I stayed home with the kids through all this while he would leave home on
Thursday and come back on Tuesday. I did this for 1 1/2 yrs. Recently this man and I became close friends.
As time progressed, we fell in love. This man is his first cousin. I had nointentions of this happening. Tell me what do you think. Am I wrong? This man loves me and I love him also. I don't want to hurt him. My feelings for my hubby are different now. I asked him to leave but he won't. I don't want hime to know that the other man is his first cousin. Help me.
2006-10-11 02:44:45 · 8 answers · asked by Ms. Cool 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
All cheating is wrong. If you make a committment with someone then you should follow through. I wouldn't have stayed with my husband if he cheated on me, though. He would have been gone SO FAST he wouldn't have known what hit him.
2006-10-11 02:53:00 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, two wrongs are never right. Besides, you made a covenant with God when you said "I do", and if your husband cheated on you, that's HIS issue with God. You should have kept your end of the deal without stepping into the same bucket that your hubby did. Now, you are BOTH in the same boat. "Justified" or not, I feel that you are no better than he is now that you slept with his blood relative! Looks like you inadvertantly became the worst offender in this bad situation, charging interest on an already bad investment. You should have terminated the marriage before you became an offender yourself. I hope everything works out okay for you both. Peace
2006-10-11 09:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by rasputin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You are wrong. You are wrong for having an affair and even more wrong for having one with his cousin. I understand that he had an affair but that doesn't justify your infidelity. It's a way for you to rationalize your actions but, ultimately, it's wrong for you to do this. If you don't love your husband then do both of you a favor and do the leaving yourself. Get a divorce. You guys obviously aren't right for each other. How old are your kids now and what sort of example are you setting for them?
2006-10-11 09:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by Brad D 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage is a fine example of my reasons for staying single. Apparently, you both got exactly what you deserve. You just told us you are both a liar and a cheat. This cousin has a real 'catch' in you sweetie. Hubby's of course "Man of the year" Try the Jerry Springer show.
2006-10-11 09:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by Raptor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a horse's *** and doesn't deserve a shred of sympathy. Leave him and join the man you're in love with. If your husband get's bent out of shape, stay calm and tell him that your love for him is dead, thanks to his behavior. The first cousin thing may complicate matters but it doesn't change the fact that your husband is not worthy of you. I'm glad you found someone who's treating you right.
2006-10-11 09:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, two wrongs don't make a right. it's funny how sometimes you can find yourself feeling a certain way about someone that you think that you shouldn't, i guess that's the way love goes but i think by this man being related to him really makes it hard and I do think it is wrong.
2006-10-11 09:50:08 · answer #6 · answered by waynekirsten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be above your husband and tell him the truth. If you lie to him because he lied to you all this time, it just makes you as pathetic as he is for cheating on you. Time to end the marriage and move on. If he won't leave...then take the kids and leave yourself.
2006-10-11 09:48:22 · answer #7 · answered by colleenjohn_vano 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know what they say two wrogs dont make a right. however you should just leave your husband for the other guy. good luck.
2006-10-11 09:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by seilygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋