What do you have to do when you found out your husband?

Question

is talking behind your back with his family and friends!!!!!!! how can you explain to him what happens in home have to stay in home?????Dont you think is annoying???everybody knows even what kind of underwear you use.........what you will do???

Answer 1

sweety, i think ur husband is a bit immature and needs some counseling..just spk with him face to face and tell his as to how disgusting and annoying it is to go and tell his people abt wat all happens b/w u and him..i don't think he is doing these things intentionally, somtimes guys will really have a tight bonding with their family and friends and they wud have made it a habit since their childhood to reveal everything as to wat happens in their day to day life...i think he will be o.k if u show him some love and make him realise that wat he is doing rly makes u feel uneasy or uncomfortable...if he loves u truly , i think he wud surely listen to u and stop revealing people abt things happening b/w u and him...hope this helps...take care

Answer 2

Well if you've spoken to him about this on several occassions and he's still doing it, me----if I were walking in your shoes, I would most likely treat him the way he treats me. Now I know 2 wrongs don't make a right, but if he doesn't get some type of clue on how this is hurting your feelings, I would either do what he does to me, or kick his a*s to the curb. But you have to remember, all the advice that you're going to be receiving might not help. The people that are answering these questions may have never walked in your shoes before. We could only suggest how it would affect us and what we would do about it. You're going to have to stand tuff, plant your feet firmly to the ground and give him some type of ultimatum. Men don't like ultimatums! They think of them as threats. However, if you want something stopped, sometime you have to what a girls gotta do. I would even stop having sex with him. Possibly make his a*s sleep in a seperate room. Who want to make love to a man who doesn't respect your wishes. Not me! Honey don't you know that we women have all the power when it comes down to a man? Trust me, if you start asserting yourself as far as you wanting some changes to be made about his attitude, there is so much that you can do to make him get his a*s in check! I bet once his balls start backing up with fluids because your a*s has gone on strike, that will get his attention. And he forces you that's when 911 comes in. Girl I'll call the police in a heartbeat! That's why you pay taxes! Use your rights as a woman.

Answer 3

My future husband and his sister-in-law are very close. My man came to me and said that he wanted to talk to me about something and he didn't want to hurt my feelings, I already know what it was. I said OK. He said M. I said yea he said I been talking to ?i??and we agreed that you should lose some weight. My mind said what the F$%K but my mouth said nothing. He also said I also been talking to my niece about it which she is only 17 or 18 . My emotions wanted to tell him off, and I remember how it was with my ex husband during the end of my marriage and how I would have curse him out if he would say anything that would pi$$ me off. I went in to the bathroom and cried. after that I gave him the silent treatment, he felt it and later that night he said sorry if he said anything to upset me. I think he may have thought that it might happen something else that I might have been upset about. You have ever right to be upset. It hurts and it's unfair. I never told him how I felt and my self esteem as been bruised ever since . I am very beautiful and and sexy yes I need to lose some weight many of us does. I am not a monster and I don't look like one. I really have not recover from that one.

Answer 4

It is a bit strange, usually, men don't talk like this, it is women who keep gossiping like this. You should talk to your husband and make him understand that certain things are private and should not be told in public even if it is his family. Every time he does it , point out his mistake and show him that you don't like his behavior and that you are losing respect for him.....I think soon he will realize his mistake and if even that does not work then embarrass him in public by tell his secret in front of all, he will be hurt and then will realize is mistake. I admire you for your patience. hope he will stop this annoying behavior

Answer 5

He has no concept of what respect is. He has no respect for you, your feelings or privacy. He's trying to alleviate himself of some kind of guilt by pointing out all your faults. Additionally, if he's talking about mundane things, he's probably just a social clod whose uncouth. Kick his butt out for a couple weeks! Why are all of them "allowing" him to talk like this? The friends and family should stick up for you and tell him to shut up and show some respect for his wife!!

Answer 6

Sorry, girl. Just keep telling him. Try to get in on the conversations. My hubby calls his Mom and tells her our problems too much. Trust me I know what you feel!! I was always taught and advised that I am to communicate with my man and no one else but obviously him and his momma think differently. Again, just keep telling him, and when he's on the phone talking about your business, pick up the other phone and say you may as well participate since its your biz! Meddling's a b!#@h!

Answer 7

On occasion, there needs to be a discussion about what makes you uncomfortable around your friends and family. There has to be some privacy. If he doesn't understand that, do it once to him and see how he reacts. Tell some absolutely rotten story about him that will embarrass him. But only do that if he doesn't' get it from a regular, calm conversation.

Answer 8

Suicide - I did it and so can you

Firstly catch him and then just go really crazy, showing him that you're upset and threaten to break up with him if he does it ever again. But be very angry, do it in front of his family and throw something at him (nothing of any value or that will hurt him - maybe a small book)

Answer 9

tell him that those things are personal and should stay between the two of you, the way it is supposed to be.
Sometimes my dad does that but it is only because he thinks that the stories are funny, my mom is a good sport about it but sometimes she gets annoyed and puts a stop to it.
Just talk to him about it, i bet he does not even know how he is upsetting you.
remember, most men are more insensitive than women.

Answer 10

Your husband should never talk behind your back..he is supposed to be on your side in all things. You need to set him straight about this. It violates your privacy, it shows no respect, and it's just plain wrong.

Answer 11

I'd be telling him....look there are things I know about you and the one thing you do not want me to do is go around telling it. Run your mouth about our personal business again and next time I will sing like a canary. And don't put it past me to tell your family things about you that will leave them speechless and in shock.