Last nite my partner and I were talking about going out clubbing/dancing which he doesn't like and we haven't done for a long time. We are both 39. He then said to me "Why don't you go with your girlfriends, see if you can still "pull". I said "What do you mean by that, do you not think I could"? He said "No, I don't think you could".
That left me feeling really good about myself NOT!
What do you think and how would you feel?
2006-10-10 22:37:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think that he may be possibly insecure about his ability to "pull". I wouldn't let it get to you. He most likely wants you to feel as if you cannot so that you won't.
2006-10-10 22:44:38 · answer #1 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel pretty flat ! I think its a horrible thing to say to someone...especially your partner.
If you did go out and 'pull'...how would he feel then ?
It sounds like a put down, and a very controlling thing to say. It sounds like he is putting you down to make himself feel better, but showing no consideration for the way you feel.
So, arrange a night with the girls, get yourself all dressed up and looking a million dollars, tease him a little before you go out and stay out ...late !! When you get back, you tell him as little as possible and let his mind overload for a while. Find out who he really is. If he gets jealous or feels you have been disloyal, you have proved your point.
Alternatively, and this may seem harsh, find someone who finds you attractive and does think you can 'pull', after all, you deserve to be respected !
2006-10-11 05:42:39 · answer #2 · answered by Wee Eck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, he sounds like he was having a seriously bad personality moment. Does he often say things like this? You may need to re-evaluate things and move on.
2006-10-11 05:40:12 · answer #3 · answered by Jenyfer C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't think your good enough for anyone else, why is he still with you?
It's always better to read more into people's actions rather than their words.
2006-10-11 05:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by tgypoi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you go and have yourself a freaky time and forget that tired fool. He doesn't know what he is missing.
2006-10-11 05:41:35 · answer #5 · answered by phishmelon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah you can. You can do whatever you want so long as you are having fun. You're gonna be as sexy as you want and be proud of who you are!
2006-10-11 05:40:10 · answer #6 · answered by Kiss_Kris_xo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋