i left him?

Question

as of today 10-11-06 i am staying at my moms house we broke up actually yesterday he broke up with me saying i don't do nothing i don't have a job or clean the house everyday......look i don't have a job i am watching my daughter and trying to go to school at the same time cause my mother can't watch her everyday and he works but not all the time he works for his father and about cleaning the house i do clean it's just he makes messes and says clean the house it's dirty i try try try and give him everything and anythig with **** i don't have everything is in my name and he uses it against me like you dissconnect everything you'll be stuck with the bills i don't know what to do it's a constant battle with him i love him but it's fading i know i can be without him and start over but he is going to make my life worse he already told me you get a bouyfriend imma gonna kill him all he does is threaten me i know it's for the better it's jst really hard cause all i seem to be doing is cry

Answer 1

If he speaks to you like that then he doesn't love you. Why do you let him speak to you like that and if he's threatening you then you need to report him because he could turn violent. I think the best thing to do is to try and forget about him. It will take you a while to get over and you may find yoyurself crying all the time when I split up with my ex I cried for about a month but each day it gets easier and easier and you will get through it.

Answer 2

Im sorry you are haveing problems dealing with this type of situation I was in a simular situation 5 years ago to a man that I married heres what you do.....
1Get a restraining order
2. Get everything shut off. hell run the bills up sky high and will take years to pay them off.
3.Get ahold of child protective services or your welfare office and apply for state assisted child care to find a baby sitter that the state will pay for so you can get a job Part time that will work around your schooling.
4.Save as much money as you can from your job when you get one
5.get ahold of your local housing authority apply for section 8 or regulated housing so you can get a place of your own.
don't worry about him beating another mans rear he doesn't want you but he doesn't want anyone else to have you. hes the type of person who will manipulate you to get what he wants dont feed into his games you have a child to think about and that child comes first and for most.I can tell you from expirience that he is controling and possesive I am glad he broke it off with you and you should be too men who are possesive and controling end up being abusive I know its hard because you love him but he actualy saved your life by leaving you.and unfortunatly alot of women go back because fear that they wont find anyone better because they have diveloped a low self esteem the mans anger intensifies and the violent beatings start what ever you do don't go back no matter how much he begs pleads or even pours on the tears if he hasnt already started beating you he will if you go back.

Answer 3

Sweetie, he is trying to control, scare you in all ways possible. Stay completely away from him. WHen he threatened to kill you that is not good. I would never trust him again after saying that. That's how it all starts and how people get physically hurt. At least you know you can make it without him in your life. I suggest you keep your head up, remain strong and take it day by day or hour by hour. You have a daughter to care about first. If this man continues you threaten or harrass you call your local authority and file a complaint and if that don't work go to the courts and get a exparte against him. Good luck to you sweetie and becareful, I just don't trust this man at all.

Answer 4

stay where you are at your mums get the help and support you need from them. if the house is in your name go to the police report incidents tell them you are scared of him and what him out your home. go to the council (if rented from them) and ask them to give you a management move it should take a month and they can only move you to a safer property the same size as the one you have. if it is not your house then start a fresh go to the council get your name down for a house/flat stay with your mum carry on supporting your daughter (she doesn`t need to see or hear this) you will be able to do this just stay strong and focus on your future and being happy. report any accidents to the police no matter how big or small they are, if they can get a log of everything you can start an harassment charge up against him. get this looser out of your life for once and for all be strong good luck.

Answer 5

Oh dear, how sad for you, you're in turmoil because you've taken this huge step for yourself and your child ... well done, is all I can say.

Next thing: get yourself a solicitor and see what has to be done, if this man is your child's father, you are entitled to maintenance from him.

As regards those bills, well, if you're no longer living in the house, you can disconnect everything! Let the f-e-c-ker sit in the cold and the dark - if he wants those services back, let him sort it out for himself. This is something you can ask your solicitor about.

Of course you're crying. It's so new and shocking, naturally you're upset. It's an important step you've taken, and you've set a lot in motion. You found the strength to get out, you know you have the strength to keep going and to keep fighting him.

But get yourself that solicitor, and do it today.

Answer 6

I can't make any sense of your ramblings! OK so I get the idea that you left your boyfriend which is fine. What I don't get is that you say everything is in your name? So kick him out of the house, sell it and make a new life for yourself.

He won't kill anyone - doesn't he know murder is illegal?

It will be difficult for you for a time because you'll feel all alone. I'm sure that you can get over it with help from your family and counselling if you feel you need it.

Answer 7

If I was you I would leave him, he is not going to get any better, only worst, tell him to get the bills put in his name, because you are not going to be living their any more. That he have no respect for me, instead of trying to work with me, you just keep complaining. This is going to be very hard, but you are a person too. So stop crying, and be strong,and so what you have to do.

Answer 8

You have made a great step into getting yourself back on track. Let him make all the threats he wants cause he's doing it now cause he knows he can't control you. I'm very proud of you for leaving him & wanting better for yourself.It will work out in your benefit in the long run.

Answer 9

well done for being so brave honey. i had to have a gun to my head before i managed to summon up the courage to leave my ex. he used to batter me infront of our kids, and i thought that i was such a waste of space, i couldnt live without him...OHHHHHHHHHH!!! how thats changed!!!..he got his taste of crime doesnt pay, and i managed to gather all the debt he left me in and make payment agreements to sort myself out. now i have my own business and everything is great. dont ever ever ever mistake love for the way he has made you feel. the great thing about people like this is also that he is the one with the problem, and you will be so proud of yourself to make the steps you take in the next few weeks...it wont be easy, it will take time, but my god, you wont arf be proud of yourself darling...and so you should be. my heart and best wishes go out to you.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Answer 10

Leave him. Start again. For the sake of you and your daughter get away from him. Lufe is too short to be spending your life upset, emotional and crying. More to life - and plenty other guys out there. I seriously doubt he'd do anything to someone you started seeing.