I plan on waiting for marriage and my boyfriend of 2 months and 26 days (we knew each other for a while before this)says he can wait...Last night when we were talking and something I said made him realize that I was really serious about this...He said he didn't know I was serious.......He says he really respects my decision and he will wait with me because he loves me... My question now...have any of you had any successful long term abstinent relationships? Please, no negative comments...
2006-10-11 04:18:03 · 13 answers · asked by Priceless Purity 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If a guy truly cares about you and supports what you believe in, he'll respect your wishes. I don't think it matters if it's for religious reasons or personal ones.... you shouldn't have sex if you're not ready for it. I was with my boyfriend for three years and we didn't have sex. It sounds like you've found yourself a great guy. If he's been honest with you in the past, you have no reason not to trust him on this as well.
2006-10-11 04:30:44 · answer #1 · answered by deepwaters05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you have to know that it will be far easier for you to do this than him. I am not saying he won't or can't but if he is at a point he wants to marry you waiting for an unspecified amount of time will be hard to do.
Now if you know when you will be ready and you both agree to that he will be fine with it if he truly loves you. But do not just leave him wondering if it will ever happen. There will be a point he may just move on.
2006-10-11 11:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean no negative comments... u do want the truth don't you!! You need to remember he is a MAN he is not going to wait on you especially if he is used to getting sex whenever he wants from past relationships. He may say he will wait, but belive me he will be out there doing his thang and be so slick about it that you will never know. Don't be nieve... remember he's human and humans especially men have needs. They can't hold out like females can.
2006-10-11 11:22:57 · answer #3 · answered by icyu_nvme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you plan on being serious about this then I would not recommend you waiting some 5 years...my boyfriend and I didn't have sex for the first year, not because I was waiting for marriage I was just waiting for myself to be ready to make that kind of commitment to him and myself. I've been with him three years now and couldn't be happier.
2006-10-11 11:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I haven't had success in that. Sorry. I wish I had, but the truth is, people end up in different places in their life and heading in different directions, and if this happens, you usually end up going your seperate ways. But, it has worked for others before, and there is NO reason why it can't or shouldn't work for you if he really loves you enough to wait as long as it takes to walk you and your beautiful self down the isle. Blessed be.......
2006-10-11 11:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ammmmmmmm.........i have never had one.
Have no intentions of trying to have one either. I am not going to wait untill i get married to find out that the man i married is bad in bed. When that happens you have no choice but to take it. It is different when two people dating and they cheat on each other, but it is different when you are married and you cheat.
I ain't going through that.
2006-10-11 11:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can hold it until marriage, great! If you cannot and God forbid you break up, you will be the loser. Anyway, after marriage, you can have as much sex as you like, where you like, like it or not, etc etc. There's no hurry. If he says he understands, and you believe his sincerity, good! Waiting is GOOD!
2006-10-11 11:22:32 · answer #7 · answered by someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh WOW this is the sort of question that the religious freaks LOVE but no, you will end up disappointed on your wedding night and forever after, while he will be banging them two at a time behind your sexually repressed back.
2006-10-11 11:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It may very well be his intention to respect your decision to wait but as time goes on, it will get harder and harder. I mean...more difficult. ;)
2006-10-11 11:20:50 · answer #9 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look at jessica simpson, but seriously, i respect you for wanting to wait.
2006-10-11 11:21:40 · answer #10 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋