I went to hospital 3 times 3 years ago. I accused her of having an afair and last year I caught her emailing this black guy named John. I admit our sex life was not the best. I forgave her then I caught him saying to her to meet hm at his place... I forgave her again but I took away her e-bay account and check book. Then I followed her and she was coming out of some apartments. She said she was on the way to the store. Then she said she should move out to her Moms. I agreed. Now I want her to come back with my son and she won't. I know I should hang it up but I will try anything to get my son back in my life. She lives 1200 miles away and it is too far to go.
2006-10-11 03:01:28 · 13 answers · asked by bush_is_an_idot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was taking my meds. They do have a warning on the side it makes one sleepy. Before we got married she had another boyfriend.
2006-10-11 04:40:29 · update #1
She doesn't love you......what do you want from her.........if she cheat on you even if your sex life is not good she is unfaithful to you and her commitment let her go.....nothing to do....start over, about the child you have to find the way to stay in touch with him he is yyours too
2006-10-11 03:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you are bi-polar doesn't mean you are retarded.
Get a lawyer. File for divorce and attempt to get custody or at the very least, liberal visitation with fairly negotiated shared travel costs. If absolutely necessary, consider moving to be closer to your child.
Incidentally, taking away your spouse's "eBay account and check book" is not going to stop someone from cheating, if they have their mind set on being unfaithful. You should have gone for counseling at that point. You obviously didn't trust her back then, and, as far as I'm concerned, once trust has been violated to the degree of infidelity, IT'S OVER.
Do the right thing for yourself and your child, and try to maintain your dignity here!!! Your illness did not create this problem. Your cheating wife did.
I am a woman and I say, shame on her. If she wants to behave like a single person, well, then, she should BE a single person. There is a part of the marriage vow that says, "In sickness and in health, for better or worse". If she didn't want to uphold her vows, then she should have either suggested counseling or filed for divorce. Cheating never solved anything.
2006-10-11 10:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by happy heathen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater. It doesn't seem as if she wants to get back together anyways. Fight for visitation rights to your son. Even though she's far away you should still get him for every other holiday and for a few weeks out of the summer. And even though you're a distant father, you can still have an impact on your son's life by staying in touch with him; write him a letter every week, call him often, etc.. Atleast that way he will know that you love him and miss him very much; and that can make all the difference in the world of a child. Good luck.
2006-10-11 10:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by brokeninthebox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is more to this, you being Bi-polor, are not telling us about how you was treating her, May be she had to put up with a lot of things from you, and with you not being so good to her, may be the reason, why she did what she did, by you keep accusing her, of being with someone else, then she did it! I am not saying she did the right thing, but that was her choice. Are you taking your medicine? That I am sure also has a lot to do with it, too!
May be it is time to have a serious talk with your wife, and see if the two of you can try and work things out, for your son"s sake, and tell her that you are going to try and do all of the things that you are suppose to do!
2006-10-11 10:39:51 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please accept my deepest sympathy. Bi-Polar is real and many people do not understand the ups and downs of it. There are many medications on the market today to help control this condition and they do work. Please get medical attention and listen to your doctors. Having someone to talk to such as a support group will also help greatly. Seeing your son is another problem. Have you been thru the legal system to find out your rights? You are his father. As for forgiving his mother, if you truly love someone you can be totally blind to their flaws. Seems she walked away from you when you needed her most and took something very precious with her. You have to decide whether or not she is capable of doing this to you again. Good luck to you and my prayers are with you.
2006-10-11 10:11:44 · answer #5 · answered by rose v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you dont have a choice, she moved out and will not move back in. Time to move on. As for you being Bi-Polor, that doesnt make a difference, medical problems doesnt give her and excuse. Question for you, why did you mention that the guy was black, it has no importance in the question?
2006-10-11 10:05:41 · answer #6 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone with Bi-Polar, you have to admit you are extremely difficult to live with and if you honest you will admit you are probably very selfish.
The question you need to ask is: can you provide a loving and healthy environment for your son?
Keep up with your discipline and medication if needed. Bi-Polar disorder is best controlled with a strict regimen of exercise and routine.
2006-10-11 10:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by Fire_God_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who want to cheat will use the excuse that you didn't scramble the eggs properly as well. Your "bi-polar" condition (over diagnosed today) is irrelevant and does not excuse her behavior. Get the child back, particularly if it is a boy. You are the father.
2006-10-11 10:12:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move closer so you can be near your son but give up on her. get a lawyer and protect your rights as a father and do it quickly. Every minute you waste makes it harder for you and your son.
2006-10-11 10:07:26 · answer #9 · answered by the_news_junky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a cheater. Move on with your life.
2006-10-11 10:03:44 · answer #10 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋