my wife was seeing her ex boyfriend (whom took her virginity) and decided she no longer wanted to be with me feeling she could be happier with him. Well she had an affair with him and may be possibly pregnant and have an STD now. She came to me the day after and told me. She still loves me but is also confused and saying she loves him. Been 5 days now out of them she has stayed with me but has also talked to him. We have not had sex since that happened b/c i am clean and in order to have sex possibly infect myself. We have been together for over 5 years. I love her and feel i can be with her but yet i would have to accept the STD and the baby cause she doesnt believe in abortion. My questions are should i leave for her still having feelings for him after being with him and still unsure as to who to be with and to be sure she will not go to him later on if i decide to stay with her b/c then i will the STD which will make it harder to move on with someone new?
2006-10-10 22:47:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
8 months and she cheats on you??? Where is your self respect?? Leave her because as long as you are with her you will keep thinking what she is doing when not with you. good luck
2006-10-10 23:07:56 · answer #1 · answered by kelsey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to be with someone you can not trust? Not only is she carrying someone else`s child, this man will always be a part of your lives because they will have a child together. She goes and does her thing with Mr. Wrong, and then comes back to you because she knows you will let her. The fact this loser has possibly infected her with an STD, is something you will contact unless you always use as condom, since this STD sounds like genital herpes. What you do not realize is that if you contact genital herpes, you will have flareups the rest of your life. It is very painful, giving you flu like symtoms, low grade fever, and very painful blisters in the genital area. My ex-husband gave it to me almost 25 years ago, and I still have outbreaks. I got a divorce, and it was the best thing I ever did for myself. If you contact the STD, you will always have the burden of telling the other person you become involved with before you have sex that you have an STD. Believe me, they do not want to hear that, unless you have met someone who also has it. Get away from her as fast as you can, as she is nothing and never will be anything but trouble for you. You can not change her by loving her. Get counseling to help you to get on with your life and give yourself time to find yourself a nice person who will love you as much as you love her.
2006-10-11 04:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look consider this a lesson learned, cut your losses and leave file for divorce and mention to your attorney about the cheating and std this way he can ask for a paternity test after the baby is born before the judge just sets child support. if she came to you the next day and told you but at the same time she is still talking to him she isn't feeling that guilty she just cleared her concience and seeing how you didn't leave her she feels more comfortable,,more than likely if she is pregnant she will end up leaving you to be with who she thinks to be the father,,this can be good in a way let them share the std together. it will be very hard, but you will move on and find happiness just don't have sympathy for her when she had none for you find someone who has more respect for you and your marriage and what you mean together.
2006-10-11 01:46:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anyone caught between two choices cannot just make it because someone wants answers,,the best thing would be for you to let her go and see if she comes back,,take your cards off of the table so to speak,,fliting between the two of you wont help her,she would be better off staying away from you both so she can decide without having you both around rushing for an answer,,it may be that she thinks she has to choose one of you but given the chance to get her head clear,she may in fact choose neither,,leave her be,,you dont need to have your confidence knocked or worse,,find out she has been with you both again using this 'choice' as an excuse,,it is not one,,if she wants you after you are no longer there and she has decided he isnt the one for her,all the better but you do have a say in all this and if she is the girl you describe,,she may not really be the one for you.
2006-10-11 00:22:33 · answer #4 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave now. She does not love you. She chose to slep with the other man because she does not love you. No matter what she says, and she will tell you that she loves you and wants to make it work later on so that she can have you and keep her single life. That is what it boils down to - she wants to be single and that is it. Leave her and find someone else that will love you totally. Love means being faithful and totally committed to your partner. Sorry for your pain, but as soon as you leave her the sooner the pain will end and happiness can begin again for oyu.
2006-10-10 23:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by ACE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still love her..? Do you deserve what she did?..Where's your dignity??...Come on man... You deserve better..N how can a women be so low to be having sex with another man when she's married..
She all the wrongs in your life..Leave her...Plz do..i know it's hard but you just don't deserve her... Leave b4 you have to suffer
2006-10-10 22:58:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason most people are not answering is because your story is too long, but from what i read on top, you should leave her
2006-10-10 23:01:20 · answer #7 · answered by ntu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
william keith mahler. tabitha ann montoya. on your honeymoon you can play connect the warts on eachothers crotches!
2016-10-24 22:39:05 · answer #8 · answered by Jason 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude don't be a p****y and move on. This chick is no good for you.
2006-10-10 23:16:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHES A SLUT YOU CAN DO BETTER
2006-10-11 20:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by ncmedicgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋