I have recently started having strong feelings for this girl I know, but for reasons I wont say who, and I have no idea what to do, I like her, and would love to tell her but, I cant, She has a BF you see and although I'm giving her help (Since that's all I'm good for) in her relationship troubles, I cant help but wish she would some how fall for me. But any way that's my story as you see, but I still have no idea, should I tell her, keep helping or what ever?
2006-10-11 04:15:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Close mouths dont eat. She may feel the same about you and dont know how to tell you. She comes to you for help why not to her own boyfriend. Just tell her man.
2006-10-11 04:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by Luckys Charm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Andy you sound a lovely guy , but this girl FRIEND of yours has a boy friend, everyone has troubles some time or other in their relation ships , but she comes to you for your advise and as your her friend she tells you things that are private but she trusts your judgement in helping her solve her problems. At the mo you should keep on helping her as she needs your friendship, and if her relationship does come to an end , you will be there to help her get her life sorted back to normal and she will thank you, maybe and this is just a maybe , that she has seen how kind you have been to her she may look at you in a different way??? Who knows, I would not tell her your feelings just yet, just abide your time and help her out, your a true friend then. But if they do break up give it a short while and tell her you have feelings for her more than friendship, then she can be single and have a clear mind how to answer you , best of luck to you mate , don't rush it though OK , lv Debbie j x
2006-10-11 04:36:59 · answer #2 · answered by bonniebella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Andy this is really difficult, because you may be helping her for the wrong reasons. So is it fair to keep on helping when she's in the dark about how you feel? Also I don't think it's doing anything for your self esteem when you say (since that's all you're good for) I feel for you and also think you need to look after yourself and not indulge in something that may only end in tears for you. Come clean tell her how you feel. Then at least she has a choice. If you continue you are damaging your self and not being honest with her. So your friendship is not based on truth. I know people do function in relationships without truth, however i think truth is better for both party's.
2006-10-11 04:39:35 · answer #3 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough situation because since you are helping her you don't want her to feel you were using her emotional state to get in better with her... it just depends on how her relationship with her bf is going, how long they have been together and if she's even happy with him or just putting up with some bs... most people stay with their bf/gf because they don't know how to get out or they don't think theres anyone else out there for them... continue being her friend and well try makin subtle hints of more... don't smother her in the decision but let here know its there...
2006-10-11 04:22:26 · answer #4 · answered by imperfect_serenity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her ... next time she comes to you for help with her troubles, tell her you have a trouble of your own!
It might be the last thing she wants to hear, but at least then you'll both know where you stand. If she has any feelings for you, I think she'll at least not dismiss you out-of-hand, and if her relationship is particularly rocky, may even split with her boyfriend and start dating you.
2006-10-11 04:27:05 · answer #5 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you have these feelings for her and see how she reacts. Sure it's a gamble but if you sit on your hands nothing will ever happen. Maybe all she needs to hear is that someone else is attracted to her for her to dump the guy she's having trouble with. If not sure it'll hurt but you'll get over it and at least you'll have tried.
2006-10-11 04:21:18 · answer #6 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her how you feel but let her know that you dont want to be the reason to break up her relationship. You just want to be her friend right now as she is with someone.
2006-10-11 04:24:00 · answer #7 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing you can do is tell her becasue its goign to stress you out not to.
Iknow its scary but what else are you goign to do carry on llike this how wuill anything change unless you do something about it she has a bf so she probably aint going to say anything if she did have feelings for you she cant do anything about it unless she knows.
Ihope you get the answer you want form her good luck
2006-10-11 04:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by bryony_ash83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude if she has a boy friend, why are you falling for her......... and if you like her just tell her. If she likes you back she will leave the boy friend and go with you.
Instead of keeping in your chest, it's best to tell it..... you don't want to keep quiet and then later find out she is the mother of a kid and the father is not you LOL
2006-10-11 04:19:23 · answer #9 · answered by bathams 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her how you feel but let her know that you will always be her friend no matter what she feels for you, and see how that works.
2006-10-11 04:18:35 · answer #10 · answered by crazytown 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋