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My wife and I have had a long marriage. When we were younger my wife was very passionate and we had a very good sex life. At the same time we had frequent conflicts and were often on the verge of seperating. Although I guess I must take some responsibiltiy for these fights, I really believe most of them were instigated by my wife. She would fly in a rage without warning at the least excuse. She was constantly critical of me and our two children. When she was not doing this she was often moody and withdrawn. Before and during the time she went through menopause, her sex drive steadily diminished to a point where she now has very little interest in sex for her own enjoyment, although she still engages in sexual activity for my sake. The odd thing was that as her desire for sex declined. Her moods and behaviour improved proportionally. We now have a very peaceful and happy relationship and seldom fight over anything. She is loving and will now laugh off small annoyances that once would ha

2006-10-10 22:51:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

ve seen her sulk for days. This has made our relationship stronger although I very much miss our sex life. Is it possible to have a passionate love life with someone and still be friendly and relaxed all the time or do we never get the best of both worlds?

2006-10-10 22:53:59 · update #1

Lucianna, Your first response was more on the money. I don't want to have an affair.

2006-10-10 23:12:09 · update #2

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You and I have kinda the same problem. But, on my side, it's my husband that has the problem. He's always too tired from work. Which I understand. Now, let's get to your problem. I think that you should talk to your wife about your problem. Wait for the right time to have your "sessions." Maybe you could take her out for a romantic dinner and when you get home, try to be sweet and see what happens from there. When you do have sex, try and do something exciting. Something that she won't expect. Sometimes, when having sex and the same thing happens everytime, the excitement is gone because she knows what to expect already. Try buying a book on how to make sex more exciting and see what happens from there.

2006-10-10 23:46:11 · answer #1 · answered by bsantos0523 2 · 1 0

i would suggest you seek some counseling with your wife. Suggest a little get away just the two of you to maybe reconnect. If you are close to PA, let me suggest the caesers pocono resorts. good luck

2006-10-11 06:03:23 · answer #2 · answered by kelsey 5 · 1 0

Maybe someone is a tad bit bipolar?? You do know that there are meds out there now that will help with mood swings. You might suggest that she see her doctor and that he might be able to assist with that.

2006-10-11 06:04:35 · answer #3 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 1 0

Not sure I understand this right. You want to have some one on the side and keep your wife too?

2006-10-11 06:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 1 0

Yes it is possible to have a nice time again with new face and friend

2006-10-11 05:59:28 · answer #5 · answered by your noon 5 · 0 0

Hormone changes I guess.

2006-10-11 05:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by LHP 2 · 2 0

Prostitutes exist for a reason, my friend.

2006-10-11 06:01:22 · answer #7 · answered by tgypoi 5 · 0 0

that is a very common married life you just chronicled my friend.

2006-10-11 05:53:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

both of you need a councelling.

2006-10-11 06:07:51 · answer #9 · answered by PRIYA M 1 · 0 0

And your problem is?

2006-10-11 05:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by phishmelon 2 · 0 1

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