Was it boredom or were you looking for someone "better"? If it was for a "better" guy, how do you define that?
2006-10-11 04:36:19 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow (*at the other answers*), I'm married, and although have thought about cheating, never have. I should stress I've never seriously considered cheating either... but if a hot guy is on TV, I can't help the images it may put in my head *giggle*. But, I would have to agree with the answers above, and say if I did, it would be because I was bored, wanted something "new" and yes, someone to tell me that I'm beautiful and all that other nice, warm gooey romantic goodness.
2006-10-11 05:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by superrix83 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say if you are bored with the one you are with, you need to talk or do something to help put that love back into the marriage. You can't define a better guy because you are looking for something in that person that you are not getting at home. That is why most women cheat (affair) on the other half.
2006-10-11 11:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by chelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say per say why a specific women is cheating that is married, but i will say why some women cheat. I feel allot of women cheat due to lack of communication between the 2, to get something that u can't get at home( special attention, specific sex needs, understanding, and financial help and attention.), another is they could really want to end it but staying in it for all the wrong reason, like: for the kids, for the convenience,, but all in all it could be anything and I'm not a married women but that's some reasons why women cheat. I hope that give an idea for to narrow everything down. Good luck and i hope everything works out for u.
2006-10-11 12:41:47 · answer #3 · answered by the real deal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married and have not had an affair. I think that if you need to have one then you don't need to be married. All they are going to do is lose their self respect and life if their spouse is smart enough to leave once he finds out. I honestly don't know why someone would have an affair, you hear all sorts of excuses but in all they are just excuses. You marry to be with 1 person, if you can't do that, don't get married
2006-10-11 12:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by ~*~frankie~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 12 years and have never stepped outside my marriage - not that the thought hasn't crossed my mind. I have had suspicions about my husband over the years of whether he has been completely faithful, and that makes my mind wonder..... Boredom has never been a reason for my wondering mind, however. I have changed a lot in the past year and my husband has yet to acknowledge them!! Even with all my frustration, I have made a vow and plan to stick to it!
2006-10-11 12:42:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i haven't had an affair yet, but have thought about it often and the reason being, after being married so long atleast in my situation, it seems there's barely sex, and the sex there is just seems to be a release for him, it doesnt matter if i enjoy it...we don't spend time together, he's always off doing something. i wonder where i fit in his life or schedule. i don't feel my husband is attracted to me, i really only see him at bedtime....so if i was to have an affair i'd say it would be to spend time with someone who wants to spend time with me and to prepare myself to leave my husband...i think when women have an affair, deep down they want something other than what they're getting or not getting
2006-10-11 12:26:30 · answer #6 · answered by beckie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never and would never cheat on my husband, but I know many women that have.
The main reason is that they want to feel that high again from when you first meet someone. They want the passion and excitement again when you are first learning about each other.
Plus, many married women find themselves feeling very unappreciated, unattractive, and taken advantage of. And some just have affairs to get back at their husbands who have treated them badly.
I'm not saying it's right, just that it happens.
2006-10-11 11:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my thoughts alot of women are seeking that original thrill you know where the man cannot pay enough compliments and attention. After awhile that all stops and we miss it. Some fella at the grocery store, work etc is more than glad to whisper sweet nothings in your ear. I think it is wrong to cheat however that is my thought on why it happens. Men don't stop paying attention to your wife as a woman!
2006-10-11 11:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say it is because you need a better guy, I think it would be for the excitement, for the unknown. When your married things get boring and predictable. Your husband lies on the couch, farts and belches and that's supposed to turn you on. He never tells you what you need to hear, like your hot, so you go to another to get what your missing. Never lose the romance people because that's when trouble starts. I did not have an affair on my husband, I just kicked his sorry *** out.
2006-10-11 11:50:55 · answer #9 · answered by mkathy 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well am married and am having an affair but mine wasn't boredom it was just something that i can't really explain maybe because he spoils me too much and i later realise he's a good f**k. am really enjoying him
2006-10-11 11:41:55 · answer #10 · answered by amy a' 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋