I'm divorced and have 3 kids.I found the love of my life 5 years ago,and even though he is struggling to do so,he is willing to raize my boys.Since my ex is an asshole (not paying maintenance or putting any effort in to see my kids)my b wants me to keep the kids away from their father.He wants to father my children completely or not at all.Even thouh I hate my ex,my kids knows nothing about this.What will I tell them?What do I do?
2006-10-10 23:01:08 · 6 answers · asked by dive_elly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
tuff one there first of all how old are your boys the reason i ask because i divorced and my new husband raised my boys. if you did that would he carry you to court to get to see them . i don't think he should put you on the spot like that because the boys will always love their natural father and want to see him no matter what
2006-10-10 23:23:26 · answer #1 · answered by tottie512 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if i was you i would talk to your children first before you totally decide as this does concern them alot and you should put them first what ever they say good or bad you should respect their choices good luck luv hope every thing turns out right for you bye
kaz
2006-10-11 06:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by Karen J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should always be able to see their real father he should help support them, but as far as the other guy hes already trying to control you, he has to get over his jealousy or it never will work out , Your ex will always be their dad no matter what if he sees them or not. I raised 3 step children and they never payed but I didnt stop them from their dads and I didnt care, I loved them and their mother.
2006-10-11 06:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by a1_friend64 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are really serious about your second , sit and chat with them alone ,one by one and explain them the real fact of life and fate . They will respect you for this and will love to be with you and support you in future . Good luck .
2006-10-11 06:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot take their father from them. As a parent, you should be doing everything you can to keep that relationship going. I would wait a bit before you yank the rug out from under him and give them a new daddy.
2006-10-11 06:06:30 · answer #5 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
since you are divorced, its your choice to find someone that will make you happy and your kids. with regards to your kids, tell them honestly of the situation, im sure they'll understand.
2006-10-11 06:33:36 · answer #6 · answered by Rogel D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋