A couple weeks ago my boyfriend and i went out and he ended drinking a little too much. well we got back to his place and after the whole car ride home of us arguing because he was being rude to our waitress and just being stupid and things got out of control he didnt want me to leave so he took my car keys and ended up scaring the sh*t out of me. He didn't hit me but it was esscalated enough where the next day my parents and i went to the police department and told them what had happened. they then escorted me to his home so i could get my things. I didnt file a report mostly because he has a 12 year old daughter i care about a lot. and didnt want her to be taken from her dad( see her mom died when she was 3) . Well its been about two weeks and weve talked and he swears he doesnt remember anything and thinks someone slipped something in his drink(which could very well be) and i still love him so much. But everyone who knows what happened will hate me if i go back. please give advice
2006-10-11 04:33:05 · 14 answers · asked by jenniebs4654 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Please don't go back. It's just not worth the risk. If "everyone" dislikes him, there are probably reasons for that which you're overlooking. His supposed lack of memory and lame idea about something being put into his drink (what motive would someone have for doing that?) are poor covers for his tendency to substance abuse and possible alcoholism. Here's something to chew over: even in the unlikely event that someone had put something into his drink, while some drugs do cause memory loss, there is no substance that CAUSES the rudeness and aggression that you describe. Those are HIS personality traits, uncovered or enhanced by liquor, perhaps, but what you saw was him.
2006-10-11 04:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a decision that only you can make, but if nothing else, I would give it some time... besides, what kind of place (or friends) do you hang out in that someone would slip something in his drink? I think you sound really young and are actually willing to believe the excuse that he doesn't remember. I promise you he remembers. He may be a great guy and it could have been one slip-up...but unfortunately, when people display possibly violent behavior -- it's real and it could get worse. Just be careful -- your parents care about you. I would just give it some time (away from him) and see how you feel in a month or so -- you may realize you're happier without him.
2006-10-11 04:44:47 · answer #2 · answered by Ducky S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that he doesn't remember even if nothing was slipped into his drink. Do you want to be around him when it happens again? If he blacks out like that when he gets drunk, he could kill you and not remember it in the morning. Does that make it OK? It doesn't sound like he is taking any responsibility for his actions. Keep in mind that he was sober and alert when he started drinking. Has he said anything about not drinking so much? Or is he just using the excuse that someone slipped something in his drink? Does he feel bad about what he did or does he feel like he is not responsible because he can't remember? If he was not in control last time, what will happen the next time he is not in control? Do you want to be with him to find out? I wouldn't.
2006-10-11 04:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too close to the situation to see what is really happening. He is obviously able to get drunk and be abusive to you (mentally or otherwise) and then not remember it. There's nothing to prevent him from doing it again and you don't need to live like that. I'm sorry for his motherless daughter. But he has to grow up and be able to take care of her himself. It doesn't look like he's a good person to be with. Sorry. But he has some bad tendencies. I don't think anyone slipped anything into his drink, he just had too much. (but claiming that means he's paranoid and looking for someone else to blame). Pretty soon he'd be blaming you too. Get out while you can, or don't go back, whatever the case may be. Good luck to you and God Bless.
2006-10-11 04:40:36 · answer #4 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For god's sake woman your boyfriend is a father of a 12 yr old girl and he is acting like this ? Get away from him he is not responsible and should have his daughter removed from him. Jeez how much more do you need to see of this? what are you going to do wait for him to start beating you under the guise of being drunk or saying that someone put something in his drink? Wise up girl there is a reason ppl do not like him and maybe this is only one of the reasons. Many more you may not know about . Please for your sake stay away from him and find someone more responsible and mature.
2006-10-11 04:46:22 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, whatever everyone else thinks shouldn't affect your decision. If you love him and he didn't hurt you and you think he's telling the truth than go back to him. No one is in your relationship to see the truth but you and him so they can't know the entire story. Tell him you want to come back to him but that you'd feel a lot better about it if he could work on drinking less. If he agrees to manage his alcohol a bit better than maybe that could put your friends and family more at ease.
2006-10-11 04:36:48 · answer #6 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should of been responsible enough not to be put in a situation where someone could slip him anything. What kind of father, well responsible father, would allow this to happen?
2006-10-11 04:36:36 · answer #7 · answered by Maestro 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone could have slipped him an ****** pill, they tend to last a lifetime, otherwise he seems like a sweet guy, everyone else is probably wrong about him
2006-10-11 04:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best advice is dont go back. What happened that night WILL happen again and it will happen quicker and quicker each time. I know his kind.
2006-10-11 04:37:08 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what makes YOU happy. if this behavior was truly "not him" he will get your family and friend's approval back eventually.
2006-10-11 04:35:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋