He is not a bad guy and hes very good dad, but he always stays after work drinking with his friends till 7 in the morning,he does it at least 3 times a week, he loves been out meeting people all the time and he always has an excuse to drink. We've got separated 4 times because of this.
please help me to NOT care any more,cuz its driving me crazy.
2006-10-11 04:07:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am sorry to say, it sounds like your husband has a very serious drinking problem. You should get him some help. If he refuses, you should leave.
2006-10-11 04:25:28 · answer #1 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you that at this point he does not need you at all. All he WANTS is a place to return to after he is exhausted. I should think after separating from him for 4 times you would have decided for yourself that enough is enough! What are you waiting for? There is no insecurity in your relationship - there cannot be. Insecurities creep up only when you have had him around and rely on his support. So what is it that is holding you back? Oh yeah! you say he is a very good dad! Do you know what that means? Good dads are at home every night and tuck in their kids, kiss them on their foreheads and even tell them stories at bed time. So dear girl, give up that "he's not a bad guy" thing and think of your life. Move on.
On the other hand, if you are dependant on him financially, then you will have to carefully handle this. Talk to his/your parents or close friends and seek their help. Good luck.
2006-10-11 11:45:19 · answer #2 · answered by someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be a good guy but he isnt much of a husband. As for the good dad he needs to be spending more time with his kids. Start by seeking counseling together he also needs to address his drinking as he has a family now. Most of all he needs to grow up. Tonight or tomorrow when he comes home tell him the next time and you and the kids are gone. This time mean it and dont come back till he gets the loss through his head
2006-10-11 11:12:31 · answer #3 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you unhappy as you claim and have separated 4 times already you should take the final step and go for a divorce. Don't get me wrong i believe a married couple should work to keep a marriage together if at all possible, but if after 4 separations he hasn't done anything to fix this problem then he must not take the marriage seriously.
2006-10-11 11:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is an alcoholic. I suggest you go to some Al-anon meetings, the ones for the spouses and families of alcoholics. You probably won't stop caring about the father of your children any time soon, but if you confront him and make him accountable, he may decide that he needs to change. Often addicts have to hit bottom before they are ready to realize they even have a problem.
2006-10-11 11:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by Teddie M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is definitely a problem and I think he needs help. AA sounds like the right path. However, if you leave him on top of his recovery, he may not be able to quit.
2006-10-11 11:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by BigDanInTX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave. It's apparent that nights out with the boys as frequent as this, is more important than you and your kids. No matter how much he shows off at home. He has responsibility now. Tell him to man up.
2006-10-11 11:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No one can make you NOT care anymore if it's driving you crazy. I have a strong feeling he is not with his same sex friends. It's very likely he is having a mistress.
2006-10-11 12:38:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an alcoholic drinks more than once a week he needs profesional help...believeme he will denied he is an alcoholic but he is........you will have to leave him if he dont look for help/
2006-10-11 11:12:52 · answer #9 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make yourself NOT care. You can't change him. You are left with a choice here. Either you accept him as he is or you move on.
2006-10-11 11:13:35 · answer #10 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋