What would you do if you were me?

Question

I come from a poor family. I study at college but I am afraid of I cannot pay for that. I feel hopeless.
I feel alone and people are not helpful and I cannot share my problems with them.
I have no family nor any friends beside that I don't have money.
I am thinking about committing a suicide as my life doesn't worth anything, it's worthless without any love and success.
I am not an American guys I am from Central Europe.

I also have to mention that my sickness is reflected on my performance and I have low performance recently and there are two obstacles money and me.

I would ask what I have in life beside my worthless life? The answer is nothing. I have to kill myself either by a poison or bump into a car which will hit me....

A chance for better life?? Do you consider that how many candidates are for jobs? How many unemployments are in my country? It"s tough to get a job and if you get maybe you can just make ends meet, but a better life is far away. The competition is too high.

Answer 1

All problems and obstacles are opportunities in disguise.

They are challenges to 1-learn something, 2-improve something, and 3-overcome something.

Obstacles add to your character by testing you. They determine what you're made of, by how you handle them.

You can feel sorry for yourself and get all self-absorbed, or you can step up to the challenges. You have all the power and resources you need, at your disposal. You just need some new perspective.

Some call what you are going through Depression, but I think you are simply too self-absorbed. It's all about you. Why not focus all that energy in Taking Action? Why don't you try focusing your energy outward?

You can start with changing "I can't" to "I am not willing to". Then, you can discover what's right and good, rather than what's bad and wrong. And when you start to become overwhelmed, realize that there are others out there fighting for their life with a terminal illness, and struggling to function in society with some other physical disability.

You can improve your self-outlook by volunteering your time and effort to those in need. You will realize how much you have to offer the world, and how muc others appreciate your attention and effort. You can also master a skill or talent. Get good enough to teach it to others, and teach it to others.

You have so many wonderful and redeeming quaities that you don't even realize, because your 'baggage' that you are carrying around is acting like a "filter" lens that distorts your reality.

Accomplishments, the ones you have already made, and those you have yet to achieve, build you up from the inside out. They are the key to removing your "filter" that you're looking through.

Working with children is another way you will start to feel more alive. They look up to you, they do not judge you, and they count on you to teach them. If you go to a YMCA or other community center, you might find work or volunteer work, teaching children swimming or gymnastics, or something else. Sometimes, you can find work that pays you.

When you put yourself out there to contribute to the world, you begin to realixe your inner strength, and you begin to realize your redeeming qualities.

And when you gain strength, you begin to affect the world, rather than be affected by it. And when you realize your strength, you will let people love you and appreciate you.

A community of friends that you might want to visit, is the Unitarian Universalist Fellowship. UU is not really a religion, but rather a community of friends. There is no religious doctrine or creed, and all are welcome, regardless of faith or background. No one will tell you how to think or what to do, and UU's believe that there is dignity and worth in every human being. Respect and tolerance for diversity, and fellowship is what it's all about. You can find a location near you if you search online for a Unitarian Universalist Fellowship. You will be encouraged to share your ideas about faith and fellowship with others, and others will share their thoughts with you. This is a great way to learn about new perspectives and make friends.

You can sometimes find volunteer work or paying jobs through a UU fellowship. My parents volunteer time teaching the next generation of youths all about tolerance, respect, diversity, and the dignity and worth in all humans.

We all want to feel like we belong somewhere, like we have some purpose, and that we are cared about and appreciated by someone. You willl find this at UU fellowship, and you will make contacts and build a network of friends from all fields, backgrounds, faiths, ages, ethnicities, orientations, etc.

Answer 2

Oh i like this question. it remind me of those successful person who r from poor family n see hwo they success. i feel so energetic whenever i heard anyone like this.
well, first u r from poor family.
do u know that a lot of people also from a poor family?
do u know that how hardworking they r?
do u know that a lot of rich man in my country, malaysia begin from no money when they first reach here?
they all work very hard to be rich till now. there is also a lot of stories that poor student that study in overseas success to finish the course without their family help. they work while studying. i dun understand why u cannot work? u like to play? maybe u should balance ur time well. u can do all the minor work like work in a restaurant, repair things, or even wash plate( a lot of proplr actually do that). on the same time u can learn something new, get some working experience, new skill and so on.

second, u feel lonely? maybe u can play with ur classmate in the college n be more friendly. u can always share ur problem in yahoo answer n seek advise from pro.

third, u have no family, friend besides? money u can find by working. u can always contact or keep in touch with ur family and friend with letters, email, skypet( dun really know the spelling), or telephone. a lot of people too have to leave their family to work or study. i know the feeling is bad.

4rd, orr noooooo......commit suicide? i know life is painful but u should try u to let thing go on n should be grateful u r still alive. seeks some entertainment to enjoy ur live. dun u feel is bad to let ur firend n family to cry over ur death.

5th, what wrong if u r not american? r american really that highly reputated in the world? NOOO. different people is good for some purpose. example, chinese n japanese is famous for their hardworking attitude, jewish is famous for being the smart people, japanese is famous for innovative, muslim is famous for fanatic to their religion, n so on. what wrong from central europe? does being an american u will have a better life or can life longer?

sorry if i hurt ur feeling. this is my opinion. i hope u can understand it n continue ur life. be another person hat i respected. i always like to hear story ppl from the poor success n how they overcome their problem

Answer 3

Listen you are going to school to make a better life for your self. It is not going to be easy but you can make it through it. You have already done something I would have not been able to do . Leave my family for education and a chance at a better life. You have taken a big step. Finish school. Get a job that your schooling has trained you for make a LOT of money and Live happily ever after.
YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!
don't give up.

Answer 4

Dont commit suicide or do anything to harm yourself, your making it worse by thinking about it. There are many things you have that you should be greatful for, many people have nothing. Keep studying at college, get a job, go from there. Keep trying and be greatful for what you have and everything will be ok.

Answer 5

Don't be an idiot, many people come from poor families. Many don't have families at all. That doesn't stop them from trying. Stop crying over what you don't have and thank God for what you do. The sooner you do that then you will realize that He always makes a way.

BTW - Get a job. 2 or 3 if you have to.

Answer 6

Dont commit suicide. Since u r from central europe atleast u have place to live. See in africa, south east asia and on so many parts of the world people dont even have one time food to eat, shelter, drinking water. Have a faith in god. He will help u surely! good luck

Answer 7

Okay, well lets look at this for a minute. If indeed you kill yourself, you "definitly" won't have any friends. And if you have "anyone" on earth who cares about you, then you are being selfish as all hell! They get to remember you always as the guy they cared about, but didn't care enough about you "or" them, to at least "talk" about your pain! Besides, God is your best friend always, so you have at "least" one friend right there, okay? So, even if it's a stranger, go talk to "someone right now. Tell them how you feel, and will they pray with you. Go on, you can do it. Write back & let us know about your new friend, okay? Good luck & God bless.

Answer 8

Does your school have a counseling center of some kind? (I can't tell whether you're currently IN Central Europe or over here; American colleges have counselling centers, peer counseling.)

Look into finding some help. Things will get better.

Answer 9

Get a job to fund your studying or if your country is in the EU you can go and work in the UK and continue your studies there.

Answer 10

Suicide ?, have you gone crazy ?This is not the solution. And have you ever thought about your family ?

Problems come and goes. Face them with a trust that good time is about to come.