help i just found out im pregnant?

Question

i have just found out im pregnant and very worried.i wanted a kid but am very confused.im not working enough to look after it.i really dont know what to do im 22 next month.and nervous about the whole situation.dont feel im ready to tell my family yet.help.thanku.

Answer 1

You should tell your family if your clsoe as they will be there for you - especially your mom. She might be a very good support system for you and tell you how it was for her. It is tough at 22 having a kid- I was also that age, but read alot of good books on it and than basically just used my own common sense - Rely on family, friends and if the babies dad is in the picture still? I was very nervous also - but really your natural instincts jsut kick in and you honestly will be a great mom!

Answer 2

First things first just ignore all the stupid comments from the sad little gits who have responded to ur question. They r geeks with no life to call thier own.
This seems like a massive problem and I expect u feel overwhelmed and don't know which way to turn. So lets break it down in to manageable steps if u tackle one step at a time it will be easyer for you to cope with.

1. get urself to the doctours asap if u haven't already so they can confirm u are pregnant. They will also be able to offer u help and support. Don't want to go to the doctours then go to your local gum clinic.
2. u need to talk to someone about this a friend or family member. If talking to ur family is a bit scary take ur friend with u 4 support. Ur family dosen't ever have to know if you don't want them to.( if u decide 2 terminate)
3.talk 2 the father if u want his input that is. It will be hard but if he is a good one he will be a support to u.
4. u need to make a choice and make it asap as termination becomes more complicated the longer you leave it. Can u really cope with a child? Do u want it? Could u go it alone if u had 2? There is always adoption. Weigh up the pros and cons of each choice.
U r 22 thats quite old by 2days standars for becoming a mother. Lots of people work, go 2 college whom have children they cope on a low income, u can too. What this child really needs is love if u can offer that then u will cope, u will get through. Things are never as bad as u think they r going to be.
Having a child is hard, very hard & ur life will change beyond all recognition but it is also the most rewarding thing u will ever experiance.
You are stronger than you think you are. Good luck. Thinking of you.

Answer 3

Please don't sweat the small stuff. You may not think its small now but think eventually they are all going to find out one way o another. I know exactly where you are coning from, being young and a huge milestone coming up in your life. You will be a GREAT parent. Some good advice on how to tell your family is to stay POSITIVE and upbeat about the whole situation. Be excited and they will probably be equally excited for you in their own time. If you would feel better get your best friend or the baby's father to be there for support when you tell them.
As far as not being able to support the baby there are to many organizations out there to be too worried about that. I am really sure that your family will be there when things get tough. Just remember that your new best friend after the baby is born is second hand stores and consignment shops.
Good luck and Congratulation on the pregnancy!!

Answer 4

I was in the same situation once and it was difficult. The nervousness is not a positive thing for the developing fetus. I couldn't sleep nights and when my son was born, he had lots of problems, perhaps due to my nerves which eventually settled down. So, try to remain as calm as possible. Take baths, meditate and do relaxing breathing exercises.

My family had the worst of reactions, but they are very conservative and judgemental. I didn't have a job at the time, but I started a home-based business so I wouldn't have to pay for child care as I couldn't afford it. I had had a full-time winter resort job, but the child care there cost $20 more per day than what they paid us. The best home-based business is something to do with medical billing or medical records.

Make sure you have medical insurance because medicaid doesn't cover pain killers and many people need those. You've probably paid into the system and you may have to withdraw from the system for awhile. Check into WIC and locate the food pantries if necessary. There were many groups that helped where I live. They gave me blankets and clothing and baby things. Once people know, they help out. The weird thing was that strangers were kinder to me than family. Just make sure everyone knows your situation and someone will step forward.

Answer 5

Are you sure and have you discussed this with your doctor? He or she is the best person to talk to and you will get the names of organisations that can help you. If you do not like your doctor there may be another in the same practise that you would be able to turn to or a nurse. But do not wait too long.

Depending on your beliefs you can have a termination, or go ahead with the pregnancy and offer the baby for adoption. Or you may choose to keep this baby and get help. Your family may be shocked at first but they might rally round. What about the father?

Society is much more open to single parenthood these days even though it is not easy and a baby is a heavy responsibility.

Keep calm and do not panic.In the long run you have to do what you are most comfortable with but you do have to make a choice and very soon. Keep your pecker up and good luck!

Answer 6

I don't expect you to read as far as this response. You have received some truly horrible comments. You are bound to hear criticism about being a single parent, this is because young women are easy targets. You say that you want this child and that is wonderful. You could have tried to plan your pregnancy and life in general ,but so often things don't turn out how we expected and even though this was unexpected I don't think you will look back and regret anything. Get your thoughts together and when you are ready tell your family. They can be very supportive after the surprise has warn off.
All the best.

Answer 7

I have been there. I never wanted kids. I was single and 22 when I had my first son. I was terrified. I did have a job with insurance that is what helped me. There are programs for young ladies in your situation. Go to a planned parenthood, health dept or a free clinic and they can help you get the information that you need. Tell your family soon, they can be such a big help. I have an older sister and she didn't agree with my choice of boyfriend, but she was my rock. She has been there for me thru every stupid mistake I make. ... Good Luck. If you want this you can do it.

I must say that my son is my baby. He is the best thing that every happened to me. I am not saying that it has been easy because his father was a loser, but we have made it. He just turned 13 yesterday.

Answer 8

Firstly, ignore any judgemental idiots who reply to your question.

Do you have a partner at the moment ?

What you really need to do is talk to somebody. I would suggest that you either make an appointment with your GP or at your local family planning clinic. Both would be able to talk you through all of your options.

Remember that finding out you're pregnant can be one of the most terrifying experiences ever. I'm 31 and a week away from giving birth to my first child, when I first found out that I was pregnant, despite being married and always wanting children, there was a part of me that was terrified and was convinced that even at my age I wasn't old enough.

Take a bit of time to think, get the advice of a professional and make sure that you're 100% happy with whatever decision you make.

Good luck with everything, I hope it all works out well for you.

Answer 9

You want to have adult unprotected sex then you are grown up enough to accept the responsibility!!

Now if you remember one thing from the Yahoo Answer Forum, remember this: You will always regret having an abortion....(I repeat)
You will always regret having an abortion, so please don't consider that.

So if you don't want the baby then put it up for adoption and give it a chance for life. If your unborn baby was 3yrs old to 100 yrs old and could make a defense to you for life you would allow life.

Don't do something you will always regret, take away a undefendable human life, please.

Now then: You might as well tell your parents cause they will see swelling in a couple of months or so. But more importantly tell the father, and dont tell them all in tears dear, that just shows how immature you are and will make things worse.

No matter what you decide you are going to have to grow up now and do it really fast. To do this you will need support:
1. Start thinking about your baby! This means start thinking like an adult and educate yourself. Books, counseling, school and internet etc. Always expect and require respect from anyone who is trying to control you or interact with you. If they disrespect or verbally abuse deal with it sternly but politely. You get respect from doing what is right and good with controled emotions and attitudes. Choose carefully the people you associate with.
2. Stop any bad habits like smoking, drinking and drugs. Start eating right and get plenty of fresh water.
3. Did I say EDUCATE YOURSELF?
4. Weed out the weedy people in your life and keep the good ones. Weedy people are immature, drinking, druggies, short tempered, yelling, controling, prone to fits, hateful, spiteful, etc.
GET RID OF THEM!!!!
Start gettiing the mature support you need, start by clicking on these links below:
http://www.patient.co.uk/showdoc/27000823/
http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/Resources/helplines.htm
http://www.careconfidential.com/
http://www.beforebaby.com/waya/
http://www.milupa-aptamil.co.uk/
http://www.bbc.co.uk/parenting/pregnancy_calendar/
http://www.babyworld.co.uk/

Good Luck & God Bless

Answer 10

Go to your GP first.... and make 100% sure you are pregnant. When that is clarified, ask your GP to refer you for councelling immediatly. They will put you in touch with some one sympathetic, and unrelated to you by family... who will also be offering advice regardless of faith, family tradition or anything else.

If you're not ready to have a child, there are the obvious two options. YOU make that decision and DO NOT let anyone else make it for you ok ? It's your decision and yours only. For information on the first option, research Marie Stopes on google or visit http://www.mariestopes.org.uk/

If you do decide to go ahead and let it run full term, you probably have about 8 months to get ready, in reality call it six, because you want to be home and dry well before due date, it's no fun being (as my ex and I were) expecting a child and homeless... o get thinking, make your decision and get busy. Talk to your family as soon as you feel happy about it, but dont leave it too long... Or frankly, they'll notice anyway. also... register for this !!! http://www.emmasdiary.co.uk/ it's EXCELLENT !!

Good luck, and remember... YOUR body, YOUR life, YOUR choice !!!!