I know it sounds harsh, but Im serious. I am a family oriented person. This girl is my age(35) single and has one daughter. OK. She is a recreational drug user. Thats really none of my business, except she asks me to babysit. I usually do because her daughter is pleasent to be around. I know if I say no she will send her daughter to her Oxy dealer for the night.
Here is the deal. She NEEDS me for every freakin thing. If I dont answer the phone after the the sixth or seventh time she will come knock on my door. When I finally answer the door........all she wants to do is share a smoke and talk about her wild night of drinkin.
I just want her to leave me alone. I dont want to be mean. I really dont care if she thinks Im rude, I just want to get my point across. We are neighbors, and our children are friends, so I do have to be nice.
2006-10-11 03:26:03 · 21 answers · asked by Sqrlll 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell her to just leave you alone, that the way she lives her life isnt how you want to live yours. and you dont have room for that sh** in your life.
2006-10-11 03:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by blondie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she isn't being a responsible parent by taking the drugs say it forcefully then hopefully she'll think that ur rude and won't want to be around her. If this doesn't stop her jst avoid like the plague don't answer the door or phone this woman isn't ur responsiblity and neither is her kid. If she carries on just tell her brutally f**k off hope it works
2006-10-11 03:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by amy_aka_armygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy she's achieved an excellent determination on you yet i'm gonna attempt to not choose. To be honest you ought to've dealt with it bettter yet you have not any reason to apologise. Confront her with the reality that she's been messaging different adult males and lay your enjoying cards out. tell her you don't get excitement from this and if she does not stop then you're leaving...except of course you like a cheat as a woman buddy.
2016-10-19 05:03:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 2 ways of looking at it, they however lead to the same conclusion.
1. If this person is really your friend, then out of respect for her and your relationship you need to be honest with her. She should know how you feel. And I think it will carry more weight if she hears it from you, as a friend.
2. She might not be such a friend afterall but a bother. In that case, for the sake of peace of mind, you should outrightly tell her to stay away from you.
Therefor the conclusion is that YOU have to tell her the truth.
2006-10-11 03:49:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand ur urge to distance urself without being rude.Next time she comes around to tell her wild stories,give a polite smile but FIRMLY tell her that u have some VERY important work to attend to,so s need the time alone to urself:that'll u get back to her soon.Or if she's still persistent,let her in,give her the usual drink she wants,but go about ur household chores(Invent some if ur not left with any!)n pay intermittent attention to her.She'll soon tire of an inattentive audience.
when she gives u work to do,forget intentionally to get it done_she cant really blame u,with all the work n responsibilities U need to tend to...,isnt it?
Give it a try all the same..
2006-10-11 03:40:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand.
Maybe when she does talk about her wild nights or drug use, you can subtly show your disinterest and disapproval by saying something like "That kind of thing really isnt something I feel I need" or "Ive never found it necessary for me to 'use' to have a good time". That way, you are getting your point across without being too brash.
2006-10-11 03:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose u do have to be nice if she is ur neighbour coz the last thing u need is to have a ***** of a neighbour, i've had one before and it wasnt pleasant she made my life hell. Tell her to wake up to herself and start thinking of her daughter coz in the end her daughter will end up hating her for all the **** she has done and just tell her u cant keep doing everything for her as u do have ur own life
2006-10-11 03:30:59 · answer #7 · answered by Vicki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her down easy I'd say, that is if you dont want to be rude. Say you're busy doing something else, make excuses but do babysit or talk with her every now and then though. If she refuses to budge, just tell her how things are. You're not her slave or anything.
2006-10-11 03:28:41 · answer #8 · answered by Bastard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ring child services and tell them to get her kid out of that situation, when she comes knocking on the door just tell her that u dont want anything to do with her. She sounds like a freakin tool that needed to go into rehab yesterday.
2006-10-11 03:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that your next door neighbor just got a new job as a Narcotics Agent for the County.
2006-10-11 03:32:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to be nice to this emotional vampire? What does she do for you? If you want to be nice to someone, be nice to her daughter, and call Child Services, and break the cycle of behavior..she can't be much of a role model.
2006-10-11 03:31:09 · answer #11 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋