and we clash so much when the law is on her side and just because she's 16 and classed as an adult.. sholud the law change the age limit for being a responsible adult..
2006-10-11 02:13:33 · 19 answers · asked by . 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well being she is 16 and wants to be grown up perhaps you should try to treat her as if she was a grown up. Like you would anyone else. You dont wake up your other adult friends, you dont buy nice clothes for your other adult friends, you dont give an allowance to your other adult friends, etc etc etc. Go to school or get a job, if no job school is mandatory.
2006-10-11 02:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im sorry to say this, but the more you try to stop your daughter, the more you will back her into a corner! If she has the same attitude as you, then why cant you trust her to lead her own way, she has to learn by her own mistakes not yours! let her know your there for support but also let her make the ultimate decision on her own,she will respect you more for it. If you show understanding with her mistakes she will learn that you are there for advice hopefully before she makes the next mistake.The worst thing you can do is judge because she will not tell you anything and when it all goes **** up it will be your fault for backing her into a corner.What were you like at 16?, its all about experience at that age and you think you know all, dont tell her she is making the same mistakes, if a child is brought up with critisism then they ultimately learn to retaliate or they become what you have shaped them into by distrust because they believe they can be no better!
2006-10-11 09:28:01 · answer #2 · answered by Chloe B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can change that law. But that is why we as parents have to do our ground work when our children are young. Try and keep the lines of communication open, with the two of you, ask her at times how things are going? go out together, try and spend sometime together. have lunch, do some fun things. Send her a card, telling her that you only want the best for her, and that sometimes, you may seem hard on her, is because bad decisions, only bring consequence, and you only want to spare her from going that route! Every day tell her you love her!
2006-10-11 09:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The law shouldn't be changed, she's still a kid. I don't care what anyone says. As far as her making the same mistakes, just keep trying and see if she will open up to you. My daughter will be 16 soon - I know where you are coming from. Good luck!
2006-10-11 09:16:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only advise her but it is her life and she can do what she wants with it with in reason. But dont make the mistake of putting up a barrier between you and her she will need you at some point so be there for her and i think you will find that she will respond to that more than trying to tell her what and what not to do. Goodlluck its the joys of being a parent i know exactly how you feel
2006-10-11 10:50:38 · answer #5 · answered by scott j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop her just get her to try and see the reason why both of you make the same mistakes and hope for the best. She's a teenager so she sometimes has to learn the hard way just like you.
2006-10-11 09:16:19 · answer #6 · answered by Mary Smith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reflect on the relationship you had with your own mother. Assess where it was good, and where it wasn't, then consider how you would have hoped your mum would have regarded you, and perhaps you can see a way through the problem.
The solution seems like one of communication more than anything. If you view it as a control issue, or keep it on a power level, you'll probably lose.
2006-10-11 09:15:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 daughters between 17 and 26. you cannot stop them from making the same mistakes as you did, as some of mine have, however, they learn as we did, everyone is different and reacts differently so let her make her own decisions
2006-10-11 09:52:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking, and reason with her. If she won't listen and thinks she is so mature, then tell her to go fend for herself, chuck her out. Adults work themselves and also listen to mature advice. Lets see how big she really is. PS this sounds so cruel, but needs must sometimes... got to be cruel to be kind sometimes. She'll soon be back.
2006-10-11 09:19:02 · answer #9 · answered by ribena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop her from making mistakes, let her choose her own path, at the same time as letting her know you are there. When she needs you, she will come to you. Believe me, as someone who rebelled against the cotton wool you will make life worse if you don't let her live her own life.
2006-10-11 09:28:52 · answer #10 · answered by Chickette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋