My bf of 3 months ended a relationship almost a year ago with a girl who cheated on him. they were together for nearly 3 years. The girl realized her mistake and asked him back to no avail. Recently, when my bf and I were a month old, his ex called him again to inquire if he already has a girlfriend and found out that he has one already toher disappoitnment. The following month her mom (a flight stewardess) called my bf and asked him to get back together with her daughter. My bf is fond of his ex's mom (because she's a very pretty mom) but he told her that he's already happy with his newfound relationship. She did not mention it anymore but keeps contacting him. Once, she asked to meet for lunch. I objected to it. He said he did not meet up with her but I dont really know. Now she wants to meet again ehen she comes back for Xmas. She called once to get him to talk to their kid brother. I dont feel this is right. How can I get this "scheming" woman to stop?
2006-10-10 22:46:14 · 17 answers · asked by lovestruck 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can't. Your boyfriend may be able to. This has passed the point of politeness, and he needs to tell her not to contact him. In these days with caller id, there is no reason for him to answer when she calls. Eventually, if she is sane, she'll get the message. Good luck!
2006-10-10 22:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by Jenyfer C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is she scheming? I'm not so sure. When people split up it can leave a big hole in a family - especially after three years. Maybe your boyfriend had been like a big brother to the kid brother and the mum would like that to continue.
She's not talking about your relationship with him and not trying to persuade him to go out with the daughter again, she just doesn't want to lose a positive role model for her son. You should be proud of your boyfriend.
I have a freind who became god mother to her boyfriend's neice. When they split up she has maintianed such a good relationship with the family that they have recently invited her and her new partner ski-ing with them. This is about having adult relationships and realising that they bring responsibilities with them too.
2006-10-11 00:22:54 · answer #2 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm ... I think your bf's scheming ex will resort to anything just to win him back. I think the reason why the mom is adamant to meet up with him is because her daughter wants her to convince him to give their relationship another try....after all, she knows her ex is fond of her Mom so she thinks, He won't be able to say No to her....Maybe the mom sees how distraught her daughter is after the breakup that she decided to meddle. I'm glad that you're bf is sane enough not to accept his ex's mom's invite.... He truly respects your feelings Girl!! He knows it will hurt you so he just ignores 'em. I don't think the mom will stop until her daughter gets over your bf. Please don't call her...this would make matters worse. Seems to me that your bf is doing the right thing....keep your cool, it will wear off.
2006-10-10 23:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by zac8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AInt much you can do but if you explain how much this is affecting you maybe your boyfriend can.
They are totally wrong to be contacting him - it sounds like its bordering on harrassment! Your boyfriend needs to make a decision - either you or them. His ex is an ex for a reason and her mother sounds totally immature. Tell him you cant live under pressure and worry like this and you want him to get rid of this family once and for all and you want to be there when he does.
If he doesnt then Id leave him. Good luck xx
2006-10-10 22:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you agree to the next meeting, and show up yourself. Let the witch know that you're here to stay and you're not gonna take the c r a p she's dolling out on you.
Good Luck... I Hate Mothers (except my own of course - lol)
2006-10-10 23:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by Bodieann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 21:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let them meet up. But make sure he takes you ....
Be friendly and polite and whatever you do, don't drink. Exchange loving glances with your b/f and during the conversation say things like: "What do you think of the name "Leonard" or "Sophie"? And pat your tummy at the same time. Smile sweetly.
And talk about the engagement you're planning.
2006-10-11 00:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scheme back. Make her look like a loner who has nothing better to do with her time than to pursue her daughter's ex-boyfriend. Preferably in front of a large crowd, then she'll back off.
2006-10-10 22:51:35 · answer #8 · answered by tgypoi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm afraid u cant, your b/f can tho, u need to talk to him about how u feel about the whole thing, and let him decide on what to do, if he is happy with his newfound relationship, he will stand on ur ground, and have no contact with this women and family...
2006-10-10 22:58:06 · answer #9 · answered by storm.minx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop her as she is a protective mother and doing her best to see her daughter happy again . Now you must try to find another real independent & unattached single to be you future happiness .
2006-10-10 22:51:51 · answer #10 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋