we have been married for two years and have got one child,ever since i had my child my husband he has been acting weard, we don't talk any more as well as sex it's not the same,all we do it's arguing all the time sometimes he tells me world that makes me think why is he telling me this?he says i don't fell like having sex at all, i like speding time with your sister she is more fun,that's makes me fell so low.when we met fo the first time after few months i got pregnant and he said because he was no ready i should have abortion, i did it and it was very painfull,so just last week we had an argument and i sked him i love u i have done everything for u even abortion and he told me i didn't send u to get an abortion. that was it i think he doesn't love me any more and i asked him to move out because we have been figting each other and i dont want to bring up my son in that kind of lifestyle.am not perfect av'e got my mistakes as well but i have gone through so much with this man,
2006-10-10 23:14:11 · 11 answers · asked by Nancyee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ya gotta do what ya gotta do... but make sure you've exhausted all of your options (like counseling) so when that baby grows up and asks, you can say you tried EVERYTHING and it just didn't work out w/his daddy! Good Luck!
2006-10-10 23:18:00 · answer #1 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done the right thing here. It is an extremely unhealthy environment for both you and your child. Marriage is to be celebrated, not a reason for living together. Children learn from their parents and an atmosphere which is full of hate and raised voices will have an effect on your child. We all have made mistakes, but we are forgiven for these. When the initial pain of separation has passed, you will be more happy with yourself and your life.
2006-10-10 23:22:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Nancy:
First of all please let me introduce my self,
My name is Mohamed, i am only 19 and i am from Egypt.
Your Question is so hard to be answered
because i ought to know you both so well to make a right answer for this situation.
Honestly, i do not know what to say.
but there is some thing you have to think about night & day
Your Child......
try to create an atmosphere fulled of love to your child.
you have to imagine what will happen to him if you left him as his damn father did ?
ask your self this question every time you feel desperate, and you will find an internal motivation makes you do the right to your child.
and about your husband, you are the only woman that can make the right decision about this marriage.
And about Sex, please GET BUSY.
i know that sex is one of our basic daily actions, but we can limit these desires by going to the Church.
Take your Child Tomorrow morning and go to the Church.
light a candle, make your Child do the same.
and ask your god for Strenth....
Please when you do what i asked you to, e-mail me at :
mysoul_4sara@yahoo.com
i need to make sure that you are feeling good.
and be sure that we are friends from now in the whole community of Yahoo answers.
God be with you Nancy.
Bye .....
2006-10-10 23:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by Faith Of Love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes honey it is way time to part your ways,,he sounds very selfish himself,not a good enviornment to raise a child in. you are not selfish you are concerned,,that is totally different. now that you are split-up you need to go down to legal aid or talk to an attorney about custody of your child,,as long as there are no custody papers set you both legally will have equal custody and if your ex picks the child up from a sitter or daycare or anywhere you leave him ,,you cannot do anything about it,,,get custody set now and yes it will involve going to court,,but it will all be worth it for your child.
2006-10-11 01:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, no one else is there to really know what's going on except you and him. But from what you said you aren't being selfish. Heck, I would drop my boyfriend cold if he asked me to get an abortion. That's your body and you shouldn't have to do something like that for anyone. If you don't feel loved with him then it's best you go your seperate ways. Good luck.
2006-10-10 23:21:31 · answer #5 · answered by Belly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have gone through alot with this man.You are not being selfish.I think you are still grieving.It sounds like he is not ready to step up to the plate and be a dad. Leave him if you are miserabe. One happy parent is better than two bickering ones in a loveless marriage. Sorry.
2006-10-10 23:21:12 · answer #6 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what changed after you had your son? is he jealous of the attention that your son is getting and he is not. children change a relationship. do you guys have a date night for just the two of you. maybe counseling is needed but don't just give up a child needs both of you work it out. ask questions of your husband
2006-10-11 04:33:36 · answer #7 · answered by shawn w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
under the circumstances best thing create a distance and give it some time and then maybe give a chance to being together again not for each other but for kids sake as kids need bth for a healthy enviornment............bt one thing for sure never compromise on what u think is rite ........dont do anything now to please sbdy or on sbdys whim or fancy do it for urself and more imp for ur kid
take care wounds heal maybe u will find sbdy and u will love again
2006-10-10 23:21:32 · answer #8 · answered by morpheusthe dream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if all women were like this we may have more men respecting us did nothing wrong but took care of your heart when it is hurting to so you got rid of the pain know it's time for the medicine which is getting your mind right my prayers are with you.
2006-10-10 23:20:26 · answer #9 · answered by layn22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it sounds like it is time for you and him to go your own seperate ways, sorry things just don't always work out the way we want them to
2006-10-10 23:19:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋