HELP!(pease read)?

Question

i am in a bind. for months now i have noticed that a lot of the things in my hubby that i fell in love with him for are gone . and im seeing those things in someone else and a whole lot more im drowning help me!

Answer 1

All that I can say is that people do change. But when you marry someone you are marring that person for better or worse. Just because you are being flirted with and seeing the things that you once seen in your husband that does not mean that you should drop your husband like a hot potato and go to the other guy. If your husband had those ways about him when the two of you first met, then believe me he still has them today. You have to understand it takes two to keep a romance alive. And for all that you know he just might be feeling the same way about you. He might think that you have lost some things that attracted him to you in the beginning. Why don't the two of you talk about it and find out that you both still have what it takes to keep one another happy & loved!
Good Luck!

Answer 2

You have to step back for a second away from that other person and really look at your hubby. Are you just annoyed with your hubby and trying to find fault with him??? The grass is NOT always greener on the other side. Are you purposely trying to make the other person look better. Talk with your hubby ask him if something is up with him, explain your feelings to him, maybe you two just need some good quality time away. Talking with someone else really is very confusing to you and not helping you to see things clearly with your husband. You were in love with your hubby enough to marry him, didn't you think it was for life? Well maybe you guys just need to get back on track...my hubby and I went thorugh something similar except it was someone who caught his eye. Nothing happen between them but let me tell you I have very hard time trusting him, I am trying and he knows but it is not easy..sometimes the emotional cheating hurts worse than the physical. How is your hubby going to feel if he ever finds out you have/had feelings for someone else...and trust me these things always have a way of surfacing!!!!!!! I wish you the best of luck in whatevre you decide too do and keep your chin up you will figure out what it is you truely want.

Answer 3

Of course they're gone....things aren't always frilly in a marriage. Remember those wedding vows you took? Well, live by them. If you are not in an abusive relationship, there is no reason you can't work things out or at least try to. And of course you see what you love in someone else....grass is always greener on the other side...or so you think until you make a move, cheat on your husband and feel like a dirtbag afterwards. You feel that way towards the other guy cuz he's something NEW and EXCITING...believe me, if you pursue him, that will wear off too, as it has in your marriage....you can have it in your marriage, but you both have to give 100%. MARRIAGE IS WORK and people are way too willing to give up on it....don't be a statistic.

Answer 4

Anyone who tells you that the heart doesnt lie is full of it. The heart can tell you that you should choke the crap out of someone too. But would it be right?

You made a commitment to this man, as he did to you as well. As we grow together, many times we get more comfortable and a bit less attentive. Those things dont lesson your commitments to one another.

There is always someone out there to catch our eyes and interests. There is always something that another person does which we can use as justification to do what we want to do. That doesnt make it right or moral. I mean, if you tell your husband no a couple of times, he could use that as justification in his mind to cheat on you, but it would still be wrong of him and you would still call him a cheater, right?

Answer 5

Many people here are telling you to talk to him and this is the truth. Without communication forget saving your marriage. However, keeping even a good marriage together can be a lot of hard work, soul searching and compromising. Ask yourself if you're up for it?

Answer 6

first of all, relax.

relationships ebb and flow, sometimes wildly. First and foremost, TALK to your husband. Express your concerns. If you can't communicate, it's already over.

Think about what you;d be losing and how you would make your husband feel if you cheated. Cheating may only feel like a torrid littl romantic fling to you, but to him, it would be a profound betrayal that would basically destroy his life.

Talk to him.

Answer 7

it sounds like you need to talk to your hubby and get things back on track. you are just basically lusting after the other guy. relationships that result from affairs rarely last.

Answer 8

A GOOD SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP IS BASED ON HONESTY AND COMMUNICATION. SO TALK TO UR HUSBAND! TELL HIM ABOUT UR CONCERNS. BUT REMEMBER, IF U DON'T DO THINGS TO KEEP THE LOVE AND PASSION IN UR MARRIAGE ALIVE- IT GOES OUT!!! IT'S NORMAL TO SEE THOSE THINGS ELSE WHERE. BUT IF U WANT TO KEEP UR MARRIAGE, FIGHT FOR IT AND TRY TO REMEMBER ALL THE OTHER GOOD QUALITIES UR HUSBAND HAS. HOW LOVING HE IS, HOW CARING.

Answer 9

listen to your heart hunni. it the one thing that never lies.

but plz be honest with your hubby. its only right.

then do what u fill u need to do but make sure u right the right choice ok.
be happy and never look bk!!!!!

xxxxxx

Answer 10

Does the base have counseling services you could take advantage of? If you could, go by yourself, and then eventually maybe couples counseling if needed.