I really love him and I think he still loves me too, but it seems like every day we fight as soon as we're together. Then, I leave because I can't handle arguing so much. And he doesn't pursue me at all. We fight about stupid things. But we can't stop. Is this normal and what should we do?
2006-10-11 00:03:59 · 15 answers · asked by sticky0707 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
IT IS NORMAL ESPECIALLY NOW THAT UR STRESSED OUT OF THE MARRIAGE COMING ALONG. HONESTY AND COMMUNICATION ARE THE KEYS TO A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE. BUT COMPROMISES ALSO. I'M SURE, HE DOESN'T LIKE OR WANT FIGHTING WITH U. SO, WHY DON'T U GO SOMEWHERE, HAVE A NICE RELAXED DINNER, ROMANTIC, JUST FOR THE TWO OF U AND DISCUSS ALL THE ISSUES U THINK R IMPORTANT. U R TOGETHER! U R A TEAM! U SHOULD DEAL WITH UR PROBLEMS TOGETHER. NO USE OF FIGHTING- HE IS NOT UR ENEMY! NEXT TIME U SEE THAT THINGS SEEMS LIKE THE NEXT FIGHT, JUST WAIT TILL U CALM DOWN, COS WHEN WE R ANGRY WE SAY THINGS THAT CAN HURT THE ONE WE LOVE.
2006-10-11 00:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your not communicating now what makes you think that this will stop after you get married? It is not normal for two people in love planning a wedding to argue everyday about stupid things. If you can't resolve your differences then what are you going to do with the big issues? ask yourself if this is the way you want to spend the rest of your life. that is unless your getting married with the idea that you can get a divorce after you get tired of fighting for a few years and a couple of kids later
2006-10-11 00:09:35 · answer #2 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit your fiance down and have a talk with him, say honey, I understand this a normal thing, just before the wedding, if we can get through this we can make it. But in future lets try and discuss, things so we don't go of the band, and we end up auguring about it. Remember the key to a good marriage is communications. Best Wishers!
2006-10-11 00:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on your arguments. It could be a lot of things. Pre marriage jitters, stress, etc. But if you are really concerned talk to him about it. Even if you are already arguing, remember this question, look at him and smile. Then say, This is silly. Why are we constantly at eachothers throats? I love you, you love me, were getting married and I don't want to keep doing this so let's stop. Then take your clothes off in front of him and tell him you want to make love instead of war. Good luck.
2006-10-11 00:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you all are a bit nervous about taking the big leap. You should sit down and talk to him about what is bothering you and ask him why he thinks you two are so tense with each other. This is a huge step that you are getting ready to take and if you cannot communicate now, you most likely will not be able to later. Get to the bottom of this quickly!
2006-10-11 00:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this doesn't sound like a healthy relationship, you guys should really have a long talk and figure out why you are arguing so much and figure out if he is picking fights because he wants you to break up with him.
2006-10-11 00:09:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is normal , nerves are on edge, and fights will happen, we went through the same stuff 9 years ago and still married to this day
2006-10-11 01:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by Ladder Captain-29 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without resolving the issues and without knowing for sure that he loves you, do not marry him. You and him can stop, it all depends on how much you want this to work and how much you and him are willing to make it work.
2006-10-11 00:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal that you two are arguing, but it won't stop after you're married. Look deep before you leap!!
2006-10-11 00:12:50 · answer #9 · answered by C's Wifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cancel the wedding. You two are on the rocks already.
2006-10-11 00:06:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋