2006-10-11 04:34:39 · 44 answers · asked by Nigi-magic 3 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Dont get me wrong! i have a sucsessful careeer! i'm considered a high earner for my age. but as regards where i will end up, who i will end up with, all that stuff is up in the air!
2006-10-11 04:40:01 · update #1
You are still young, i would set some goals for myself however, you say you do not have a plan. Not having a relationship is not the only goal in life, and owning a home usually comes along with being ready to settle down. You are working and are a productive member of society. So actually you have some kind of plan. Good luck and God bless
2006-10-11 04:55:37 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is it "wrong"? What's wrong? What's Right? The question you should be asking yourself is "Am I happy?" That's all that matters. If it's meant to be that you get in to a relationship, or a mortgage, then it will be. You're young. Don't worry too much.
As for a life plan....how about starting with saving some of that money you're making by putting it into a Roth IRA. I saw a graft not too long ago where a 21 year old started putting away $1,000 a year into an IRA account and by the time he turns 60, this $1,000 should turn into $50,000! So, there's a nice place to start, as my kids your age did.....and as to a life plan...what are you hoping for in life? Would you like to be successful, and then retire early? .... I'm sure you have hopes and dreams, so just follow them and you'll be happy.
If you'd like something more to think about in "life" in general, there's a book called "Tuesdays with Morrie" by Mitch Albom. He has some good thoughts, even his thoughts on marriage.
24...sounds like fun! Enjoy your life. It's just starting.
2006-10-11 04:51:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who's life are you living? According to who's "rulebook"?
You are doing exactly what you should be doing. You are living your life for you. You have the career part covered.
My only advice to you is to date many different men before choosing one to stand beside you. For some reason, in our modern society, there is the illusion that men are the choosers, when in the animal nature, it's the other way around. Keep it as it should be. Be the chooser.
Each relationship teaches you more about yourself as to what you want, require, and need from someone; as wellas what you will and won't tolerate from someone; and what you are willing to give to someone. Don't let fear of hurt or rejection stop you or destroy you. Mistakes teach you what doesn't work (and they don't detract from your quality as a human) and they build character and wisdom.
Before you make a committment to own a home, choose someone who is worthy of you to help share that responsibility. Then you won't have to deal with the whole "your home/his home thing". You will be on equal ground.
You might try checking out the "pre-marital checklist" at www.drphil.com, just to see what types of issues will come up in the future, in a marriage. That might help you narrow down what kind of guy will fit well with you in your life.
Think about all the women out there who had no idea, did nothing for themselves or with their life, got picked up by some man, and live their lives according to his standards, have 4 kids, no education or marketable skills, and feel angry at the world for their dissatisfaction. You can, and ARE doing better than that.
Most people don't even really know themselves very well, or what they want until their 30's. That's just they way the brain works. A 17 year old girl doesn't "grow up faster" because she's a mother. In fact, her mental, social, and emotional growth is actually stunted, because of the extra responsibility. The brain grows at it's own pace. Wisdom, maturity, and character take time and experience to develop.
Granted, your 20's are your most fertile years for childbearing, but with a healthy lifestyle and modern medicine, some women are holding out for their own stability financially, and a well-established relationship (in their 30's) before considering it.
You are young yet, so you have time to learn about yourself and make new discoveries. You just have to get out there and do it. Do it while you are free from obligations of children and mortgages. Do it while you have the security of a career, but the flexibility of a young, single, 20-something.
2006-10-11 07:27:59 · answer #3 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not, you're young. Bridget Jones didn't worry about all that until she was at least 30. You have much less to worry about than most 24 year olds if you are a high earner, most people your age rely on finding a partner to be able to get on the property ladder. Stop looking for love and you'll find it. Start paying into a pension scheme when you can though, pensioners are more likely to live in poverty than any other social group and a state pension just isn't enough for most.
2006-10-11 05:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by Laura 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dude, as long as you're getting layed regularly, what difference does it make??
You can get a mortgage aytime you like (assuming you've got a decent enough job)...As for relationships, well, I "experienced" the field as much as I could, before getting married at 33. 2 years on, I still want to shag around and wish I had done so much more when I was 24!!!
My advice, have a long term plan of where you want to be at 30, 35 & 40 and makine sure you're heading in the right dirrection, but at the same time go out and enjoy life, GO GET LAYED AS MUCH AS YOU CAN!!!!!!!
2006-10-11 04:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
GOD NO!! What's wrong with you. Stop worrying and enjoy it whilst you can. Please don't listen to anyone on here saying 'get a life plan'?? What the hell is that all about. You say you've sorted out a career, and earn well, the rest will come when it comes. Mate, everyone who's in a relationship now, will get divorced in their 30's and be gutted they didn't have their youth. Do it now, then settle down later, if you want to.
2006-10-11 04:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you're still young enjoy it, there is no rush to settle dpwn and such, but you should start making goals at least to get good credit so one day you will own a home and maybe go to college so you can have a great job, it sucks living on min. wage and paying rent which sucks up everything you have, then you still have to figure out how to other bills and have gas money and so on. It's good to prepare, to make a plan, you'll thank yourself for doing so in the future.
2006-10-11 04:38:00 · answer #7 · answered by countrygrl278 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i am 27 and i dont have a life plan! I was dealt with my cards before i had a choice 3 kids later and a crappy husband. But like most people i have had choices yes but not the ones i could accept (sorry to ramble on)
2006-10-11 04:41:40 · answer #8 · answered by jules 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any of the above and I'm 25 if that makes you feel any better!
Oh and I love my life - who needs rules, mortgage repayments and a boyfriend to tie you down anyway??
Being 24 is all about friends, parties and enjoying your freedom.
2006-10-11 04:39:52 · answer #9 · answered by Rosie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"God damn it, an entire generation pumping gas and waiting tables; they're slaves with white collars.
Advertisements have them chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy sh*t they don't need. We are the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place. We have no great war, or great depression. Our great war is a spiritual war. Our great depression is our lives. We've all been raised by television to believe that one day we'll all be millionaires and movie gods and rock stars -- but we won't. And we're learning slowly that fact. "
Stop caring about sh*t like that, and enjoy life, do what u feel and think is right... Just do what YOU want to do...
2006-10-11 04:47:10 · answer #10 · answered by Pyp 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋