Does anyone feel they don't fit in - like everywhere they go they feel an outsider?

Answer 1

Sweetie you do fit in! You have your place. Bet there are loads of people whom you have touched in a positive way and you don't even realise your impact upon them. Remember those people who make you feel awkward, insignificant, unimportant, they have issues with themselves and are just trying to drag you down to their level to make themselves feels better. Don't let them. This is the only power they have. Be open to new experiences, have a positive outlook. Smile and the world smiles with you. Frown and you frown alone. People are attracted to positive people. Set yourself a challenge smile and say hello to a stranger, give someone a compliment, laugh every day you will be amazed at how people respond to you. Good luck xxx

Answer 2

Being a single Dad who devotes all is energy to the upbringing of his sons I feel very intimidated by women especially who just stare at you it feels terrible it makes you wonder what they see in you or have heard about you. They offer no support and for men its harder because you don't fit the norm in school playgrounds you try and be polite and courteous but it is ignored and then I stew inside I could say loads more but fitting in is also about other peoples fears and so we have to take that into account. You could do what i do lol I go up to them and say hello everything OK it works because next time they will not ignore you try it from the biggest introvert on the planet and somewhere we have to fit although I'm still looking take care

Answer 3

Yes I do.

I'm not run of the mill, the friends I have don't get me, so I wouldn't class them as real friends. My work collegues think I'm posh because I don't live on a council estate and talk properly.

All in all I know I'm a good person, I am a fantastic friend to have (I just don't have fantastic friends), but until I meet someone who i have something in common with I'll probably always be this way.

Cheer up about it, it's not the end of the world to not have a fantastic social life. Try helping others rather than worrying all the time. You'll feel better about yourself.

Answer 4

We feel that we don't fit in because we are different. I've known this for many years. I can't tell you how or why we are different but we are. We look the same on the outside but there is something going on in the inside that's not the same. We can pick up on it and so can others. We can also spot others that don't fit in.

Answer 5

I feel like that all the time because when i got marreid to my hubby he had already been marreid and had 3 teenages and 1 eight year old that moved in with us i felt like i didn't belong and to make things worse I was having a baby that where twins! and i still feel like i am an out sider

Answer 6

Yeah. I've moved a lot and have hard times making friends. The rest of the people in my current group have known each other since 6th grade and I feel left out all the time.

Answer 7

Yes, I'm an older mother and not English. A bit overweight. And reasonably religious. I don't drink much, don't do drugs, am married to the same husband for 17 years. Don't swear (much), don't shout and scream. I know I don't fit in! It doesn't bother me too much - I just get on with it.

Answer 8

feeling like an outsider and being treated like an outsider are quite different, if you just feel like an outsider then its lack of confidence and a little bit of paranoia, whereas being treated like an outsider comes from the people taking an immediate dislike to you.

Answer 9

Yep I feel like that alot which is why I spend most of my time at home .... I hate going to places where there are alot of people, I don't even really like going into the school yard to pick my daughter up from school.

Answer 10

Yes alot. I always feel nervous and am unsure what to say as am scared i say the wrong thing or feel whatever i talk about is of no interest to them. I hate going anywhere on my own as i always feel people are staring and laughing at me.