i think ive lost physical attraction to my fiance! he is so sweet we have been together for 3 years and engaged for two nearly! were only 19 and our sex life has gone down hill already! i know that things change in a long term relationship after a while but this isnt good, i love him very much as hes been my bestfriend for over 5 years!! we get on really well and have a laugh but i just dont want to sleep with him anymore...im always making excuses like im tired or i dont feel well! i dont no whats going on with me! i dont want to hurt him by breaking up with him id miss him like crazy! hes a good looking guy but why am i not attracted to him anymore. i even started to have sexual thoughts bout a couple of other guys!! whats going on!!!
2006-10-11 02:49:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Not to be judgmental...but I think the worst thing I ever did in my marriage is to have sex with my husband before marriage. Kevin Leman is a great Christian writer that will help with why you are having these feelings....So it isn't too late to start over and renew your relationship and focus on each other rather than sex.
2006-10-11 02:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by bamachick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Rebecca, It doesn't sound too good! Sex life downhill, not attracted anymore, always making excuses, dont want too sleep with him, etc, etc, Stop planning the wedding as you dont love this guy enough to marry him. Forget about hurting his feelings. Stop lying to him and be honest. He may suprise you and say the same thing! Good luck with those couple of guys you have been thinking about girl.
2006-10-11 02:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by marcus p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you got too used to him. i think you should try to not spend so much time with him. Like only see him on weekends so you can appreicate his company. If you cant do that then you need to have a talk with him about this. If your sex life is already starting to become a bore then you will end up cheating on him in the future because you are not sexually satisfied. This needs yo be resloved quick.
2006-10-11 02:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your moving on with your life and he is holding you back. you will hurt him butr at least if you ever loved this guy be honest and dont cheat to get out of the relationship. one for him because he doesnt deserve it and two for you so you can look in the mirror and say to yourself that you didnt cheat. dont marry this guy walk away. good luck dear
2006-10-11 02:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by lcox65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's going on is you're only 19 and your body's telling you that it's not time to settle down any time soon...TRUST me...i've been there and done that. You gotta play that field a little bit more. Just play safe!
2006-10-11 02:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by colleenjohn_vano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are falling out of love to me. You might want to be honest before you get married, or else you will really be sorry.
2006-10-11 02:53:07 · answer #6 · answered by Mujer Bonita 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it is what is. you are not attracted to him. Have you tried changing things up sexually? It may just be the same old routine?
2006-10-11 02:54:13 · answer #7 · answered by Joe B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very Normal. What you need is to spice up your sex life.
2006-10-11 02:53:39 · answer #8 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be that the same things happen when you do have sex. try something different and spice it up a bit
2006-10-11 02:52:31 · answer #9 · answered by waynekirsten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better figure this out before you get married!!
2006-10-11 02:52:41 · answer #10 · answered by wait362004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋