest and try not to be hurtful. He may come from a family that birthdays are no big deal. Give hom a chance to explain himself. At that point you need to tell him what you expect from him for holidays and birthdays. If you haven't ever told him what you expect he can't possibly know. Best wishes
2006-10-11 11:45:38 · answer #5 · answered by sugarfoot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When his nxet birthday come just get him a card. I would say something to him about how you feel
2006-10-11 11:43:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 Years? Sounds like he's getting too comfortable with the relationship. Does he still "sweat" you when you walk into the room? Sounds like he doesn't want to keep the relationship fresh.
2006-10-11 11:43:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's the thought that counts...... I got a few little gifts last year from my GF, and that's all I wanted, actually more then I wanted... he might be planing something bigger for you that you are anaware of, or maybe not..... some people get nothing for their B-Day, be happy.... not selfish.....
2006-10-11 11:42:45 · answer #8 · answered by Nick S 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the gift of a card was small indeed,but he did remember your b-day and that, should count for something..
2006-10-11 11:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he cant afford a gift right now. Or maybe you are just more giving then he is.
2006-10-11 11:41:47 · answer #10 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋