I am a male, I have a friend who is a female. We are (or at least was) close friends. She invited me to her high school dance as friends, we had a great time together and took pictures. But then after that saturday, we ended up argueing and fighting. I took my rage on to her and now she thinks I am anal. I didn't mean to hurt at all. I had a bad week after the dance. We concluded that we both need space. One day she posted up on her myspace saying "the closest friends hurt you the most" I didn't respond to it because I know she needs her space. What should I do to restore a dying friendship???
2006-10-11 03:19:18 · 18 answers · asked by Pablo M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, you were wrong to take everything out on her. As your friend, she is hurt and angry that you did not have enough self-control for something which she may have had no control over. The best thing I can offer is to send her a friendship card and write a personal note in it apologizing and how much you value your friendship and mail it to her. She probably doesn't want to hear from you and doesn't want the pressure right now, but most people can deal with reading a card to sort out feelings/thoughts. A great friend knows your weaknesses and strengths and should be able to realize that you were out of sorts and then realize this is not your typical behavior and overlook some of it. This is no excuse for your behavior but everyone has faults. I hope you can salvage your friendship, good luck.
2006-10-11 03:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that she "likes" you.. and you may have disappointed her in some way at the dance. She may have wanted you to make a move... Did you want to?? Have you ever thought about that with her?? Women are awfully cryptic at times..But this one seems simple. The girl has feelings for you.
To revive a wilting friendship with her,
just say sorry. And mean it. Tell her she means a lot to you. And make some plans to do something together really soon.
2006-10-11 03:26:29 · answer #2 · answered by tui 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time, and hopefully things will ease off but most of all you need to admit you were wrong (if you believe you were) snd say sorry. It sounds like you and her have more than friendship and I think you both need to clarify what level you are at in the relationship as maybe one of you wants more than the other, therefor the relationship will stay strained.
2006-10-11 03:25:46 · answer #3 · answered by lazy lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude go to her house and try talking to her explain that you never meant to hurt her and that you are dying to be friends again as it really hurts not being friends treat to a movie and then dinner and then talk. Just tell her to give you a chance to make it right and not let how many years of friendship go down the drain.
2006-10-11 03:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by antionette_jazzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a picture of you 2 together and make a copy of it and buy a card (or make one) and send it to her with something she likes a lot. Forget flowers they die, maybe a new music cd and drop it off to her house and have her parents give it to her.
Know one of the songs and take a phrase from one of the ongs that really do apply and when you and her hear that song you will know how much each other means to another.
2006-10-11 03:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by cruisingalong 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the space she's asking for. Once things cool off a bit, try e-mailing or sending her a letter telling her you are sorry about your behavior. It sounds like her feelings are hurt so you need to give her time to get over that.
2006-10-11 03:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by Shelley L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly treasure this friendship, kindly apologize to the young lady. Explain to her that you are sorry for taking out your rage on her and you must promise her that instead of getting angry, maybe you can talk to her about what might be disturbing you.
Buy her a token, something she will cherish.
2006-10-11 03:28:58 · answer #7 · answered by mrlynphilip 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apologize. Tell her you know she needs space and you're cool with that but that you're sorry that things spiraled out of control the way they did. And that you just wanted her to know that. Then give her a week or so and give her a call to find out how she's doing. Maybe she just needs time to cool off.
2006-10-11 03:23:25 · answer #8 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with "she may like you". I also agree with apologizing. Finding a picture of the two of you is a cute idea. When a guy apologizes with a cute gesture, no girl will stay mad.
Good Luck
2006-10-11 03:29:11 · answer #9 · answered by Sqrlll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write her a letter saying you appreciate that she needs space, but that you will always be here for her if she needs you, tell her that your friendship meant everything to you. Then leave her alone, let her come to you.
2006-10-11 03:24:36 · answer #10 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋