My first serious and last serious Yahoo question - why the hysteria about sex with teenagers?

Question

In reading Yahoo answers (not to mention reading the newspapers), it has become obvious that people in the US view sex with teenagers as the most hideous imagineable crime, one that should be punished by castration, death, etc. Why? I wouldn't want to argue in favor of it, and I know the serious and lasting emotional impacts it can have, but it seems like people get much more worked up about it then they do about beating kids, emotionally destroying them, etc. There are worse things than sex, even for teenagers. I believe this is the 21st century version of the witch hunt. So go ahead, start with the e-mails telling me I'm a pervert and you're reporting me to big brother and I deserve to be in prison for life.

Answer 1

..its not right to.. torture, kill ,beat ,starve, neglect or have sex with a teenager............. I am not calling you names or reporting just stating my views

Answer 2

I get your point and would like to add some sense to it:
First, sex with teenagers is illegal, and should be treated as such. The border get slightly morally unclear (though very shrap legally) when you talk about a 18 and 16 yr old couple.
But when it's about a 35 and 16 yr old couple (not trying to get more extreme yet), you can suspect the elder is in the position of taking advantage and abusing the teen, and that's what the law is trying to prevent.

While by Beating or emotionally abusing a teenager someone is surely trying to harm them, in a sexual relationship you can say there isn't necessarily a bad motive.
Theoretically speaking, such couple can be true lovers with all the good things of it, but the LAW stands to put the line and protect the innocent ones.
In this case (21th century or not) teens, in general, are proved to be not yet ready to be totally responsible of their own acts and to chose right.

If you don't yet agree, study the law deeper and try to offer alternatives, let's say, by giving legal understanding for young couples of a teen and a legally mature person to some degree.

The big waves of such act might be too much for your taste, and that can be true in comparison for the other examples you set, but it's good to have a focus on some matters every once in awhile.
I don't think it's a "witch hunt", and "Big brother" is sure to be a very little one, only trying to use this hysteria to gain more political power over a specific incident (as the facts not yet to be proved true or false).

I don't think you are a pervert, by the ideas you gave.
Surely enough, perverts should be dealt with all force given by law.
As for normal people, would advise ALL to keep their hands clean and be EXTRA sensitive when it comes to dealing with helpless people and teenagers.

Answer 3

It is no less or no more awful than beatings and abuse, it's just what's hitting the media more right now and think that's because we've become a bit immune to the media coverage of abuse (especially involving teenagers vs very young children) and the sex sells better. It is emotionally damaging to them though so I'm glad it's getting media spotlight. It's confusing for a teenager to have someone in an caregiver/adult role making sexual advances. I have a friend whose teacher slept with him when he was 16 and even though he wasn't a virgin, it really did screw him up in the head. The guilt he felt was tremendous. It was different than sleeping with someone his own age. Maybe one day the media will start covering physical/emotional abuse again.

Answer 4

No one ever said teenagers having sex is worse than physical abuse, but teenagers having sex can suffer from emotional distress. They are not mature enough to handle the emotions that go along with it. Many of them also don't use the proper protection and can destroy their future by getting pregnant or getting an std.

The teenage years are more delicate than most teenagers themselves want to believe. They are struggling to feel grown up but have yet to venture out into the world and discover who they are or deal with the consequences of such actions. They are emotionally vulnerable whether they know it or not.

Answer 5

Oh bugger the bible....that is not and never will be a reason given the amount of pedophilia in the church-loving people.

Its not about biology either, as children come into hormonal awakening when they hit puberty and historically speaking marry were promised as wives as young as 12.

Its about psychology. Its about intention. Its about coping. Children seek love, closeness...as they were used to when they were babies.....cuddles, stroking, affection, kisses. As children get older and less cute, they miss that from their parents because the natural thing in life is to grow away from family, so one can bond with another and mate for life (procreation etc).

And thats where the intention problem comes in. If a child has had a stable background they will experience puppylove (one that is of someone who is unavailable and SAFE...like a popstar or beloved uncle). They have to try out their ability to love BUT if it were reciprocated and acted upon...they would be terrified because it would no longer be a fantasy under their own control.

If a child has been taken avantage of at a younger age they lose the ability to reason well...as they already lost any control they had....and see the only way to "love" is via abuse. So they get used time and time again...seeking love but only getting lust in return. Boys mature later than women and some adult males dont know when to recognise that they are hurting the girls they pretend to like....or they do but dont care as long as they have a hole to stick their doodles into.

The frontal lobe (emotional brain is not fully developed until the latter part of the teens)...thats why so many go nutsy for a while and do "unthinking or stupid" things. Some translate into adulthood well....others dont due to low IQ, drugs, low self-esteem, psychological problems.

The sex with teenagers hype is there (if its there) because people are becoming aware that, just like the good parenting skills hype......that so many people are getting hurt and there is a way to stop it......via counselling, making people think before they act....with empathy and commonsense. If you loved a teenager...you would want the best for them...and that includes being appropraiet in dealing with them...so you recognise that they ARE still kids and puppylove doesnt translate into doing something that they are not really ready for...even if they are too damaged to see it...dont add to their abuse. Love them in a good romancing, happy way until they know their own mind and body enough for it to be real FOR THEM.

Any kid pushing for ACTUAL sex would be way too hurt or damaged to know they are hurting themselves more...so an adult should be able to control themselves...and wait for the kid to be an adult, so they dont mess up the growth process. Think with your heart and brain...not your hormones.

Answer 6

So you like teenagers, you should really stay away from kids you ped you are probably one of those fat computer geeks that tries to
get kids on the Internet and then you try to talk about the other horrible things in the world to keep the attention off you.

Answer 7

well i dont care i never did it before so it dosent matter what ppl say about teen sex tho i whis they would not point the finger they where young once too so us teens are not to blame there are to many restritions on us and we naturally try to brake the rules there shouldnt be an age to who ever you sleep with eather like my friend is 14 and dating and sleeping with a 24 year old man

Answer 8

i definitely do not think of that it has as lots to do with babies not understanding the an infection hazards because it does with the reality that anal intercourse is desirable. it is becoming much less taboo and extra suited in the extra youthful generations. and additionally, you are able to not get preggers from taking it in the bum. the reality which you would be able to settlement an infection by anal is pressed at college sexual education classes. Does the learn say they are having unprotected anal intercourse?

Answer 9

I cant see your problem.

Maybe your thinking about it too much. Take a break from the news for a week.

Answer 10

sex with teens is against the law