SHould I let the fathers daughter who is 3 be in the babys life even if her mother is against it because im with her ex and having a kid with him also.
2006-10-11 02:35:38 · 17 answers · asked by sheila 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
why are so many women into that whole "step-mom" lifestyle....go get your ownnnn man and have your ownnnnn family
I hate when I hear of women trying to mother other women's children...unless the child is in foster care or an orphan or your their legal guardian you shouldnt try and force yourself into their lives
If their real mom is alive and well and caring for them why do you want to do the same...its not YOUR kid
And all that half-brother/half-sister crap is a bunch of B.S.
Leave it alone...its just as much the woman's kid as it is your child's father...so if he says yes and she says no it doesnt mean that thats a YES...it means its still UNDECIDED therefore you leave well enough alone and worry about your own kid
stop trying to be supermom okay!!!!!!
p.s. no i am not a step mom and i would never want to be. I am 37 weeks pregannt with my first child and I would NEVER want another woman trying to play "mommy" to him just b/c she may be in a "realtionship" with his father. My son would have nothing to do with who daddy chooses to sleep with so why the hell bother
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2006-10-11 04:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by Chocolate Model Intellect 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's probably a tough situation to be in. The father should have every right to that child's life. If he's not in that child's life, the child will feel punished. It's tough growing up with out a father.
I think you should let the 3 year old be in the baby's life too. It would give your baby someone to look upto. And it's great growing up with siblings. I have 2 brothers and looking back, I would probably have HATED growing up as an only child. I think the baby has the right to know its siblings/parents and I'm sure the 3 year old will be thrilled to learn she has a younger sibling she can take care of and nurture. Screw her mother! Don't worry about what she says. She has no right to keep that girl from her other siblings even if they came from another woman. In the end, both of the children have 1 common parent, which makes the siblings. And thats all that matters in the end.
2006-10-11 09:46:38 · answer #2 · answered by precious02k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your main concern right now should be focused on the baby developing inside you. You may want the very best for the other child because she is going to be a big Sis but that's going to have to be a decision that the other mother makes. You did the right thing by wanting her to be involved Good Luck!
2006-10-11 09:47:32 · answer #3 · answered by mommy of two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course they're gonna be siblings and if the father has anything to do with his daughter then I'm sure they're have contact with each other. The other girl sounds very immature to be acting like that. Have you tried talking to her or is she one of impossible people to talk to? Maybe you can talk some sense to her and just explain that her daughter is gonna have a sister or brother and how important a bond between then is gonna be. Good luck and pray about it..nothing is impossible when you have God on your side
2006-10-11 09:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by kittykat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you both should respect her mothers wishes. she may warm up to you if she sees youre not against her. youre a mother now too. put yourself in her shoes and try to understand her. on the other hand the daughter is his too. who is she with most the time? if you dont now you will understand how the mother is trying to do whats best for her daughter. or maybe shes a vindinctive bit**. take the high road and think of the kids. do what is best for his daughter and your baby, not what feels good to you.
2006-10-11 09:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by whatever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the father wants the 3 year old to be in it then yes. I think kids deserve to know there siblings. Talk to the father of the kids and ask him if he wants his daughter involved. If the father is involved in her life and will be involved in your babies life chances are that they will meet sooner or later.
2006-10-11 09:40:50 · answer #6 · answered by Hilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody's feelings Matter except yours , the father's , an that babys. YES the father should have every right to be in that baby's Life. Dont Punish that baby , cause someone else is a stupid Bit*h
2006-10-11 09:40:20 · answer #7 · answered by lilredhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never keep siblings away from each other. Sooner or later they will find out and be upset with you for keeping it from you. The other mom needs to understand what is best for her child may not always make her happy. That is life and we are the ones who make it the way it is.
I was a young mother too and it is not easy, good luck and ask god for help!!
2006-10-11 09:42:42 · answer #8 · answered by Meri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want her to be in the babies life then yes. You have a right to decide too. But think about how you would feel in her situation, think about who you want in your child's life. If the other daughter will be in the babies life then the mother will be too.
2006-10-11 09:45:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely... there's nothing like the bond of siblings and it's not like the two will never interact considering they have the same daddy. You be the bigger person and push to let your kids be together. It's your man's ex who is hurting the kids by being selfish...
2006-10-11 09:46:36 · answer #10 · answered by KC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋