Last night my fiancee told me that he thinks i act like a little girl. we were talking about our upcoming wedding with his parents and then my mom called on my cell. i got up from the table and let her know some of the details. He says, later on that night, that i just got up walked away when we were in the middle of something. after i got off of the phone i go to my sis-in-laws room to look throught som bridal magazines, totally forgetting about what was going on in the kitchen. He calls me into the kitchen and says "where we through?" but with this attitude or as if he is trying to boss me around. All in all,he says that i dont put my foot down and stand up for myself and that i always walk away from things? how can i fix this?
i feel i need to grow up sometimes also.
how do i stand up for my self without making him feel bad? I dont want to seem like a b*@!& , but then again, i dont want him treating me like that. hedoes it when we are in front of his family
2006-10-11 02:02:30 · 9 answers · asked by Just Me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow, tough call. I would be pretty P.Oed too if my fiance did that -- But think of it this way-- if you let him talk to you as if he is your father NOW--- what will it be like when you're married--or have children--you DEF. do not want him undermining you infront of your kids-- my ex used to do that to me-- and it took every ounce of strength i had NOT to beat him with a bat (LOL)
So--stand up to him and say--in a nice but firm way-- That IS NOT ok-- if you have a problem with the way I go about doing something-- tell me in private--
Its actually pretty childish of HIM to talk badly of his future wife infront of family anyhow--
men--they really need to be walked through everything-- so take his hand and do just that!
2006-10-11 02:08:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like everyone is a bit stressed by the upcoming wedding. You were polite to leave the table and talk to your mum. Nip this saga in the bud by saying sorry to his parents, as your mind was racing everywhere. Start your marriage on the right foot by telling your fiance that you dont appreciate his attitude and his bossing you around. If he trully loves you he will support you when around his parents. Good luck with your future
2006-10-11 02:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by marcus p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is some good advise from a 42 year old married 2 times ,you speak up even in front of is family ,you walking away to talk to your family was respectful thing to do ,what did he want you to set there and talk on the phone with her in front of others .start now because if you stay like this when you marry him it will get worse ,You tell him whats up concerning you and take no crap ,because if you do it now it will be worse when you marry .best to you .
2006-10-11 02:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you we're wrong for just leaving him and getting into a conversation with your mom. He didn't even know that you we're finished with him. I can't speak about other times he is referring to, but it seems YOU need to be more aware of what your doing. As far as him treating you in front of family...THAT is a no-no and you should stick up for yourself. You both have things you need to work on.
2006-10-11 02:26:25 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would apologize for walking away, that was rude, but at the same time I would tell him not to talk to you like that. He is hurting your feelings, and I am sure his family is not comfortable with it. Try talking to him..before it gets out of hand.
2006-10-11 02:08:20 · answer #5 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 04:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him off in front of his family
done it once he will never try to boss you in front of them again
he probably following his father's example
if you don't want to be a door mate all your married life this is the time to stand for yourself
2006-10-11 02:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who would blame you? He is disrespecting you! He either needs to learn to communicate his needs in a better (more gentle way) or tell him to seek counseling. Sounds like he has a trigger temper and is very controlling. Please give this marriage re-consideration or more time.
2006-10-11 02:10:14 · answer #8 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, he has issues, alot of issues and cannot handle them.
2006-10-11 02:07:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋