i have this anger in me n its eating me up.letme give u a background of us... we met when he was 20 . me 30, three yers ago, u see he took charge of his life at 12 years old n woz verry mature for his age, this made me fall in love with him instantly n he moved in my house, i was a single parent of a son aged 6yrs then.we lived peacefully for two years.current year i got pregnant, was moody and verry insevure due to the pregnancy and we didnt get along soo well. i read a message on his phone about this gal he was seeing and made a big fuss about it, then out of stress n other health factors i miscarried..few weeks ago, i got a rude shock to know he was still seeing the same gal, i called her and she lied to me,i feltl verry hurt,we fought and he said it will never happen. i always blame him for causing me soo much pain and for the miscourage,when he comes am not able to smile at him or talk to him nicely, still stuck in the rship, confusion, i dont trust him at all.what should i do peo
2006-10-11 01:52:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you dont trust him then you need to move on.
2006-10-11 01:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by SouthernGal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u love this guy and u think the relationship can work u need to talk 2 him. If u r really hurt and don't think it is worth it anymore.....move on. Once a cheat always a cheat. U can do better. I say get rid of him and move on. It will b hard to do at first BUT time heals all wounds. Good Luck and I wish u all the best. I am sorry for the loss of the miscarriage. I no how u feel I miscarried twins and I still think about them. They would have just celebrated their 2nd birthday.
2006-10-11 02:09:15 · answer #2 · answered by bammbamm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him out. First of all, the way I look at it is that b/c he's been on his own since he was 12, he's been looking for a way out of doing things for himself. You are a woman who is 10 years older than him, has your own home, obviously makes money b/c you have a child to support, you have qualities that he would like. Does he work? Truthfully, what is he doing with himself? Is this man material? If he really loved you, then he wouldn't be still cheating on you. Secondly, why would the other girl lie? Do you support your man? The reason I'm questioning this is b/c there is obviously something that you are doing for him, that she knows about, and she also knows that if you find out about them, you'll stop doing whatever that thing is. If he's living in your house rent-free, doesn't work, or something to that effect, then you need to give him the boot. And if he really loves you, then when he moves out, he'll try his best to prove to you that he loves you and will do anything for you. This is the time to get anything you don't like about him corrected. So break up with him and kick him out. Find yourself a real man. He will never be good enough. Stop making excuses for yourself.
2006-10-11 02:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 01:52:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it will take a lot of work to fix things, but maybe that isn't the right choice. I guess it all comes down to how you truly honestly feel about that guy. Personally I believe that if a guy will cheat once what is to stop him from doing it a second or third or even fourth time?? If you can't even stand the sight of him its going to be pretty hard to work things out. I think you need to at least take some time to yourself and think about all of this. Make a decision based on how you feel and what you think is best for you and your son.
2006-10-11 02:04:50 · answer #5 · answered by smartyartygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you are feeling this way it would be best for you to just move on. If he is still living in your home you should tell him that he should go. Your child does not need to see, hear, or have this pressure around him. I'm sorry that you miscarried, but maybe with that terrible ordeal happening to you, God was letting you know that it would be best to move on with your life and take care of the child that you have now and to not put yourself or your son into any stressful predicaments right now. Forgive me if I'm being to outspoken concerning this matter.
Good Luck!
2006-10-11 06:36:25 · answer #6 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did a 12 year old take charge of his life? That's the story HE gave you...He took you for a ride, cheated on you and continued to cheat on you after the miscarriage...Ask yourself this, how many more times will you hear "I won't do it again". Like a child says after he's gotten caught with his hand in the cookie jar. You and especially your son deserve better.
2006-10-11 02:35:48 · answer #7 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without trust there is no relationship..now make it so and tell him he has to leave. Move on with your life and take care of your son. You'll be fine. G'luck!
2006-10-11 01:58:11 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems he's continuing to lie. what makes you think this will change? the fact that you can't trust him will only linger, building resentment over time and could make things very ugly. i think you should move on before things get worse.
2006-10-11 02:01:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should move on hun sorry to say this happened to me i went back 7 times and it never worked .it hurts to walk away but its the best thing to do if he done it once he will do it again.dont let him use you
2006-10-11 01:59:49 · answer #10 · answered by melbbrad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you need to let go of that anger because you go die in your sleep with anger in your heart and if you love somthing set it free if it comes back it's ment to be if not then move on he need to chane befor any thing changes
2006-10-11 01:57:53 · answer #11 · answered by shawney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋