2006-10-10 22:38:38 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
you don't need another one. Having a child will not replace the baby you lost. Get yourself into counselling and sort your mind out before you go making a huge massive decision like this one.
2006-10-10 22:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by tay_jen1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen both of you yeah-you are breaking the law by having sexual relations at your age,it is called RAPE,your b/f is in fact RAPING you,DO YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT I'M SAYING HERE?I read and replied to your previous post and thought you were a bit of a twonk then and decided to go easy on you,but NOW-i think you are selfish,and not a little immature,and totaly unreasonable about this whole matter,and not a twonk,but a couple of planks.A baby is not a plaything you know,not something you can pick up/put down when YOU feel like it-baby's need constant attention,247/365-i really do not think you can give a baby this constant attention it needs-please,bin this idea and the rapist...now.
2006-10-11 06:21:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
read everyones comments on your last question you silly little girl. YOU ARE TOO YOUNG AND IMMATURE.
'but I want one now' is the exact thing I would expect a child like you to say. You want it now, but trust me, its not fun at 15. its hard work.
you shouldnt even be having sex at your age, your boyfriend is breaking the law.
Grow up and enjoy your own life before trying to ruin a baby's. How would you provide for it? Benefits? Whoop de doo, another teen mum scrounging off the state.
finish your education, both of you get jobs and a place to live in which you can bring up child, and think about it then.
2006-10-11 05:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by lozzielaws 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should wait till your older!! I had my baby when i was 15 and it aint easy at all! I ended up being a single mum, and life wasn't easy! Having a child of your own is hard work. I see some old school friends of mine now, driving in their own car, going out whenever they want and having fun with their friends. I can't do that, for 1 because i have a child to look after and 2 because i can't afford it! Don't ruin your life being tied down so young. I love my little boy to bits and wouldn't be without him, but speaking from experience, wait till you have lived your life. Have fun and please don't start a family so young!! Go out and enjoy yourself till your old enough, financially ready, and in a really stable relationship before you make such a big decision. You only get one childhood. Enjoy it!!
2006-10-11 14:23:46 · answer #4 · answered by laura2804uk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're talking about making adult decisions, so I'm going to try talking to you about this as if you were already an adult.
You've said that you're 15 years old. How old is your boyfriend?
When you say you "lost one" do you mean you had a miscarriage? If so, I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm sure that you loved your baby-to-be and that it was difficult to go through that. You may WANT another baby, but you don't NEED one. And even if you do have another baby with your boyfriend, it won't make up for the baby you lost or repair that hurt for you. You'll probably always have a spot in your heart that hurts from what you lost.
Let's think logically about what you're hoping for here and talk seriously about the potential challenges you might face.
A baby is not only a huge responsibility, it is a huge expense. Do either of you have a job so that you can pay for prenatal care, the birth, clothes and diapers for the baby, baby's healthcare post-partum, etc?
What would happen to the baby while you are at school? Who would care for it? Would you have to pay for daycare on top of everything else? Dropping out of school isn't an option here. You NEED an education so that you can better your life and provide for your child. It's hard enough to get a job these days without a college diploma, let alone not finishing high school.
If you are going to be a parent, you need to be a parent in every way.....not just in name and in love for the child. You need to be able to pay for the expenses and have the actual time to spend with the child being the parent.
How serious is your relationship with this guy? Do you honestly see it lasting the rest of your life and the three of you as a family? Where would you be living, realisticly? And what does HE think of having a baby?
I assume if you were a mom, you'd want the best for your child. Breastfeeding is far healthier for your baby than formula feeding. How would you manage to juggle breastfeeding, pumping and school? What if your breasts started leaking at school because you couldn't pump sometime?
What about all the things that you might miss out on if you were a parent? You'd lose out on being young and having fun being a teenager if you tried to force yourself into early adulthood by becoming a mom. You'd miss out on parties and hanging out after school and staying out late. Being involved in activities like sports, cheerleading, drama, band, clubs, etc. might be very difficult because it would take time away from being with your child....who would need his mom with him. How would you handle balancing homework with babycare if he was sick or fussy?
Keep in mind, we are not talking about a cute little baby doll to dress up and play with. It's a real baby. Being a mom isn't all kisses and cuddles. Your baby will keep you up all night with little sleep in the early months. It will pee and poop and puke on you. It will get sick and cry and want only you. It will go through teething and cry from pain or want to chew on you. It will create tons of laundry and expenses. It will be completely dependent on you for everything. It may cry some days and you won't know why or be able to get it to stop crying. It will turn into a stubborn toddler who has tantrums in public.
Honestly, you'll be better prepared to be a parent when you are a little older and out of school and have seen more of the world. You'll be able to be a mother in every sense of the word when you are older. I wonder, when a girl as young as you starts talking about having babies, is there something missing in her life that she hopes to fill with the unconditional love of a child?
2006-10-11 10:20:30 · answer #5 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
didnt you watch 'britains youngest mums and dads' on itv last night. its not easy having kids any mother will tell you that no matter what their age. you need to really think about what you are doing, its not just you life you are going to ruin, but your boyfriends too. you are way too young, finish your schooling first and get a career and some stability before you go bringing a baby in to the world.
2006-10-11 06:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by The Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are referring to a child that you want to replace another you have lost, what you need to do is realize that one life can not replace another. You should also seek counseling, then pursue possibly having another child.
2006-10-11 05:49:19 · answer #7 · answered by abra_got_personality 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
firstly you should greive for the baby you lost but all youv talked about is what you "need" and that you need it now! Maybe you should think about what your baby needs like emotionally stable parents
2006-10-11 05:53:18 · answer #8 · answered by rainbow b 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Read the answers to your previous question and pay attention, your already showing how immature you are by throwing in the line i want one now!!
2006-10-11 05:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to calm down and look for a better person and good partner that will stay with you for ever.
2006-10-11 06:00:15 · answer #10 · answered by Oluwafemi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋