2006-10-11 02:11:54 · 17 answers · asked by kaje 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
In my opinion if she just strieght out told you shes a lesbian all of a sudden, and you didnt see it comming at all... i would have to say shes probly attracked to you! Although you dont know that for sure i'm thinking theres a really good chance that she may have a minor crush on you. What i would do if I was in this situation would probly have a long hard talk with her about this desion. Who knows maybe its just a stage shes going through. I would giver her about a mounth if she's still dead set on being a lesbian i would probly slowly stop talking to her. I would still be friends with her just not as close as i once was!
2006-10-12 01:09:56 · answer #1 · answered by Kendie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem, and I dealt with it totally wrong, and ended up losing a friend. Here's how I would deal with it: lesbian or not, you still share the bonds of friendship. You still care about her as a friend, and support her, so do just that. Be there for her, be her friend, because not everyone will stay friends with her. Be clear that you want the friendship to stay plutonic, and if it bothers you, ask her not to talk about girls she's interested in around you. First and foremost she is your friend. Please be there for her, and don't make the mistake I did. It's not worth losing a friend over.
2006-10-11 09:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be a friend. Just because you're friends with a lesbian does not make you a lesbian.
2006-10-11 09:37:09 · answer #3 · answered by colleenjohn_vano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well....you call her a friend, but should she call you a friend? you shouldnt try and change her ways.....she has chosen to be lesbian, you should accept her ways. how would you feel if all your friends were lesbians and didnt want to talk to you cuz ur straight.. i have two lesbians in my family, and they are two of the nicest people in the world. you dont have to worry about her hitting on you though, most lesbians wont hit on girls that they know is straight..please dont let this ruin ur relationship.
2006-10-11 09:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by ..::Sierra::.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So while many people are worried about there friends who are alcoholics, drug dealers, have aids, get abused, you are worried because your "best" friend is a lesbian? Maybe if you could see further than your own snobby nose you could see it shouldn't even matter. If she asks you to bed, that's a problem. Not being sexually attracted to boys is not a problem.
2006-10-11 09:28:26 · answer #5 · answered by jbrowning001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have many friends that are lesbian. Continue the friendship.
2006-10-11 15:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by beautiful_yet_spoiled 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should continue to be her friend.I am sure she knows that you are not a lesbian(are you?)and I do not thik she would rish your friendship by hitting on you or anything like that.If you are also a lesbian and are just not interested in her then tell her the truth and move on all ready.
2006-10-11 09:37:56 · answer #7 · answered by thunder_rainclouds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her be who she is. You wont be able to change her anyways. It's only who she chooses to be with , which is NOT your choice. It does not make her change deep inside. She is the same person she was before you knew she was gay. If you do try and change her, you may just end up losing her friendship.
2006-10-11 09:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by mojo0520 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the world is full of good people , that means , its a shame to say that your friend is lesbian, if i was you I'd kill myself
2006-10-11 09:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by Eagle Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh... nothing besides continue to be her friend. If you feel that you cannot handle her lifestyle then be honest and open about it with her.
2006-10-11 09:30:11 · answer #10 · answered by smiley_140 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋